28/10/2025
Story Time:
“I love you.”
I say this to my husband almost every day.
When I was a little girl, I wished my mum and dad would say “I love you” , “I’m proud of you.” But they never did. Instead, I often heard things like, “Look at your friend, she is better than you” , “Your cousin won the competition,he is so clever.”
This was the traditional way to raise children in Asia. For a long time, I thought it was normal.
When I became a teenager, I started watching Western movies. I noticed people saying “I love you” and “I miss you” so easily. They shared their feelings openly.
My high school English teacher came from Australia. She was my favorite teacher. She always found a way to make me feel seen. She would say, “You did so well today” very positive.
Her words made me feel so loved. I loved her so much, even though my English wasn’t perfect.
I started sharing my feelings with my mum.
“I love you, Mum,” and giving her a hug and a kiss.
At first, she would push me away all the time, laughing, “Go away, That’s so ticklish!”
And yes, That’s my mum😅
I never stopped. I told her “I love you” all the time. My sisters started doing it too. Slowly, My mum began to open up a bit . She started sharing her own feelings with us every now and then.
It was a very slow change, but it was a good one.
I always share my feelings with the people I love because I don’t want to be in a situation where I want to share my heart, but that person is no longer here to hear it. I don’t want to live with that kind of regret.
Love isn’t just a feeling you hold inside. It’s a language. What do you think?
Bella Xx