18/11/2025
🌸 Returning to Stillness - Part 3/4
✨ It’s Time To Cry… Where’s My Stunt Double? ✨
It’s the final day of our silent retreat with the Empowered Academy crew. After a quiet sunrise viewing, it was time for our final share.
Two days of silence… and finally, we’re allowed to speak.
And yet, no one says a word. 🤐
Turns out silence isn’t so bad after all. Neither is switching off your phone for a few days. My nervous system agrees.
As we slowly began to share, an older gentleman surprised me when he softly said, “How delightful it is to cry,” tears rolling freely down his cheeks.
And something about that moment cracked me open. To hear a man - especially one from a generation not raised to express emotion describe crying as delightful… It was raw, vulnerable, and utterly beautiful.
It made me reflect on my own journey of expressing my emotions. Especially the uncomfortable ones.
Sadness. Grief. Shame. Guilt. (Basically the entire emotional buffet 🥹).
I can recall countless moments from the past where I felt tears rise. Moments I would try so hard to repress that my throat would ache like an instant case of tonsillitis from the effort.
If I did cry, I made sure no one saw or heard me. Silencing my own emotions as if they were a burden too heavy, too messy, too much for anyone else to witness or hold.
Even when I was in a relationship with a man I had agreed to marry, I still struggled to let him see me that way.
It felt too scary, like me and my emotions were too damn much. Being that vulnerable felt like standing naked in a thunderstorm.
Or worse…
The only moment I can think of that rivals that fear is the paralysing terror that arises anytime I’ve had to fart in front of a new romantic partner. Try holding that in when you have Crohns 💨😳
But recently, I heard a rumour about Chuck Norris…
That he used to have a stunt double.
Not for the fighting scenes - but for the crying ones. And honestly, if anyone could roundhouse-kick their way out of emotional processing, it’d be Chuck. 🥋
Imagine if we could all do that - yell CUT! mid-meltdown and bring in our emotional stunt double to ugly-cry on our behalf. I’d hire mine on retainer.
But here’s the thing: that’s where the growth happens.
That’s how we move through our emotions. Instead of shoving them down, until we erupt and those feelings come out sideways in a far less convenient moment (hello, emotional eruption over spilt oat milk).
Feelings are just that - feelings. Energy in motion. And when we give them space to exist - to be felt, expressed, and released - they soften. They shift. They pass.
So next time you’re tempted to yell CUT! and emotionally check out, try this instead:
👉 “Pause. What a pleasure. Why is this in my movie?”
Then get curious.
✨ What’s the feeling beneath that emotion?
✨ What’s the intention of this feeling?
✨ What’s the purpose of this experience?
Just notice what comes up - no judgement, no analysis.
And if you can, offer yourself some compassion while you hold space for it all.
Because maybe - just maybe - it’s a privilege to feel this deeply.
To be human enough to cry, laugh, rage, grieve, and still get up and try again.
❤️ What a delight indeed.
💫 If you feel like you're someone who doesn’t allow your emotions to be fully seen, this is something I’m currently helping my clients move through psychosomatically.
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