Awareness and Calm: Kelli Bradicich

24/11/2025

Set a goal. I want to read more and scroll less. I want to connect more to my partner. I want to work on having a voice. I want to be more organised. I want to use my voice with more confidence. I want to learn the piano. I want to be calm when my child throws a tantrum. I want to be more present......the list is endless.
At the end of each day write dot points in your journal. When did you do it well? What helped you do it well? When was it challenging? What made it challenging? How can you do it differently?
If you know you're going to do this at the end of the day, you're likely to be more attentive throughout the day looking for experiences to document. Writing and reflecting at night means you have to dive deep and you start visualising how you can be better at it. When you encounter experiences you will be more likely to naturally be able to put the skills in place over time.
Tips: be prepared to fail and learn from it
attach the journalling to dinner rather than bed time
writing solidifies it and ensures you can't cheat yourself of the experience
dot points make it simple and achievable.


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23/11/2025

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22/11/2025

When one person wants to stay and the other wants to go, we have options, even when it seems like we don't. What we tend to do if we're the partner who wants to stay is try to convince the other to stay. We ask for more time. We change our behaviours. We are on our best behaviours. We might beg and plead. We might stick our head in the sand and hope the partner comes to their senses.
But is this getting at the core of the experience?
What is missing?
How connected are we?
How can we manage our reactivity?
What are the patterns in our family? How are we replicating them?
How are we struggling to reach each other?
Are we legitimately working on being more solid in ourselves if we're trying to put all our efforts into changing the other party.
If we can be the best self we can be, manage our emotions and thoughts and guide our behaviours towards remaining connected while also maintaining a healthy separateness, we're more likely to fix the relationship. Now the hard news is we might be fixing the relationship but still separating. But as people work on themselves anything can happen.
I've seen people work on themselves and shift from wanting the partner to stay to not wanting the relationship, finding more happiness alone.
I've seen people want to leave the relationship and seeing the partner become a more solid self, change their minds. Sometimes this can end with a happier connection, with both people doing the work. Sometimes the relationship still ends but the connection continues. Sometimes relationships reignite later.
Sometimes people leave the relationships and think the work is done but they take the challenges with them to the next relationship.
Sometimes people try to do the work but struggle to work on self. It is hard work. It isn't just about being well behaved and following interests. It is about knowing our patterns. The way our mind works and our body reacts. Working on self is challenging. But long term can be beneficial.
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21/11/2025

Peace at a cost may mean we’re giving in to short-term gain but creating long-term pain

Real peace may mean facing discomfort in the short term, but in the long term becoming more comfortable adept and achieving genuine peace.

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20/11/2025

https://open.substack.com/pub/midlifeanticrisis/p/the-quiet-reasons-women-collapse?r=tyij7&utm_medium=ios

Lately I’ve been thinking about the choices we make as women, and how easily other people dismiss them.

20/11/2025

Our mind is the source of anxiety.

If we acknowledge the unhelpful thought, without pushing it away, but simply redirecting our attention into our body and senses, we can work to calm our physiology.

When our chemistry is working better, we can then rise up back into the mind and tap into helpful, wise, aware and principle thinking. This can guide us forward.

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20/11/2025

Change is uncomfortable. It is hardwork. The longer you can sit with the discomfort of doing something different, pushing yourself out into the unfamiliar, the more likely you will become more comfortable. It takes conscious effort. Courage. The willingness to get things wrong and fail. If you stay with the discomfort long enough, plan how you're going to keep your energy up and manage the challenges, one day you may wake up comfortable with the uncomfortable. www.awarenessandcalm.com.au



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18/11/2025

Present moment awareness. There are so many gifts and miracles and so much depth if we take time to look deeply at each moment. Real opportunities exist.
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