05/11/2025
Let's talk about something real for a minute... Body dysmorphia
Body dysmorphia in particular during perimenopause is something we don't talk about enough.
Our bodies are changing, in every aspect .... shape, softness, where our weight sits .... and sometimes, people's comments hit differently than they used to.
Recently, someone said to me,
"It's such a shame you've let yourself go - you used to be so attractive".
And even though I don't think they meant it cruelly... it really landed. It landed in that tender space between who I was and who I am, and who I'm still becoming.
What they saw as me letting myself go, I see as evolving...
I've changed yes. My body has changed and I no-longer look like I did in my 20's and 30's, but she has carried me through so much. My body is so much more intuitive, wiser and softer, but that doesn't mean she is weak nor that I have let myself go.
The comment stung. It woke up that old inner critic that likes to whisper in my ear "you're not enough anymore".
It triggers that self sabotage button where we all revert to past wounds.
And this is where I do my work.
I use Emotional Release Technique (ERT) to move through these emotions - not suppress them, but acknowledge them and let them go.
Why? Because this phase of our life is not about shrinking back....it's about reclaiming your space in a changing body. It's not a decline, but an initiation of our bodies physically, emotionally and energetically and how that looks like is different for each of us.
To everyone navigating this too - please know:
You haven't let yourself go, you are simply learning to hold yourself and your space differently. Love yourself. You've got this x
