Be Childwise

26/04/2023

02/08/2022

'Sometimes loving your kids means taking a step back'

Most parenting rules teach us how to raise kids who grow up to become responsible adults. Today, I'm sharing rules that teach us how to really love a child NOW.

19/06/2022

Your words, your behaviour, your actions are your responsibility!

14/10/2021

Be a good role model

If we want to raise kids that grow up to change the world, you need to be willing to change the world yourself. Show them how to be a good person, don’t just tell them. We can’t keep pushing things off to the next generation, hoping that they’ll make the changes we want to see. We need to do better now. Maybe, if we get it right, our kids won’t have to change the world. They’ll just have to keep the momentum going.

13/10/2021

Talk to each other, not at each other

We adults spend a whole lot of time talking at each other instead of to each other. We do it to strangers on social media, to each other at the dinner table, and to our kids every day. If we can’t learn to truly listen to each other, we can’t change the world. If we all work together to fix this on a personal level, we’ll raise a generation that actually knows how to truly engage with each other.
Make a family rule that only one person can speak at a time and no one can interrupt them. Use the “talking stick” method. The person holding the stick gets to speak. Whatever method you choose, actively listen. Don’t just zone off until your son finishes telling you all about his new Minecraft world. Only by showing him that you respect what he has to say can he learn to respect what you have to say.

12/10/2021

Make kindness a priority every day

We tend to view random acts of kindness as something to do during the holidays only, such as volunteering at a soup kitchen at Christmas. While it's a wonderful idea, spreading kindness isn’t just a box to tick off on a list of holiday traditions. It’s something that we need to focus on every single day.

Here’s the good news- you don’t have to spend money to teach your kids about kindness. Remember, being kind has nothing to do with opening your wallet and everything to do with opening your heart. Maybe start a family dinner tradition where everyone talks about something kind that they either did or witnessed that day.

11/10/2021

Value compassion above being right!

The world would be a much brighter place if everyone valued compassion above being “right.” If we want to change the way people behave on a grand scale, though, we have to change how we react to our kids on a personal level.

Do your kids a favor and remove the words “I told you so” from your vocabulary. Seriously, ban that phrase. Add it to your “off limits swear words” list. Instead, the next time your kids learn something the hard way (rather than just taking your word for it that it’s a bad idea) react with empathy. Remember, you learned many lessons the hard way, too.

21/09/2021

Boys shut down if they feel unheard or misunderstood. If your son doesn’t believe that you see or understand him as a unique human being, you’re going to have a hard time connecting.

12/08/2021

A gentle reminder for everyone 😉