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📍 South Australian psychotherapist working with individuals, families & children
📚 Advanced certified schema therapist, healing the origins of your schemas
👁️ EMDR therapist helping you process trauma
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The Confidence Code: Back yourself 💛Do you truly feel confident in who you are? The Confidence Wellbeing Code is about t...
16/04/2026

The Confidence Code: Back yourself 💛

Do you truly feel confident in who you are? The Confidence Wellbeing Code is about trusting your abilities, honouring your needs, and having the courage to show up fully in the world — even when it feels uncomfortable.

When this code isn’t activated, doubt takes over. We might:
❌ Second-guess our decisions
❌ Stay quiet instead of speaking our truth
❌ Shrink ourselves to fit in or avoid conflict
❌ Rely on others to lead or validate us

Without confidence, it’s easy to feel small, dependent, or powerless. When we activate confidence, we gain access to courage and become more willing to face challenges, navigate differences, and express ourselves honestly in our relationships and in the world.

What blocks confidence? 🧠
Early schemas can keep us stuck in patterns of self-doubt. But when we begin to shift these, we create new pathways for confidence to grow.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)


EMDR isn’t about reliving everything all over again. 👇It’s more like this: a part of you can notice what happened, while...
12/04/2026

EMDR isn’t about reliving everything all over again. 👇

It’s more like this: a part of you can notice what happened, while another part of you stays in the present, knowing you’re safe.

That 'both at once' feeling — one foot in the past, one in the present — is what helps the memory start to shift.

With guided eye movements (like following two fingers side to side), we engage your working memory, allowing the memory's intensity to soften as your brain integrates it into long-term memory in a new, less distressing way.

That way, you can work through the memory safely, at your own pace.

Learn more about my EMDR Therapy service: https://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/services-emdr-therapy/

When a child’s needs aren’t met, they don’t simply grow out of it — they learn how to adapt in ways that help them stay ...
07/04/2026

When a child’s needs aren’t met, they don’t simply grow out of it — they learn how to adapt in ways that help them stay connected and safe in the moment. 🧠

That might look like becoming quieter, more independent, less expressive, or more attuned to everyone else in the room. Over time, these ways of coping can become deeply ingrained, not because something is wrong, but because they once worked. 💔

Later on, those same patterns can start to feel restrictive or exhausting, especially in relationships or moments that call for something different.

Understanding this isn’t about placing blame, but about making sense of how those patterns formed and why they’ve stuck around. ✨

From there, the work becomes less about 'fixing' yourself and more about gently building new ways of responding that feel safer, more flexible, and more aligned with who you are now. 🌿

31/03/2026

The mind can be convincing, but not always right. 👎🏼

When I signed up for a sourdough bread-making course, my thoughts sounded like:
❌ ‘You’re not a baker.’
❌ ‘It’s an art—you’re not creative enough.’
❌ ‘You don’t have time.’
❌ ‘You don’t have the right tools.’

These are what we call schemas—deep, automatic thinking patterns shaped over time. And yes, even with years of training, they can still show up for me too.

The difference is in how I respond. Instead of listening, I challenged them:
✅ ‘It’s just flour—start again.’
✅ ‘Skills come with time.’
✅ ‘Everyone starts somewhere.’

And look at the finished result! 🎥

That shift matters. Because for many people, these thinking patterns don’t just stop you from baking bread, they stop you from trying, growing, and showing up in your own life. They keep the ‘I’m missing out’ story going.

Schema Therapy helps you recognise those internal blocks and strengthen a more compassionate, grounded voice—so your thoughts don’t get the final say.

And sometimes… that leads to something you’re really proud of. ❤️

𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗶𝘁.So many people come into my EMDR Therapy sessions saying, 'I’ve alr...
29/03/2026

𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗶𝘁.

So many people come into my EMDR Therapy sessions saying, 'I’ve already talked about this.' And they have—because talk therapy can be incredibly valuable for insight, awareness, and making sense of your story.

But trauma isn’t just a story. It lives in the nervous system. You can 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 you’re safe, and still feel like you’re not.

That’s where EMDR is different.

It doesn’t just revisit the memory—it helps your brain reprocess it, so it no longer feels like it’s happening right now. The memory stays, but the emotional charge shifts.

And that’s often when people say: 'I remember it… but it doesn’t feel the same anymore.' 🙌

At Melissa Howie Consulting, we use EMDR Therapy to help process unresolved experiences—so the past stops running the present. Learn more: https://bit.ly/48kverH

08/03/2026

A great opportunity to chat about my EMDR & Schema Therapy services in the amazing space at the Good Hub. 😍

Learn more about my certified services that aim to address trauma! 👇

Self-respect sounds like this. 🙌👉 Not people-pleasing.👉 Not shrinking to keep the peace.👉 Not over-explaining your needs...
06/03/2026

Self-respect sounds like this. 🙌

👉 Not people-pleasing.
👉 Not shrinking to keep the peace.
👉 Not over-explaining your needs.

Just honest, grounded communication that protects your energy and your wellbeing.

Read through these and notice which one feels hardest to say. That’s usually where the work begins.

What first responders face every day can leave a mark deep in the brain. 🚨You train to run toward danger... but no one t...
03/03/2026

What first responders face every day can leave a mark deep in the brain. 🚨

You train to run toward danger... but no one trains you for what happens to your nervous system after years of doing it.

Over time, repeated exposure to crisis can impact cortisol levels, emotional regulation, and even your sense of identity. Many first responders quietly struggle with moral injury, burnout, or the pressure to stay strong no matter the cost.

But you don’t have to push through it alone. Early support makes a difference. Understanding how operational stress affects the brain and body is the first step toward protecting your long-term wellbeing — on the job and beyond. 🤝

If you’re a first responder wanting practical, evidence-based support, visit our First Responders page to learn how we can help👉 https://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/first-responders-treatment/

Anyone with a vulnerability to harm/illness schema often carries an inner belief that:❌ something bad is about to happen...
21/02/2026

Anyone with a vulnerability to harm/illness schema often carries an inner belief that:
❌ something bad is about to happen
❌ the world is unsafe and danger is everywhere
❌ they won’t be able to cope if a crisis occurs

This constant sense of impending threat can lead to chronic worry, hypervigilance, and feeling on edge. 😣 Even when things are going well, they may struggle to relax—always waiting for the next disaster, illness, accident, or worst-case scenario.

The roots often lie in early experiences of instability, trauma, illness in the family, overprotective parenting, or witnessing frightening events—where a child learned that the world is unpredictable and unsafe. Over time, the message becomes: "I’m not safe, and something terrible could happen at any moment.”

Recognising this schema is the first step towards change. Through Schema Therapy—and with tools like EMDR Therapy—individuals can begin to build a sense of safety and strengthen trust in their ability to cope. ✨

"You are safer than your mind tells you."

~ Adapted from the principles of Schema Therapy developed by Dr Jeffrey Young.

That sinking feeling of 'not enough' doesn’t appear out of nowhere... 💔It often begins when core emotional needs weren’t...
10/02/2026

That sinking feeling of 'not enough' doesn’t appear out of nowhere... 💔

It often begins when core emotional needs weren’t fully met early on in childhood. From there, schemas form — deep beliefs about yourself and the world — shaping how you make sense of experiences. 😕

You learn to cope, sometimes by avoiding or pushing through difficult feelings. But as life unfolds, certain situations can activate these schemas, triggering automatic responses.

Awareness helps you to recognise when old schemas and coping patterns are being activated. By seeking support, you can learn to practise new ways of meeting your emotional needs. 🙌

Learn more about my schema therapy services: https://bit.ly/3W2NqDR

Belonging is at the heart of meaningful connection ✨Belonging is all about feeling welcome, wanted, and valued in a grou...
05/02/2026

Belonging is at the heart of meaningful connection ✨

Belonging is all about feeling welcome, wanted, and valued in a group — whether it’s friends, colleagues, or a community that shares your values and life path. When we lack belonging, we can feel isolated or disconnected, not just from others, but from ourselves. 💔

A maladaptive schema that blocks belonging is 𝗜𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, and the healing pathway is 𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴.

Cultivating belonging is empowering. It allows you to connect with a wider community and share experiences, resources, and support through life’s challenges. You learn to grow alongside others who share your journey, values, or purpose.

When you nurture belonging, something shifts:
✨ You feel seen, welcomed, and part of something bigger
✨ You gain confidence in forming and sustaining meaningful connections
✨ Your growth and wellbeing are supported by a community that values you

Claiming your right to belong is essential if we want to maintain healthy relationships, support one another, and thrive together.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)

✨ 2026, let’s see what’s up! ✨We love the idea of reflecting on the ins and outs of the year ahead — embracing all the w...
30/01/2026

✨ 2026, let’s see what’s up! ✨

We love the idea of reflecting on the ins and outs of the year ahead — embracing all the wins, lessons and surprises along the way. It gives a chance to notice what lifts us up, what weighs us down, and figure out what we want more of in our lives.

Have you got your own list of goals you'd like to share? Comment below! 👀

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Studio 7, 98-100 Goodwood Road, Goodwood
Adelaide, SA
5034

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Monday 9am - 5pm
Tuesday 10am - 6pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 10am - 6pm
Friday 7am - 3pm

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