05/03/2026
No one sets out to become a “ragey” mum.
We likely envisioned responding with warmth, patience, nurturing, and understanding. So when we experience rage, we often wonder if something is wrong with us. But maybe we’re not the problem. Perhaps, it's the unrealistic pressure, expectations, and overwhelm modern mothers carry.
At its core, “Mum rage” is frustration at not being supported, resentment at the invisible load that so often falls to mums, and an overall feeling of injustice and the unachievable pressure of perfection.
But mum rage is also irritability, frustration, and anger in our day-to-day parenthood, often resulting in outbursts of frustration at our child or our partner.
It’s fuelled by physical factors, such as hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, or unmet physical needs as well as emotional factors, such as relationship conflict, childhood wounds and generational cycles surfacing, or a lack of time for ourselves and our passions. And, it’s also fuelled by a society that pushes us to do more, keep up appearances, and handle it all without batting an eye.
You’re not an angry mum—you’re a mum with needs whose body is trying to tell you that something needs to give. Putting your needs above others is OK, in fact it's so very important 💗
