Wellbeing Assistance

14/03/2026

We all wish to have a successful life, to make at least some of our dreams come true, to know the taste of satisfaction in life, but... sometimes we realise we picked the wrong ways, the wrong methods, or the wrong destinations. The success we wished for doesn't feel like a win. What happenned?

In one way or another, we failed to understand how we defined our success. Perhaps we didn't really understand who we are and what we need. Perhaps we failed to foresee what kind of sacrifices we will need to make. Maybe something else.

To use an analogy, it's hard to build a perfect home if you haven't chosen if a city or countryside suits you better. If you care more for your own joy or appraisal of others. And where is your definition of success coming from? The intellect, the heart or both?

Would you like to find your definition?

02/03/2026

Embodied change means that we only start with an insight and then work on bringing ideas to life.

Working on your personal change with another person can assist your transformation by shedding more light onto things you may be avoiding. It will bring up emotions you may not expect. It will help you explore your situation from different perspectives. It will challenge your perception of what 'normal' is. And it will help you increase self-awareness of which skills you have mastered, and which still need work.

But the most important thing is - YOU GET TO PRACTISE the skills you need. But in a controlled, safe environment, with an empathetic person who wants your success.

And then you go 'into the wild' to live your life with more confidence and zest.

27/02/2026

Do you have a habit of checking in with yourself? Stopping for a moment to feel how things are sitting with you? Giving yourself time to see and feel where you stand before you make a decision?

It doesn't necessarily mean making only the easy, feel good choices. Actually, in embodied living if we tend to avoid discomfort, we will also ask ourselves why, explore how this resistance shows up for us, and work with it.

Acknowledging how your body/ thoughts/ emotions/ breath and energy change empowers you! Learning how to do it may take time, but it's worth it!

27/02/2026

When it's only one person behind the scenes and life happens, the real world gets a priority in my books!

I love the new chapter of my life: Motherhood and Family Life, but it also means that posting on social media might not be consistent.

I still think about people I can potentially reach and assist them in life transformation, but I also need to walk the talk. Reality check: we all are humans and face challenges. The difference is whether we are interested in getting tools that help us navigate better.

29/11/2025

Have you ever heard about a tend-and-befriend response to stress? I'm pretty sure you have heard about the flight-or-fight, but it turns out that as humans, we have another option: we can choose connection and nurture each other through challenging times.

For most people, it comes quite naturally when it's directed outwards. If our friends are in trouble, we usually offer them a helping hand, compassion, and support. We know it works, and it helps.

Similarly, directing compassion inwards towards ourselves also helps!

We can develop our self-compassion by increasing our mindfulness, acknowledging our humanity (knowing that life isn't perfect, and it's no one's fault), and practising kindness - the willingness to take care.

Self-compassion is one of the powerful tools for your wellbeing. Are you going to give it a go?

27/11/2025

Some situations may seem stressful until we realise they aren't THAT important to US. Public speaking? Most people get a stage fright. Taking an exam? Going to a job interview? You probably have your own list of things that stress you. And it's OK! In some situations a little bit of stress helps you staying focused and improves your performance.

But what if stress makes you stumble and wakes up your inner critic? This doesn't help at all!

Self-affirmations can help you find the right perspective. Yes, of course you want that public presentation to go well and the audience to enjoy, but if they aren't impressed? That's not the end of the world!

Remembering that you value yourself for other skills, that there are people who always have your back, and that you know what really matters to you will help you lower the stress response and handle the situation better!

-affirmations

26/11/2025

As a yoga teacher who works with mental health, I often hear that ego is the source of many misfortunes. I would compare this to thinking that strength is the source of violence - quite the opposite!

In fact, we can't escape the fact of having an ego. We might have different levels of attachment to it, different ways of relating to it, but as long as we are functioning in the world , we need it.

Strong ego doesn't mean disrespect for others, imposing your views, or being selfish.

Strong and healthy ego means that you know what matters to you, that you appreciate your strengths, and acknowledge your weaknesses. That you can respectfully set and defend your boundaries, and are OK with the boundaries of others. That you understand your needs and can heed the needs of others.

Self-appreciation, self-compassion, and self-esteem (and many other self-...) are powerful and lead to a more harmonious life!

We will look at them in the coming posts.

Does it resonate with you or makes you feel resistant?

29/10/2025

Do you ever feel stuck in life? I certainly do. At least from time to time, I meet an obstacle that I just wish wasn't there: my if! Many of those 'ifs' seem objective: this is just how the world is, I don't have a way or power to change it!

But there is another type of 'if'. One that begins search for an alternative, for change, for a way to overcome the obstacles in an innovative way. Is it easy? Not really. But that's the only way I know to reclaim my power: change the perspective and try new ways.

Do you find it easy to work with your 'ifs'?

10/10/2025

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We live in times when the stigma is replaced with misinformation.

Using a counsellor when you are distressed should be as normal as seeing a GP when your body is ailing.

Today is . 2 in 5 Australians aged 16–85 have experienced a mental disorder at some point in their life. Anxiety disorders are most common, with over 1 in 4 Australians experiencing a disorder from this group at least once.

If you, or someone you know is experiencing distress, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au or Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636.

30/09/2025

Listening can be hard! Some people are amazing storytellers, and it's easy to listen to them. But even then, we might get lost in associations and our own thoughts.

When we aren't really interested in another person or preoccupied with our own life, it's very easy to catch a phrase or two, stop listening, and follow our own story.

Listening takes effort, practice, and perhaps some bravery.

What do you usually do when you got lost in your own thoughts and weren't paying attention at all?

Do you give some generic statement to make an impression as if you did listen? Or do you admit that you were distracted? If you are acknowledging that you didn't listen, are you willing to give it another go, but this time paying attention?

How do you feel when you are on the other side, when your story is being ignored?

Communication is a bridge. It takes skill to build them.

28/09/2025

Listening to understand takes focus, patience, ability to suspend one's judgement, and good will. It takes a lot! That's why it doesn't happen that often. Especially when we are to listen to someone whom we labelled as the type of person who lacks understanding.

Sometimes, it's political affiliation, or age, or s*x, or job, or nationality, or... can you think of more examples?

We want our lives to go smoothly, so why waste time trying to understand people we already believe we disagree with?

Yet, we live in an interconnected world. We might disagree, but we still have to share the planet and share our offices and homes.

Understanding someone doesn't mean agreeing with them! You might still follow different values, priorities, and goals and therefore refuse to accept someone else's way of doing things. But understanding them helps (not hinders) navigating the conflicts.

What do you think?

17/09/2025

Sometimes, we fail at communication because we are too narrowly focused. Yes, we listen, but we listen with an intention different to the intention of a speaker. We try to hear the information that WE consider important, and ignore the rest.
For example, a loved one is sharing with you how their day went. You remember that they had some trouble with a colleague at work, so your focus is on whether it got solved. It did, so you stopped paying attention. But from the perspective of your partner, it was about them considering if they should apply for a new position. But you didn't listen that far... ouch!
Yes, paying attention is costly! It takes time, focus, and energy! But the alternative is, if we don't listen the first time, we will have to navigate some kind of conflict resolution.
Yes, sometimes it's hard to stay focused because we feel tired, have too much on our plate, and are preoccupied with something else. Usually, it's a good idea to share with the other person why right now it might be hard for us to fully listen and make time for a proper conversation on another occasion.