Mistress Wellbeing

01/03/2023

Need better boundary skills?

Free webinar!

'How to Make Boundaries like a Badass'

Thursday 9th March, Midday

https://fb.me/e/TZrLNRqT?mibextid=RQdjqZ

27/02/2023

Free

How to make boundaries like a badass…

Thursday March 9, 12 pm.
Replay available.

Link in comments or in my bio

27/02/2023

Absolutely no problem at all. I’d love to help you with that.’ Internal groan. 😱

When will I find time? I feel overwhelmed.
I’ll have to not sleep. I can get up at 4am.

Is it time to learn how to make better boundaries, and how to find your no, so you can stay firmly in your zone of genius?

Free
How to make like a badass.
Thursday 9March
Replay available.

Come and learn how to tolerate the brief but difficult emotions that go with creating good, protective boundaries, so you can dedicate your time to what you really love.

There’s an enormous personal cost to agreeing to others' demands.
A cost in time, energy and trust that you can keep yourself safe.
Now is the time to start valuing you and your precious, limited time and energy.

Saying yes against your will, so others don’t get angry or disappointed is the quick fix to avoid difficult emotions, with a long-term payment plan in resentment and overwhelm.

I know your conditioning is powerful.
To always be nice, always be amenable, never disappoint.
To be a good friend, a fabulous wife, the best mother, a hard worker.

But it’s not sustainable or possible or even desirable.

This webinar is perfect for you if you want to stop,

🌻 Saying yes when you mean no
🌻 Sacrificing your time and energy to other people’s projects
🌻 Feeling spread way too thin over your commitments, fueling overwhelm
🌻 Avoiding short-term pain for long-term discomfort

You will

🌻 Understand the dynamics which keep you stuck in people pleasing, and make change.
🌻 Align your time and energy according to your values and purpose.
🌻 Trust that you can keep yourself safe and out of overwhelm as you firmly say no.
🌻 Protect yourself and your loved ones as you shape the life you desire.

26/02/2023

‘I felt part of something bigger than myself. I felt seen, heard and revitalised.’

‘I feel calm, grounded, grateful and energised.’

Feeling satisfied and very proud of this amazing group of women at the today.
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When groups are generous and share readily, the connection builds quickly and easily and the group can work deeply, which is what happened today.

group is such a special space, without advice giving or problem solving, just listening, reflecting and receiving, allowing us to heal in relationship.

Nine beautiful women spent all day in easy companionship learning the language of responsibility, ‘I feel, I need, I think…’ which brings us so powerfully into the present moment instead of lost in the abstractions of language.

There was authenticity and agency, resonance and reciprocation, movement from restlessness to a deep inner calm.

Again, I’m so proud of your choice to engage with each other and make the shift from self criticism to self compassion.

15/02/2023

You don’t have to be the good girl all the time.
😱

She’s helpful and gets things done, but there are other parts of you that deserve to see the light of day too.

The adventurer.
The vulnerable child.
The outrageous goddess…

The good girl was a very creative adjustment to the situation you found yourself in decades ago.

She denied her own needs, worked hard and made sure everyone else was alright.

She’s a gem.

And she will always be there for you, but it’s time you expressed more of you in the world and had more satisfaction and more joy.

Are you ready?

Send me a dm if you’d like to chat.

14/02/2023

Vibrant happiness anyone?
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I spent much of my early life in very negative, painful mental states.

Joy was hard to find

Contentment impossible.

Even though externally I had it all.

Here’s what I know now.

Happiness is not something that only happens if you’re lucky.
You don’t just trip over it one day.
It’s not for the fortunate few.
It doesn’t come from outside circumstances.

You and I have so much agency that goes untapped.

When I realised that I could create happiness within me, it changed my world.

So here are my three tips for creating vibrant happiness,

1. Speak kindly and encouragingly to yourself, don’t let the critic run unchecked.
2. Make an effort every day to spend some quiet time with yourself. Not doing. Being. Meditation is a good start. You don’t always need to be useful - see point 1 😂
3. Practice cultivating a loving heart. It can be learned! It can be perfected! It can be yours. Try the Metta Bhavana or practice of loving kindness.

Check out my meditation library if you need some support to make a start.
Link in the comments.

14/02/2023