19/08/2025
Who is anyone to tell another person what they can or cannot believe in?
Time and time again, I see people sharing the most beautiful moments, signs from their loved ones. A feather, a song, a butterfly, a dream. Parents with children, children with parents, grandparents, friends. Moments that bring comfort, connection, and love.
And yet, almost without fail, there’s always that one comment: “That’s not them. That doesn’t happen. It’s just this. It’s just coincidence.”
Who are you to say that? Who are you to strip someone of the very thing that brings them peace in their grief?
I say this as someone who does speak to spirit. I know signs are real. But even if I didn’t, it is not my place, nor anyone’s place, to take away the meaning someone finds in their own experience. For many, these signs are all they have left to hold on to and they matter.
So no, it’s not “just a coincidence.” No, it’s not for you to decide what someone else feels in their heart. And if you can’t let people have that comfort, then maybe the question is: why does it bother you so much?
Because signs are not up for debate. They belong to the ones who receive them.
Grief is hard enough already, don’t make it harder on someone just because you choose not to believe.
I say this with love, and my mum voice.
Stop.