04/06/2025
It's never too late to reach out for help... or share your story... heal from your pain.
[Trigger warning: mention of Domestic Violence]
Isn’t it incredible what the body remembers, even when the mind tries to forget?
This week, I had sinus surgery after years of relentless infections. (Side note: forever grateful for the frozen pad I wore on my nose. Glamorous!)
But what I didn’t expect was what happened in the waiting room.
Just before the procedure, the ENT came in to walk me through the plan. He mentioned a spot near my eye socket they’d need to be extra careful with, something that showed up on my MRI. Then he asked, “Have you ever taken a big blow to your right eye?”
And just like that, it all came back.
Yes.
Over 30 years ago.
My ex punched me.
Hard.
I remember crying. Blowing my nose. My eye swelling shut in an instant. A fractured eye socket. I told the hospital it was a cricket ball. I lied.
My family were overseas. I didn’t want to make a fuss. I didn’t want to believe it had really happened. And I definitely wasn’t ready to leave him. Not then.
The surgeon said that injury had long-term consequences.
Thirty years later, my body is still carrying that trauma.
Domestic violence isn’t always visible.
Sometimes, even we forget how deep the wounds go until our bodies remind us.
I’m sharing this because someone out there might need to hear it.
Maybe it helps you feel less alone.
Maybe it reminds you to trust your body.
Maybe it’s the nudge to check in on someone who’s been quiet for too long.
DV doesn’t disappear with time.
But healing is possible.
I’m working on that. Even now.