09/12/2025
The new Australian laws coming into effect on 10 December remind us of something important:
Kids don’t need unlimited access - they need safe access.
Whether your child is 9, 11 or 14, holding firm boundaries around social media isn’t being “mean” or “too strict.”
It’s being protective, proactive and deeply attuned to their wellbeing.
Here’s how to set boundaries with confidence:
1. Start with clarity
Decide what the rule is before you talk to your child.
Examples:
“No social media accounts until you’re legally allowed.”
“Your device stays out of your bedroom overnight.”
“We only use apps we can use together, openly.”
When you’re clear, they feel safer (even if they protest).
2. Use compassion + firmness (both matter)
Kids can feel disappointed, left out or frustrated - that doesn’t mean the boundary is wrong.
Try:
“I hear you. I get that you’re upset. The rule still stands because my job is to keep you safe.”
This helps them learn emotional regulation and respect for limits.
3. Explain the “why” in a developmentally-friendly way
Keep it simple and true:
“Some apps collect your private information.”
“Algorithms can show you things that feel scary or confusing.”
“Your brain is still growing, and it needs time away from screens.”
Kids don’t need fear - they need context.
4. Offer alternatives
Replace “no” with “here’s what we can do”:
Safe messaging apps with parent oversight
Video calls with known friends
Shared family time online (e.g., Minecraft world, creative apps)
Offline hangouts and hobbies
Choice gives them agency within the boundary.
5. Revisit the conversation over time
Boundaries aren’t one-and-done.
Check in:
“How are you feeling about our screen rules lately?”
“Anything online felt tricky or confusing this week?”
“Is there anything you wish we did differently?”
This builds trust, not fear.
