Successful Solutions

03/12/2025

The 'let them' approach has some benefit for ppl looking to shift their habits and move from codependency to interdependence and a more secure self.

But for many ppl, especially those in emotionally barren, or explosive / violent environments and children in the mix - let them is NOT the responsible approach.

When your home is in survival mode bc of emotional neglect, family violence of any sort or harm between siblings - 'let them' is the silence which being permissive, complicit and no breaks in cycles.

So while it isn't about shouting or trying to get ppl to change. It is about naming problematic behaviours, ensuring those who need protection know they are not alone and have somewhere to run and making changes within your own control

12/09/2025

I feel it is important to discuss and show how we can support communities without reinforcing ableist narratives. This isn't about focusing on mistakes, it is about always taking steps to getting stronger and better with what we know.

Let's open doors in a healthy way

Another national campaign is running right now: Support Literacy and Numeracy in Indigenous Communities, led by and collaborati...

17/07/2025

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12/07/2025

https://misiasmiles.blogspot.com/2025/07/when-truth-telling-hurts-authenticity.html

When Truth-Telling Hurts: Authenticity, Boundaries, and Trauma Recovery This post is for anyone who finds themselves compulsively honest, ra...

14/06/2025

I absolutely love that this type of engagement is part of this person's fun, drought and pleasure in life.

A relationship which , just from this glimpse, seems respectful. For me personally however, I've never found this fun or playful. My exoerience is that it is disrespectful, invasive and if soneone knows me, then it could even feel like betrayal or cruelty. My nervous system goes on alert and i then need to put effort into regulating to return into a calm state.

It highlights the ongoing reality that we can't look for formulas and generalised brushstrokes in order to deliver 'inclusion' 'psychological safety' or education. Policies and instructions can only go so far. It is still communication and relationship which will determine how successfully we can serve, respond or connect with others.

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01/05/2025

https://misiasmiles.blogspot.com/2025/04/if-i-were-chef-youd-applaud-my.html?

There is a grief that comes not from being actively harmed, but from being quietly, repeatedly unseen. Repeatedly pushed away once a benefi...

01/05/2025

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15/04/2025

I've been writing more posts recently. I have so many in draft, and I think it is time to get them alive and posted.

Perfect because it exists.

If you have a roof you would like to see written about or if you like one of the ones I've posted, feel free to comment or discuss.

https://misiasmiles.blogspot.com/2025/04/available-alert-alarmed-our-responsive.html?

Why do we treat human variation —or divergence from a norm—as if it’s a malfunction, rather than contextual transformation ? Let's first l...

11/04/2025

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10/04/2025

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06/04/2025

https://misiasmiles.blogspot.com/2025/04/old-relationships-vs-contemporary.html

Old Relationships vs. Contemporary Interdependence Traditional models of romantic relationships were often built on codependence , shaped...