08/09/2025
Awareness is a Solvent!
Anger, when held with care, can fuel action. Instead of burning us up from the inside or spilling out sideways, it can become the spark that helps us create change.
But how do we begin?
By noticing
Awareness itself is a powerful medicine. It dissolves the unconscious patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of judgment, perfectionism & shame.
- When I notice the tightness in my chest before showing up in a body that feels bloated or tired.
- When I catch the thought that I won’t be “enough” unless I look or perform a certain way…
- When I simply see how these external expectations play out in my body and my choices…
Something shifts.
Awareness brings light to the dark & births choice.
Often, it’s not the big dramatic gestures that liberate us. It’s the small, tender, clumsy steps. The slow reclaiming of our bodies, our sovereignty & worth
So if this feels overwhelming—start here:
Just notice:
- the pressure
- the compulsion to be perfect
- what the fear or shame would say if you turn up imperfectly or make a mistake
- Notice how it feels in your body
- Where you feel it in your body
It is not just a mentalised concept, this is an internalised adaptation to external pressures & it is most effectively transformed when we take the time to feel it beyond the words.
Your attention is a nutrient. It’s a first, beautiful act of RESISTANCE.
How might you bring awareness to the places you feel pressure to be perfect most strongly this week?
Here’s a gentle practice you can try:
1. Pause + Notice
Take a breath. Notice where you feel the pressure of expectation in your body. Is it tight shoulders? A knot in your belly? A squeeze in your heart?
2. Stay With It
Instead of pushing it away, simply bring your attention there. You don’t need to fix it. Just notice. Awareness dissolves.
3. Offer Support
If it feels good, place a hand where you feel it most. Breathe into that space. Offer your body presence, warmth & compassion. Tell this part of you it is lovable, worthy, safe just as it is.
4. Choose Slowly
From this place of awareness, you may feel a little more choice. A little more sovereignty. Small steps matter. Even clumsy ones.