08/12/2025
This one goes out to the families mediator, the caretaker, the organiser, the one who held everyone together long before she ever should have.
A parentified daughter is a child who steps into adult roles too soon. She becomes the one who supports, guides, and cares for others instead of being cared for herself.
She grows capable, empathetic, mature, responsible…but these strengths often came from pressure/obligation, not choice.
And with that comes the weight: feeling responsible for everyone, struggling to set boundaries, finding it hard to ask for help, and carrying the belief that she has to hold everything together for everyone else in order for things to be okay.
What de burdens the parentified daughter? It’s simple: rest, steadiness, support that doesn’t need to be earned, and permission to have needs of her own.
It looks like learning to say no without guilt, letting others take responsibility for their own emotions, receiving help, and slowly unlearning the urgency to fix everything. It’s moving from over-functioning to balance and knowing it was never all hers to hold.
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