25/12/2023
If you are feeling stressed, or sad, or angry, or invisible or overwhelmed. A reminder that Christmas is like any other day where you still get to meet your needs first.
You can:
- take breaks (take a walk, find a quiet room, go get ice, do a quiet activity like drawing)
- leave early (better to leave whilst you're still having fun than staying too long)
- ask to have your sensory needs met (e.g. "THAT is a bit too (noisy/smelly/loud/close/much) for me - what would work for me is if ...
- we turn it down ...
- I leave the room when...
- I do this instead ...
More sensory strategies here: https://www.easyreadtoolbox.info/having-a-sensory-friendly-holiday-season-for-2023
- Even if you are having fun, it can still be draining. Watch your energy levels and don't push yourself further than you need/want to.
- You are allowed to feel the feelings that you have, whatever they are (plenty of people are not having a good time today, you are not alone in this).
- The ABC has an interesting article on dealing with rude things (bc hello, family pressure + money stress + alcohol + other life stressors = recipe for not always great social interactions) https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/how-to-respond-to-inappropriate-comments-this-christmas/103185956
And if today you are not with those who you want to be with or you are not where you want to be with - I see that grief and that is real. It can feel really invisible to not have the family Christmas that is the expectation. Or to have to give you child to your ex partner halfway on the day or to alternate Christmases. It's a tough day. I hope you find a moment for you to honour all those different feelings and parts of yourself.
If you have any really good strategies to get through your Christmas feel free to share x (or message me and I can share for you).
Got a misogynistic in-law or conspiracy theorist cousin you'll have to peel prawns next to this Christmas? These phrases might help you prepare for any awkwardness that goes down.