Accessing Life Solutions

10/05/2023

Accessing Life Solutions in collaboration with The Relationships Studio is excited to be running an upcoming couples workshop, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work", based on Dr John Gottman's decades of research into happy and successful relationships! Spread over two days on Saturday 10 June 2023 and Sunday 11 June 2023, this psychoeducational workshop is an opportunity to strengthen your relationship as well as provide a roadmap for repair if your relationship is in distress. The workshop will be limited to 8 couples, and participants will not be required to share details of their relationship with the rest of the group. For further information, please follow the link below or reach out to us directly!
https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/gottman-workshop-the-seven-principles-couples-program-registration-607967877287

02/06/2021

Big thanks to a colleague for sharing this - I strongly recommend watching today, so many great lessons in here!

Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity -- to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal TED talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be.

31/05/2021

Stolen quote aside, remember to give something new a go this Monday - find that balance of something manageable as well as challenging, as sometimes we just need to take that first step, no matter how small. Happy Monday!

17/05/2021

Happy Monday, you little beauties! Positive self affirmations and reinforcement may seem cliched and forced, but they also create powerful shifts in our thought processes on an ongoing basis! Keep them simple but genuine!

14/05/2021

It's so easy to overlook these small bids for attention, and yet so powerful to be able to be attuned to them and to respond empathically!

How you respond to your loved ones' bids for connection can strengthen or weaken your relationship.

Say your partner walks into the room, massaging their temples and sighing. "I had the worst day at work. I'm really feeling burnt out." You've had a long day at work, too. Your immediate response is "Join the club. I can't wait for the weekend."

Let's try that again.

What if, when your partner tells you about their rough day, you turn towards them? This could sound like "Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Tell me more. What happened?"

Start the new Gottman Relationship Coach: Feeling Seen and Heard program to learn how to identify and turn towards each other's bids: https://bit.ly/3hgNDyW

10/05/2021

Happy Monday! Remember someone out there believes in you, even if you're struggling to ❤️

05/05/2021

This is also something that is commonly brought up in couple counselling around issues that go back quite some time, even years! Sometimes there can be value in setting a 'statute of limitations' around concerns that could be let go through mutual agreement (eg. 7 years), other times it is important to process these together in order to establish shared understanding

Have you recognized the signs of gridlock in your relationship?

Ongoing disagreements with your partner can be overwhelming. It's frustrating to replay the same argument with no sign of moving forward.

Thankfully, getting unstuck from relationship gridlock is possible. The process can even bring you closer. As Dr. John Gottman explains in "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," all you need is the motivation and willingness to explore the hidden issues that are really causing the gridlock.

Start the conversation and unlock your relationship potential with our Gottman Relationship Coach programs: https://bit.ly/3njDcvD

04/05/2021

In particular, how we model our responses as parents helps ensure congruence between our behaviours and what we expect from our children

Part II: Emotion coaching and appropriate modeling helps raise great kids.

25/03/2020

During these unprecedented and distressing times, it is more important than ever to ensure we are still accessing support and comfort in whatever ways we can. That is why I will be continuing to offer counselling for clients and clinical supervision for professionals, utilising methods such as video (Zoom) or telephone counselling. This will also be offered at reduced fees due to the change in setup.
Please continue to reach out and connect in whatever ways possible, and continue to look after each other.
This too shall pass!

08/01/2020

You don’t have to choose between being a good parent and a good partner.