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📍 South Australian psychotherapist working with individuals, families & children
📚 Advanced certified schema therapist, healing the origins of your schemas
👁️ EMDR therapist helping you process trauma
🫶🏼 Find your improved potential!

26/11/2025

What parents can’t heal, children inherit. 💔

When a parent shuts down, reacts strongly, or can’t connect, children internalise it as 'I’m too much.' That belief embeds deep in the body and shapes who they become.

This is how pain easily passes through generations — and it's not from a lack of love but rather from a lack of emotional tools that were never taught or learned. The result is an inheritance no one wants: the unhealed pain of one generation carried by the next. 😥

Stress, neglect, and emotional pain in childhood rewire the brain. But what’s wired can be rewired. Healing begins when one generation decides: 'It ends with me.' 💫

20/11/2025

Emotional expression is at the heart of meaningful connection ✨

Emotional expression is all about giving your feelings a voice — learning to acknowledge, process, and communicate your emotions in ways that are authentic and constructive. When we ignore, suppress, or dismiss our feelings, we can feel disconnected from ourselves; without that connection, forming healthy relationships and expressing our needs becomes challenging. 💔

A maladaptive schema that blocks emotional expression is 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻, and the healing pathway is 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻.

Learning to express and process your emotions is empowering. It allows you to stay connected to your inner experience, communicate your desires and needs clearly, and cultivate deeper, more authentic connections with others.

When you practice emotional expression, something shifts:
✨ You gain clarity about what you truly feel
✨ You respond to yourself with honesty and compassion
✨ Your relationships deepen as you share your authentic self

Claiming your ability to express your emotions is essential if we want to maintain healthy connections with ourselves, with others, and with life.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)

14/11/2025

💡 As a therapist, my role isn’t to fix your darkness or make it disappear.

I join you there, carrying a flashlight, helping you navigate the shadows and find your own way forward. Together, we explore, understand, and discover the strength that’s already inside you.

08/11/2025

Feeling overwhelmed? 😥 That’s okay.

If you’ve been holding everything together for too long, it’s normal to feel tired, stressed, or even disconnected from yourself. The best thing you can do is pause and give yourself permission to rest.

Therapy isn’t just for crises — it’s a space to explore coping strategies, manage stress, and reconnect with your inner strength. Small steps, like talking to someone or practising self-care, can make a meaningful difference.

02/11/2025

Big feelings can be hard to talk about. 💛

In Schema Therapy, sometimes the simplest tools make the biggest difference. I use creative tools to make sense of the different “modes” we shift into — those parts of ourselves that carry our emotions, defences, and unmet needs.

One simple, yet powerful, tool? 🦆 Coloured ducks.

Each duck represents a different mode — helping clients externalise what’s happening inside, recognise patterns, and respond with greater self-awareness and compassion.

🎥 Watch how it works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4PBTMIyWGc

28/10/2025

The Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model is the foundation of EMDR Therapy. 💫

The model explains that when we experience trauma, some memories can become 'stuck' — frozen in the brain with all the intense emotions, thoughts, and body sensations from the original event.

EMDR works through the AIP model to help the brain resume its natural healing process. By using bilateral stimulation (like eye movements, taps, or sounds), EMDR allows the brain to reprocess these memories so they can be stored adaptively — without the same emotional charge. 🙌

Once reprocessed, the memory is still there, but it feels neutral, and the person can remember the event without being overwhelmed by it.

Learn more about my EMDR therapy services: https://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/services-emdr-therapy/

23/10/2025

Anyone with a defectiveness/shame schema often carries an inner belief that:
❌ they are unworthy of love
❌ others would reject them if they truly knew them
❌ they must hide their flaws to be accepted

This deep-seated sense of shame can lead to withdrawing from closeness, overcompensating through people-pleasing, or constantly seeking reassurance. 💔 Even when loved, they may struggle to believe it’s genuine.

The roots often lie in early experiences of criticism, rejection, neglect, or emotional invalidation—when a child’s natural needs for acceptance and love were met instead with disapproval or shame. Over time, the message becomes: 'There’s something wrong with me.'

Recognising this schema is the first step towards change! Through Schema Therapy—and with tools like EMDR Therapy—individuals can begin to build self-acceptance and experience connection without fear of rejection.

"You are not broken. You have always been enough." ✨

~ Adapted from the principles of Schema Therapy developed by Dr Jeffrey Young.

18/10/2025

Flip the script in your mindset and move from self-criticism to self-support. 💭

It’s easy to get stuck in self-criticism, but small changes in how you talk to yourself can lead to big changes in how you feel. 💗

Why not start today?! Notice your thoughts, challenge the harsh ones, and replace them with support.

14/10/2025

Finding the right kind of support should be simple and flexible — that’s why I offer therapy in ways that suit your lifestyle.

I provide evidence-based psychotherapy for individuals, families, and children, available through two flexible modes of delivery:
1️⃣ Face-to-face sessions at my clinic within the Good Hub — a collaborative, holistic health space in Goodwood.
2️⃣ Telehealth sessions via secure video conferencing, phone, email, or online chat.

💡 Did you know? Research shows that online therapy can be just as effective as in-person sessions — it’s all about finding what helps you feel most supported and comfortable.

08/10/2025

Self-validation is at the heart of emotional freedom ✨

Self-validation is all about accepting and nurturing your own inner experience — learning to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings without judging them, analysing them, or wondering what others would think. Without self-validation, we can feel disconnected from ourselves; without that connection, responding to our emotions and needs becomes challenging. 💔

A maladaptive schema that blocks self-validation is 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗗𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, and the healing pathway is 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗩𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

Learning to validate your own feelings and needs is empowering. It allows you to stay connected to your heart, make choices aligned with your desires, and build healthier relationships with others.

When you practice self-validation, something shifts:
✨ You trust your own emotions more
✨ You respond to yourself with care and understanding
✨ Your relationships deepen as you bring your whole, authentic self

Claiming your ability to self-validate is essential if we want to maintain a healthy connection with ourselves, with others, and with life.

~ Adapted from the principles of The Wellbeing Codes by Dr Tracey Hunter (Ph.D) and Dr Rachel Wheeler (Psy.D)

01/10/2025

What is the 'inner child'? 🌱

The inner child is the part of us that carries our earliest memories, feelings, and needs. It holds both our playful and creative side, as well as the wounds from times our needs for safety, love, or acceptance weren’t met.

When we connect with others, we begin to reconnect with ourselves — and give our inner child the care they’ve always needed. 💫

Healing begins in safe relationships, where we feel seen, understood, and valued. Through connection, we can:
✨ Re-learn safety in our nervous system
✨ Nurture the child within through 'reparenting'
✨ Rewrite old patterns of fear or shame

18/09/2025

🌪️ In dysfunctional families, survival often trumps truth.

When one person’s anger, volatility, or manipulation dominates the home, the whole family bends to keep the peace. Abuse gets minimised. Accountability is avoided. And the person who dares to speak up? They’re often labelled as 'the problem'. 🙅‍♀️

Appeasement becomes the family’s coping mechanism. The abuse is enabled because it feels safer than confronting it. And while it may calm the storm in the short term, this silencing leaves deep wounds that can echo across generations.

Those who speak the truth are never the problem; their courage challenges the denial that keeps the cycle going.

If this resonates with you, recognising these dynamics is the first step toward healing. Trauma therapy practices, including EMDR Therapy, help individuals recognise these patterns for what they are, break the cycle, and reclaim their voice. 💫

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Studio 7, 98-100 Goodwood Road, Goodwood
Adelaide, SA
5034

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 5pm
Tuesday	10am - 6pm
Wednesday	9am - 5pm
Thursday	10am - 6pm
Friday	7am - 3pm

Website

http://www.melissahowieconsulting.com.au/

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