23/11/2025
Late stage diagnosis has two major pathways of healing:
1. Identity: Integrating a new understanding of self and your relationship to the world.
2. Executive functioning: Skills that help to problem solve, emotionally regulate and complete tasks.
If you jump straight to executive functioning tools you might be inadvertantly fueling long standing issues with identity.
Sometimes people can try to fix themselves or make themselves more "normal" when they are first diagnosed. However, this doesn't address the deepesr pain point, identity.
When I work with identity, you first learn how to be compassionate with yourself when you live in systems that weren't designed for you. Over the years this has likely eroded a sense of worthiness and belonging. You need tl fundamentally rewire a belief that you are somehow defective.
We need to start here. And then move to executive functioning from a place of holding your own hand to improve skills because that is what you want to do for yourself and the people around you.