The Deborah Wolf

The Deborah Wolf ๐˜š๐˜–๐˜”๐˜ˆ๐˜›๐˜๐˜Š ๐˜Ž๐˜œ๐˜๐˜‹๐˜Œ
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๐˜‰๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ๐˜บ-๐˜‰๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜บ
๐˜๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜บ + ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฉ
๐˜š๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ
๐˜š๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ค + ๐˜ˆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ
๐˜ž๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜™๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜›๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ

Sometimes people tell me they feel disconnected from themselves, but they canโ€™t quite explain how. Theyโ€™re functioning. ...
26/01/2026

Sometimes people tell me they feel disconnected from themselves, but they canโ€™t quite explain how.

Theyโ€™re functioning.
Theyโ€™re showing up.
Nothing is โ€œwrongโ€ enough to point to.
And yet they feel far away from their own centre.

This kind of disconnection usually didnโ€™t happen overnight.
It formed slowly, for good reasons.

Somatic work offers a gentle way back.
Not by pushing, but by restoring trust with your own sensations again.

There was a time in my life where intimacy happened mostly above the neck. I could connect, touch, even desire, but my b...
25/01/2026

There was a time in my life where intimacy happened mostly above the neck. I could connect, touch, even desire, but my body often stayed at a careful distance, as if it were observing rather than fully joining in. I didnโ€™t have a name for this then. It was simply how my body learned to respond.

Bodies step back for many reasons. Sometimes closeness moves too quickly. Sometimes there hasnโ€™t been enough space, choice, or time to settle. Sometimes life itself asks more than the nervous system can comfortably hold.

Pulling away can be a quiet form of care, a way the system keeps itself intact when full presence doesnโ€™t yet feel possible.

Somatic s*x and intimacy work begins with listening. With pacing that honours what is genuinely available rather than what we think should be. With nervous system safety built slowly, without pressure. Curiosity becomes the guide, and the body sets the pace.

When we go slowly enough, something begins to shift. Sensation arrives in small, honest ways. A warmth. A softening. A flicker of desire that doesnโ€™t need to be acted on to be real. The nervous system learns it wonโ€™t be overwhelmed or rushed, and trust grows in its own time.

People often come to this work when numbness has become familiar and they sense there is more beneath it. What they are longing for isnโ€™t intensity, but contact. A feeling of being here again. A body that feels like home.

Somatic s*x and intimacy work offers a way back that is gentle, respectful, and deeply attuned. It meets you where you are and follows the bodyโ€™s timing. Feeling returns at the pace it can be welcomed, as something remembered rather than forced.

If something in you recognises this, sessions are open.
Bookings are in the bio ๐Ÿชž

Some ways of surviving are meant to be temporary.They arrive when we are young, overwhelmed, unprotected, or alone, and ...
22/01/2026

Some ways of surviving are meant to be temporary.

They arrive when we are young, overwhelmed, unprotected, or alone, and they do their work well.

They help us stay connected, stay safe and alive.

But what once protected us can quietly begin to confine us.

The same strategies that kept us from harm can later keep us small, muted, or far from ourselves.

The body knows when it is time to update the pattern, even when the mind resists. Long before words form, there is a felt sense that no longer resolves.

A grief for a life that wants to move but cannot yet find its way.

It is the nervous system sensing that a new chapter is ready to be lived.

๐ŸชžSomatic work honours this timing.

We do not rip old strategies away or shame the ways we learned to cope.

We move slowly enough to listen.

We thank what once kept us safe, and we allow the body to feel what is different now.

By offering Support and choice.
By resourcing the ground beneath our feet and receiving breath that can deepen without danger.

From this place, the grip begins to loosen on its own, and what emerges is often not something new, but something original, a self that was always there, waiting for the conditions to be right.

Safety is something the nervous system learns through consistency, not control.It forms slowly, through being met again ...
21/01/2026

Safety is something the nervous system learns through consistency, not control.

It forms slowly, through being met again and again without pressure, without being rushed, without having to perform or protect.

In intimacy work, this is everything.

When the body is bracing, it is not refusing connection. It is doing its job.

A braced nervous system cannot access pleasure, truth, or real closeness, because its primary task is survival.

No amount of intention or effort can override that.

The body must first feel that it is allowed to choose.
Allowed to pause.
Allowed to say yes, no, or not yet, and remain connected.

My sessions are devoted to this re education of restoring trust.

We listen to the bodyโ€™s timing, unwind habitual tension, and gently return sensation to places that learned to go quiet.

Over time, choice comes back online. Presence deepens.
Intimacy becomes something that can be inhabited rather than endured.

I have learned how often I once mistook keeping the peace for love.How quickly I learned to soften my edges, to make my ...
20/01/2026

I have learned how often I once mistook keeping the peace for love.

How quickly I learned to soften my edges, to make my truth smaller, to quiet my own knowing so that connection might stay intact.

At the time, this felt like intimacy. What it was, was a slow leaving of myself.

The body remembers these departures. Over time, something vital began to thin. Desire did not vanish all at once. It faded. Sensation dulled.

The body learned that closeness asked for disappearance, and in its great intelligence, it protected itself by going quiet.

Somatic work, including Somatic Sexology gave me language for what my body already knew.
This was not failure.
It was not brokenness.

It was the nervous system choosing safety when truth felt too costly.

Desire does not organise itself where voice is held back.
Arousal does not rise where consent is shaped by fear of loss.
Intimacy cannot take root where the self must be abandoned to belong.

Through this work, intimacy revealed itself not as performance or technique, but as condition.

A body that is allowed to speak.
Boundaries that are honoured.

The capacity to stay present in sensation while remaining in relationship. When these conditions return, desire often follows without being chased.

This is the ground my work stands on. The slow and careful reclamation of the self. So connection no longer requires disappearance. So intimacy can be lived with integrity. So desire is free to move again.

Client spaces are now open. Link in bio ๐Ÿชž

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One of the deepest lessons last year has offered me is the power of pause.The pause before speaking.Before acting.Before...
19/01/2026

One of the deepest lessons last year has offered me is the power of pause.

The pause before speaking.
Before acting.
Before explaining.
Before placating.

In that pause, something older than habit rises to the surface.

So much of our intimacy suffering comes from moving too quickly.
From responding before we have felt.
From agreeing before we have arrived.

In my sessions, the pause is sacred.

It is where sensation gathers meaning and where consent becomes real.

Iโ€™m currently taking bookings, head to my bio ๐Ÿชž

This year returned me, again and again, to the simple truth that the body speaks first. Long before insight.Long before ...
18/01/2026

This year returned me, again and again, to the simple truth that the body speaks first.

Long before insight.
Long before decision.
Long before courage.

It speaks through tightness, exhaustion, ache, numbness, sudden clarity.

These are not obstacles to be overcome.
They are the language of the soul moving through flesh.

In my work, this is where everything begins now.

Not with fixing, not with performing healing, but with listening.

To what the body has been faithfully communicating all along.

In 2026, I am opening space for those who are ready to come back into relationship with their own somatic truth, gently, at the pace the nervous system can trust.

Bookings in bio ๐Ÿชž

This year did not arrive gently. It arrived with el duende, that fierce, animate spirit that comes to move what has grow...
18/01/2026

This year did not arrive gently. It arrived with el duende, that fierce, animate spirit that comes to move what has grown rigid.

A spirit alive with knowing, tipping the loose stones beneath the towers we have learned to stand on, so we might lift our eyes and remember the stars.

It can feel like a death. A dark night that carries the soul out of a pit we have already outgrown and sets us down on a sandy shore, where even the sea holds light.

All of this so we might come back into the simple, miraculous fact of having a body. Two arms. Two legs. Belly. Spine. Breath. A life that still wants to be lived from the inside.

Where have you been suffering quietly?

Where have you been smoothing yourself thin, placating, shrinking, keeping the peace at your own expense?

What is the voice beneath the floorboards, the one that creaks at night, trying to say to you?

When el duende arrives, the game changes. The wind shifts.

Suddenly we are standing at a threshold, feeling what has been, what is here now, and what is waiting to be born.

The old way becomes unbearable to keep carrying. The self who endured without voice asks to be released.

Many of us are feeling this not as a thought, but as a sensation. In the body. In the heart. In the quiet insistence of something that has been trying to speak for a long time.

In moments like this, women have always turned toward one another. We gather. We sit in circle. We let our stories breathe. We remember that being witnessed is a form of medicine.

Tonight we are opening the Womenโ€™s Red Tent in Ocean Shores.
A place to arrive as you are.
A place where listening is slow and generous.
A place where nothing needs to be solved.
A place where being held among other women is enough.

If this beginning of the year has stirred something in you, if you feel the call to be heard, you are welcome.

The fire is lit.

6-9pm Ocean Shores โ™ฅ๏ธ

18/01/2026

In the old stories, a boy does not become a man by conquest, but by descent.

He goes down into the places where grief lives and learns to sit beside consequence without hardening or fleeing.

This is an initiation many modern men are never guided through, and yet here it is, carried by this beautiful young manโ€™s voice whoโ€™s willing to stay.

What is being transmitted is the Masculine Soul.

The deep deep deep masculinity that stays with feeling without being undone by it. It names sorrow without handing it to others to carry.

This song is calling something back from the dark. A man standing at the edge of a forest he did not build, singing to the parts of himself that wandered off.

Young men are starving for images of masculinity that do not demand numbness or dominance as the price of belonging.

They are hungry for elders who say, โ€œYou may feel. You may ache. You may grieve. And you will still stand.โ€

This is how sons learn, through resonance.

Strength is not armour.
Strength is presence.
Strength is staying.

When a man sings like this, something in us loosen, because here is a man willing to be in process rather than pretend he is finished.

This is how wisdom travels now.
Through voices that say, Stay.
Listen.
Do not abandon yourself.

I feel hope when I hear this.

The kind that knows culture changes through resonance, through men who choose to remain human and quietly teach others how to do the same.

For nine years now, I have been sitting with women in the Red Tent.It is a place shaped by listening and tending, by rem...
18/12/2025

For nine years now, I have been sitting with women in the Red Tent.

It is a place shaped by listening and tending, by remembering what becomes possible when women gather without urgency or performance, and are allowed to be exactly where they are.

Tonight, I will be holding the last Womenโ€™s Red Tent for the year in Ocean Shores. With what has unfolded in my hometown of Bondi, this circle feels especially timely. A place to come together, to feel, to grieve, and to let the body do what it knows how to do when it is not alone.

Women come to Red Tent when something in them knows it is time to stop carrying everything by themselves. When the inner life needs warmth, rhythm, and the simple medicine of being witnessed.

You can find the details here:
https://www.deborahwolf.com.au/

Or direct message me ๐ŸŒน

The soul does not rush.It circles closer the way a wild animal does, testing the air, listening for whether the ground i...
16/12/2025

The soul does not rush.
It circles closer the way a wild animal does, testing the air, listening for whether the ground is safe to receive it.
When it comes near, there is weight.
A gravity that presses old stories to the surface of the body.

You feel it and you know.
This is not the time for doing.
This is the time for lying still and letting the bones listen.

The eyes turn inward.
Downward.
Toward a dark that has always been there, waiting patiently.
This dark does not belong to childhood or mother or family story.
It belongs to the deeper river, the one that runs under womenโ€™s lives no matter what name they give it.

You descend because you have descended before.
The feet remember.
The way opens.

The waters rise.
Heavy waters.
They take you where effort loosens its grip, where strength gives way to something older.
There is a moment in these crossings when the body finally understands it does not need to hold itself together so tightly.
The hands open.
The jaw softens.
The breath slips back into places long forgotten.

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THE RED TENT โ€ข OCEAN SHORESThis Wednesday โ€ข Fortnightly GatheringThe Red Tent is back this Wednesday, and our womenโ€™s ci...
08/12/2025

THE RED TENT โ€ข OCEAN SHORES
This Wednesday โ€ข Fortnightly Gathering

The Red Tent is back this Wednesday, and our womenโ€™s circle continues every two weeks - a soft landing place in the middle of life.

This is a slow, nourishing space for women to rest, soften, share, and be held without pressure or performance.

A remembering of the old ways.
A place where your whole self is welcome.

In each Red Tent you can expect..
โ–ณ Tea, food, warmth and gentle connection
โ–ณ Sharing whatโ€™s alive in you
โ–ณ Somatic practices for grounding
โ–ณ Craft, story, ritual or simple presence
โ–ณ A circle where rest is sacred and nothing is forced

Some nights we laugh.
Some nights we cry.
Some nights one woman is held deeply by the whole circle.
Every night is real.

You donโ€™t need to be spiritual or โ€œknow what to say.โ€ Just come as you are.

โ–ณ Every second Week in Ocean Shores
โ–ณ Next Circle: This Wednesday 6-9pm
โ–ณ Message me for details or to join the group

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Mullumbimby & Tweed Heads
Byron Bay, NSW
2481

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