01/02/2026
Sh***ri isn’t that sexy, for me, it’s comforting.
It can be sexy and that is how this practice was originally introduced to me….. but it’s become so much more meaningful to me since then.
Sh***ri is hardly ever about loss of power, control and the person tying “getting off” in any way.
For me, this has been a practice of regulation, being held and contained.
It’s a space where I can let myself go from “holding it all together” for myself, and everyone else.
To simply being.
Surrendered.
The place I go to in a Sh***ri session is womb-like.
I return to the womb where I can be nurtured and safe.
I am bound to MY body; it is me and me.
I rarely even take notice of the rigger. Unless they aren’t attuned to me, because that is very obvious and not a good time.
Everything outside of me becomes so quiet and all the deepest emotions inside me feel like they can be heard.
There is no performance, no getting it right, nothing I need to “do” and I think that’s probably a big reason it’s such a powerful process to me.
Sh***ri is quite a ceremonial practice. With a lot of cultural history and tradition from Japan.
However, sh***ri is also a form of proprioception exercise and for that reason is incredibly supportive to my health challenges and nervous system regulation.
I’ve been asked to be Sh***ri rope model for a workshop coming up at the end of Feb - Sunshine Coast. By none other than the legend Duncan/Shivalex. ***ri
I’ve had some profound experiences and healing that has taken place during sh***ri sessions with Duncan. And even had some lessons in learning to tie, too.🪢
I’m so warmed by being invited to bring this work to life and continue being an advocate for how Sh***ri can be so much more than novelty for the bedroom and truly honour the practice that it is.
If you’ve been curious to learn more about sh***ri, I’d warmly invite you to this intimate workshop held with care, safety, and deep attunement, exploring the subtle energetics that can be woven through rope.