Honni Hayton Counselling

20/02/2026

EMDR for Trauma and Emotional Abuse | Honni Hayton Counselling

EMDR for trauma helped Georgia heal from the emotional abuse of her ex and move on to a happier life with her son. A case study from Honni Hayton.

19/02/2026

You do not need a complete life reset to create change.

The one percent change theory reminds us that real, lasting growth comes from the smallest shifts, repeated over time.

One percent might look like

✅ Going to bed ten minutes earlier
✅ Drinking water before coffee
✅ Pausing to breathe before you respond
✅ Putting your phone down while you eat

On their own, these changes feel tiny.
But over weeks and months, they compound.
They shape your habits and how you experience your life.

When you are feeling stuck or overwhelmed, ask yourself
❓ What is the smallest change I could make today that supports my wellbeing?

💚 Not perfect.
💚 Not all at once.
💚 Just one percent better.

If you would like support identifying your one percent changes, or help turning insight into sustainable habits, reach out. I would love to support you.

17/02/2026

You don’t have to relive the past to heal from it.

EMDR helps the nervous system process what it couldn’t before.

13/02/2026

Today can be chocolates and flowers if that’s your thing.

Or it can be a quiet coffee together, a kind message, a long hug at the end of the day.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to prove anything. It can simply be a pause. A moment to ask, how am I showing love in this relationship lately.

💕 Love is patience.
💕 Love is kindness under stress.
💕 Love is choosing connection even when it feels easier to withdraw.

Whether you celebrate today or not, the invitation is the same. Keep loving in the small, consistent ways. That’s what sustains relationships long after the roses are gone.

13/02/2026

Anxiety isn’t something to eliminate - it’s something to support.

Small, consistent habits can help your nervous system feel safer 🤍

13/02/2026

In a loveless relationship? Find out how counselling can help.

Want to rekindle the passion in your loveless relationship? Read here how Honni Hayton Counselling helped one couple to do just that!

10/02/2026

I'm wary of love that's over exaggerated on Valentine's Day, once a year.

I believe real love shows up in the ordinary moments, the Tuesday nights, the tired mornings, the seasons when life feels heavy.

Love looks like:
💘 Listening without fixing.
💘 Turning towards your partner instead of your phone.
💘 Being curious instead of critical.
💘 Saying thank you for the small things.
💘 Repairing after an argument rather than pretending it didn’t happen.

Valentine’s Day is coming up and if it brings pressure or comparison, you’re allowed to step back from that. Be assured, strong relationships are built in the everyday, not in one grand gesture.

And if you do enjoy doing something romantic, that’s lovely too. Just remember the most meaningful kind of love is the one that is practised regularly, not occasionally.

06/02/2026

Moving on from a breakup? Here’s how counselling can help.

Julie found hope and healing after moving on from a breakup. Find out how self-care helped Julie find herself again after her marriage broke down.

03/02/2026

At the start of this year, I really had to check myself.
Not in a harsh way, but in an honest one.

I noticed I was complaining more than I’d like to admit. About small things. About busy days. About things not being quite how I wanted them. And the truth is, it was quietly becoming a habit.

So I made a conscious decision to pause and look at my mindset.

I started practising gratitude again. Properly. Not the fluffy kind, but the intentional kind. Noticing what was actually going well. Being thankful for what I already have. Reframing situations instead of replaying frustration.

Nothing in my life suddenly became perfect. But my internal world shifted.

And that shift has had a real impact on my psychological wellbeing. I feel steadier. More grounded. Less reactive. More present. It’s been a powerful reminder that while we can’t always control our circumstances, we do have influence over how we relate to them.

Mindset work is quiet work. It doesn’t make headlines, but it changes everything.

I’m curious…
Have you ever caught yourself stuck in a complaining loop?
And if so, what helps you shift your perspective?

I’d love to hear in the comments 💛

02/02/2026

You don’t need to fix your emotions - you need to feel them safely. Processing emotions is about awareness, permission, and self-compassion 💫
Please reach out if you would like extra support to process your emotions 🤍

29/01/2026

Like many in the counselling community, I was deeply saddened to hear about a therapist being murdered by a client, in the United States last week.

When something like this happens, it reminds us that therapy is not just a profession. It is a relationship built on trust, emotional safety and care.

Most of the work therapists do happens quietly. Sitting with pain. Holding stories that are heavy. Staying regulated when someone else is not. Creating a space where people can bring the parts of themselves they show nowhere else.

Moments like this don’t make me fearful of the work I do. They deepen my respect for it.

They remind me why clear boundaries, thoughtful risk assessment, supervision and ethical practice matter so much. Not just for therapists, but for clients too.

Therapy at its best is a place of safety, humanity, and hope. That is what I remain committed to offering.

My thoughts and prayers are with the therapist’s loved ones, colleagues and clients and with every practitioner who continues to show up with courage and care.