27/07/2025
I've been struggling with a work relationship over the past year. One where I feel this person says they have my back and support me; however, their actions are to the contrary. Early on I was able to work with this person, negotiate and communicate my needs, views and what I need to be able to work effectively and efficiently. Through the course of the year, I have experienced them as not having the time to listen or be on top of the things they need to be on top of, which has led to them manipulating situations, gaslighting myself and others to protect their position and hide their lack of leadership, communication and transparency. I have been triggered more and more often. With feelings (and physical sensations within my body) escalating to a point that is more extreme than I have felt for a long time. I have defaulted to ways of responding that I really don’t like, bitching, moaning and gossiping. Trying to find reassurance for what I am feeling. Trying to work out if it’s me or them. Then every night I come home and feel regret and not like how I reacted or how I was who showed up today.
Never one to shy away from inner work, I have tried meditating, forgiveness, loving kindness, delving into my shadows, looking at what the other person is reflecting back to me. I keep telling myself that tomorrow will be different. Tomorrow I'll bring my Zen, my detachment, my compassion. An then another situation where I am undermined, not heard, dismissed.....
Why can't I get this?
Is there something wrong with me?
Why can't I just let it go, let this wash over me?
I try the mantra
"let them"
"let go"
"let love"
But what if LOVE meant stepping into the Divine Power of the Feminine Authority? Not a powering over kind of authority, but a deep power and strength borne out of love of self and the fight for our sovereignty. Standing in our truth while maintaining an openness for connection with the other. This kind of power and authority is Radical Love and Compassion.
This kind of power acknowledges the humanness in the other with compassion. This power acknowledges my own right to authority with LOVE. This power sees the "WE" in this rather than you or I. This power says "I acknowledge you and that you are doing what you feel is right for you. I acknowledge how this influences me in this way, and today I am choosing to........."
So often we confuse LOVE with giving in to the other
"If I truly loved them or regarded them with compassion I'd just let it go".
For the last decades I have been working with the Divine Feminine, reclaiming this inner authority. I have been attending and facilitating women's circles and retreats, womb healing sessions, deep inner work....and yet today I got it all on another level.
As I connected with the Magdalene, Sophia, Isis energy, I realised more deeply than every before
Love is strength
Love is compassion
Love is fearless
Love has its own authority.
I then drew the Queen of Heaven card from the Isis Oracle by Alana Fairchild.
" The Queen of Heaven, the Divine Empress of the Skies acknowledges your feminine authority now. You have a life path of spiritual leadership to bring qualities of mercy, compassion, and wisdom to the world"
" Feminine spiritual authority occurs when power is tempered with mercy, wisdom, compassion and love. It is inspired spiritual leadership through the heart and a model of power and authority hat is based in empowerment rather than force or control"
"This new model of power is now about assuming authority over another, but about lving your truth and integrity and leading by authentic example. There is great power here, and no false sense of responsibility for another which could drain you and create dependency rather than growth in those you seek to empower, through your leadership"
That morning I spent time really feeling into and embodying this Divine Feminine Authority, calling in the "Priestess" energy, anchoring it deep within me. From this place I once again communicated my position to my work colleague, with strength and openness (rather than defensiveness and blame). I held my inner alignment when they came back at me, drawing on the strength of the Magdalene.
The next day I received an apology from this person (the first time ever). I was able to accept the apology with grace. There was an immediate shift in energy, where there had been an energetic "stalemate" for a really long time. I as able to breathe again.
MY INVITATION TO YOU.....
If this post has resonated with you. I invite you to contemplate how you might step more fully into your own authority. Often this requires that we make peace with the authority figures in our own lives, past and present and how we have experienced those relationships - whether as supportive, truthful, and empowering - or disempowering, shaming, minimizing, and lacking integrity - or inflating our sense of grandiosity. What parts of yourself show up in response to authority?
Making peace with authority figures past and present often involves pulling back the unconscious projection of our own authority, divinity and strength upon those persons, seeing them as belonging to ourselves, and allowing the other to be more human. It may involve recognizing the gifts and failings of that person, and within ourselves in that moment, seeing the grace involved as two people with limited consciousness attempt a relationship. It may also be reclaiming a more expansive and conscious notion of LOVE, one that is aligned to a frequency (rather than an emotion). That love of self and love of other may involve standing with strength in truth and alignment, setting healthy boundaries, and making choices that align to our heart and soul, rather than simply to keep the other person happy (or not angry).
There are always gifts and learnings on both sides of the relationship.
If this post resonates and you would like to explore these themes in more depth we have an upcoming group program on Reclaiming Trust after Betrayal (September), or book into one of our other offerings (Integrative Counselling or Womb Healing sessions).
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