17/11/2025
Healing from heartache or trauma or grief isn’t all love, light & peace. Anyone who tells you this is easy & achieved through just journalling & mantras is f*cking lying to you. Profound change happens in the grittiness. When you’re screaming at the sky “why does this keep happening?!” or when you’re slumped on the bathroom floor snotty & drained. In order to heal/evolve (we aren’t broken, so essentially we are evolving not healing), we have to feel it all. Most of our pain is actually felt physiologically (chest pain, tight muscles, headaches) yet we try to outthink everything. We think our mind has all the answers but our minds just look on fear based rides. Let yourself feel without intellectualising it.
We worry if we start feeling everything deeply we will drown in the darkness. It’s the opposite. If we don’t swim into the dark depths & bring it to the light, it has control over our mind & our reactions. That’s why we feel like we don’t have control. That’s why we feel anxious, depressed or dissociated. You don’t need to be healing all day every day either, but those pains that are there & keeping you in survival mode can be released. Think of it like swimming to the depths of the ocean to dig for treasure. It won’t be easy, sometimes you’ll find bones but you realise they can’t hurt you so you let them go & you begin to find pieces of gold.