EMDR Adelaide

06/11/2025

The perception of reality is more real than reality itself. Kant introduced the idea that we never perceive the noumenon (the thing-in-itself), only the phenomenon, the thing as it appears to us. The matters you focus on and give your energy and attention to will become your reality, filtered through selective perception and driven by deprived needs. The mind shapes experience to confirm what it already believes and to seek what has remained unmet within.

29/10/2025

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26/10/2025

Many of humanity’s struggles arise from our difficulty in simply sitting quietly alone. The ability to be with oneself, without distraction or constant stimulation, is a cornerstone of emotional maturity.

Children who are constantly occupied or externally engaged may miss the quiet moments that teach self-regulation and reflection. In those still spaces, they learn to listen to their inner world, tolerate emotions, and build an internal sense of safety. Learning how to be alone, and to feel content in that solitude, is not about loneliness; it’s about cultivating inner security and a stable sense of self.

For many people with insecure attachment histories, silence or solitude can feel deeply uncomfortable or even threatening. They may associate being alone with abandonment, neglect, or emotional emptiness. In therapy, developing the capacity to sit quietly,to be with oneself without avoidance, often becomes a central part of change and emotional growth.

25/10/2025

Roger Solomon, Ph.D, Psychologist talks with Brittne Lee, MA, LPC about ways to use EMDR Therapy with grief and loss.

Roger Solomon, Ph.D, Psychologist talks with Brittne Lee, MA, LPC about ways to use EMDR Therapy with grief and loss.

16/10/2025

In therapy, the way we ask questions shapes awareness.
Asking “What’s your experience right now?” naturally promotes meta-awareness, helping clients observe the totality of their inner world (thoughts, emotions, sensations and ...) rather than being consumed by emotion.

By contrast, “How do you feel?”—though well-intentioned—has become overused, often leading to automatic or surface-level replies like “fine” or “sad.”
Inviting someone to describe their experience opens space for curiosity, embodiment, and deeper therapeutic insight.

15/10/2025

Respond, don't react! EMDR therapy helps clients respond instead of reaction because it works on memories which become "stuck” after trauma.

12/10/2025

I see you and your experience matters.

17/09/2025

Cognitive Therapeutic/Interweave Consultation Group

I am running another monthly Cognitive Therapeutic/Interweave Consultation Group starting on Tuesday, 9 December 2025, at 5:30 pm (SA time). The group will run for 10 months and is limited to six practitioners who have completed Level 2/Weekend 2 training with an approved trainer. Each session will include a lecture, case discussion, and practicum. The program consists of 10 sessions in total, with a fee of $600.

For enquiries or to register, please contact me at: khodadad@emdradelaide.com.au

16/09/2025

The QWERTY keyboard wasn’t designed to be fast or logical. It was invented in the 1870s to stop typewriter keys from jamming. The funny thing? Typewriters are long gone, but we’re still using it today.
We do the same in life without realising it. We hold on to old habits and coping patterns that once made sense but don’t actually serve us anymore. Once a system is built, our whole life adapts around it, so change feels hard.
Think about someone who learned as a child to stay quiet to avoid punishment. As an adult, they may still silence themselves — even when it’s safe to speak up. The original reason is gone, but the pattern sticks.

14/09/2025

Feeder memories are earlier experiences that “feed into” the current target memory. If processing stalls, it may be because the system is trying to access those earlier, unresolved events. Identifying and reprocessing the feeder memory often unblocks the work and allows the target memory to shift.

13/09/2025

When processing is blocked or progress is not moving along in EMDR therapy, the practitioner needs to ensure it is not due to factors identified by Shapiro in her writings and trainings, such as incomplete assessment or unresolved feeder memories.

10/09/2025

Human brains have a natural information-processing system that helps us digest experiences, integrate them, and store them in a healthy way.

When this process works well, we gain insight, perspective, and emotional balance. But when something overwhelming happens, the system can get blocked. In the EMDR therapy, AIP model, trauma is understood as an unprocessed memory.

These memories become “frozen in time,” holding the original images, emotions, body sensations, and negative beliefs — as if the event is still happening. That’s why present-day triggers can bring flashbacks, nightmares, or sudden emotional flooding.

EMDR therapy helps unblock the system, so the memory can finally be processed and stored adaptively. It loses its “here and now” intensity and becomes part of the past — where it belongs.