04/10/2022
Why do so many people experience difficulty with feeling emotions fully? The answer might be tied to growing up in a society that does not value feelings and prioritizes being “good” or “happy” above all else. Other factors can also affect our readiness to feel, like not being allowed to experience or show emotions growing up, or being told that feeling certain emotions like sadness, grief, or anger are “bad” and shouldn’t be felt or expressed. We eventually learn that emotions are the problem and when we do experience feeling things like sadness, embarrassment, or shame, we are also the problem.
A common fear about allowing oneself to feel is that the feeling might last forever. All emotions will pass, we might feel one for a longer period of time (usually however long it was resisted), but it will always pass.
Whether you don’t know how to feel your feelings, you don’t want to feel your feelings, or you’re struggling with feeling your feelings, we hope these techniques can serve you in some way.