The Flourished Collective

28/12/2025

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You aren't "too tired" to be a father. You are unconditioned for the duty.

Look at the man in the top frame. He thinks he’s exhausted because of his job. He is wrong.

He is exhausted because he fuels his body with garbage. He is drained because his muscles are atrophying from neglect. He is irritable because his dopamine receptors are fried by his phone. He hides in that chair not just to escape his kids, but to escape the shame of knowing he is capable of more.

When you live without discipline, you have no energy surplus. You are operating in a deficit. So when your son asks to play, or your wife asks for help, you react with annoyance because you are emotionally bankrupt.

Now look at the man in the bottom frame. He didn't get "lucky" with high energy. He manufactured it.

Because he trained this morning, his body is efficient. Because he ate for fuel, his mind is sharp. Because he kept his promises to himself, he walks through the door with Self-Respect.

When you respect yourself, you don't need to hide in a screen. or escape to food or a bottle. You are eager to serve because you are overflowing with power.

Discipline is not a cage. It is the generator that lights up your home.

Stop blaming your job, wife, kids, genetics, or bad luck for your lack of energy. Fix your habits, and your family gets their father back.

If you are ready to build the engine that powers a legacy...

Tap the link in bio to apply to Men of Fire. We are waiting for fathers ready to step into the forge.

Chris Rodack@risingfather

23/12/2025

21/12/2025

Building an emotionally secure attached love

generally refers to the process of creating a deep, meaningful bond with someone where both people feel emotionally connected and invested in each other.

It’s not just about being physically close or romantically involved—it’s about cultivating trust, understanding, and intimacy over time.

Key aspects include:

1. Emotional Vulnerability: Sharing your true feelings, fears, dreams, and experiences openly with each other. This fosters trust and closeness.

2. Consistent Presence: Being reliable and present in each other’s lives, showing care and attention. Emotional attachment grows when people feel seen and supported.

3. Mutual Understanding and Empathy: Listening deeply and empathizing with each other’s emotions strengthens the emotional bond.

4. Shared Experiences: Building memories together—whether small daily rituals or meaningful milestones—creates connection and attachment.

5. Affection and Appreciation: Expressing love, gratitude, and care regularly helps reinforce emotional bonds.

6. Healthy Dependence: Emotional attachment involves depending on each other for support and comfort, but without losing individuality.

Essentially, it’s healthy secure love that goes beyond surface level and creates a sense of security, belonging, and mutual emotional investment over time that’s not rushed.

21/12/2025

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20/12/2025

True healing means addressing the root causes of your struggles, rewiring unhelpful thought patterns, and reshaping emotional habits that keep you stuck.

Through a trauma-informed and neuroscience-based approach, I help individuals, childten and couples navigate life’s challenges, rebuild trust, and create lasting change.

If you’re searching for anxiety counselling Gold Coast, or support for trauma, ADHD, relationship stress, or burnout, you’ll find a safe and supportive space here for your healing journey.
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20/12/2025

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20/12/2025

💔 Signs of self-sabotage in relationships

• Pulling back from closeness or integration when things start to feel “real” or meaningful.
• Showing affection and warmth inconsistently — only when it’s comfortable or convenient.
• Avoiding situations that challenge them, even when they care about the person.
• Saying they want connection or commitment, but acting in ways that prevent it from happening

❤️‍🩹 Self-sabotage often comes from:

• Fear of intimacy or vulnerability
• Past experiences that make closeness feel unsafe
• Avoidant attachment patterns
• Internal conflicts about readiness for the life you want together

💋The impact it can have on a person

The impact on you
• You’re left feeling hurt, unchosen, or uncertain
• Your heart is longing for connection he isn’t giving
• You carry more emotional labor than is fair
• You start questioning your worth, even though the problem is their pattern, not yours

🌟Write down, in simple terms, what you need to feel:
1. Chosen — included in family and life events
2. Reliable affection — warmth that isn’t conditional
3. Shared growth — actively building a life together
4. Mutual effort — emotional labor isn’t one-sided

These are non-negotiables for a secure, healthy partnership

20/12/2025

Secure attachment isn’t about perfection

It’s not about:
• always staying calm
• never feeling hurt
• blindly trusting others

It is about:
• recognizing your feelings
• honoring your needs
• allowing yourself to feel vulnerable safely
• protecting yourself when someone can’t meet you there

What secure attachment looks like in a partner
• They acknowledge your needs and actively meet them when possible.
• They are consistent in affection, care, and inclusion.
• They can tolerate discomfort to grow the relationship (e.g., joining your family, sharing life fully).
• They communicate honestly and follow through in meaningful ways

18/12/2025

Repost from our friends at GrayMind Psychology 💖

16/12/2025

Hi beautiful

If everything around you feels dark…maybe you’re the one meant to be the light.

You’ve always been the “bigger person.”

You smooth tension. You hold space. You lead with kindness.

Because you’ve seen how sharp the world can be and that’s just not who you are.

Ever since you were little, you’ve known you were different.

Sensitive. Heart-led. A natural uplifter.

And you don’t want to lose your sparkle just because other people haven’t done their inner work.

So… how do you protect your peace?

How do you stay peaceful in a world that’s sometimes chaotic, dramatic, or downright draining?

To be honest...you may not going love it):

You don’t protect your spirit by hiding it.

(Hiding = dimming. Dimming = not your vibe.)

Yes... boundaries matter.

Yes... not everyone gets VIP access to your world.

But avoiding forever just keeps you in a loop of fear and resentment.

Because when you run from people...you’re also running from the part of yourself that’s here to shine, soften, and lead.

Most people are carrying pain no one ever taught them to process.

You?

You’re the woman who wants to heal, grow, and bring light into the world...not absorb everyone’s chaos.

And deep down… you want to be surrounded by people who get it.

Who get YOU.

Women who are rising, healing, expanding, and choosing love over drama.

So as we head into the festive season, here are 3 powerful things you can do to maintain your peace, joy & freedom:

💜 1. Protect your schedule, not your soul.
Limit time with draining people, expand time with uplifting ones.
You don’t need to justify your “no.”

💜 2. Choose the spirit you bring into the room.
You don’t mirror the chaos...you model the calm.

💜 3. Stay anchored in your rituals.
Your morning routine, journaling, movement, boundaries, hydration, supplements, self-care…

YOUR spirit hygiene keeps you grounded.

You are light.

You are love.

You are expansion.

And you get to choose who comes in

Vanessa xo