Petra Samlow Wellness

24/04/2026

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A trauma bond is like having a drug addiction; when you get love and attention your body produces feel-good chemicals, when the love is withdrawn you crave that feeling again, so you go back to try and get that release of feeling good again. This can leave you stuck in an addictive cycle; feeling good, then being in withdrawal…. This can explain why someone may stay with a narcissist, narcissists often have cycles where they may show intense interest, to periods where they actually seek to destroy their partner. See full video on my YouTube channel.

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19/04/2026

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/rQeWQ2Lbu-Q A trauma bond is more than just a difficult relationship. It is a relationship where there is both connection and pain. Love and pain can feel like the same thing. The unfortunate part is that you tend to go back to the same person for relief from the pain that they caused you. See my full video about trauma bonds on my YouTube channel.

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14/04/2026

PTSD doesn’t only show up in obvious ways. 🩶It can show up in everyday moments, in relationships, at home, or at work… in how we respond to feedback, authority, pressure, or even subtle interactions with others.

A comment can feel more critical than it was.
A look can feel like disapproval.
A situation can trigger a level of stress that doesn’t quite match what’s actually happening.

From the outside, it can be misunderstood as being “too sensitive” or “overreacting.” But often, it’s not about the present moment. It’s a nervous system responding to something familiar.

Why do you feel triggered in situations that don’t seem to justify such a strong reaction?In this video, I explain how Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) ...

13/04/2026

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12/04/2026

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11/04/2026

Always doing the right thing seems like it would be a good trait to have. However, if doing the right thing leads to self-abandonment, then it isn’t so great! See my full video about self-abandonment on my YouTube channel.

09/04/2026

If you are always striving for harmony in a situation, it might be that you are thinking that you will look after yourself later. Unfortunately, “later” may never come…This is what is called self abandonment. Full video is on my YouTube channel.

07/04/2026

Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn. These are the responses that we can take in response to danger.
Fight pushes back. Flight withdraws. Freeze shuts down. Fawn appeases.
The issue is, if we keep appeasing, that is, giving into other people’s demands, we can abandon our selves. See my full video about self-abandonment on my YouTube channel.

06/04/2026

TRAUMA-BOND 🖤 😢
You know the relationship isn’t right…so why is it so hard to leave? 😕 🤔

Trauma bonds are often misunderstood. They are not a sign of weakness or lack of awareness—they are a reflection of how the human nervous system adapts to certain relational patterns.

When connection and pain become intertwined, the brain begins to associate relief with the very source of distress. This is reinforced through what we call intermittent reinforcement, an unpredictable cycle of closeness, withdrawal, and reconnection.

Over time, this creates a powerful attachment pattern that can feel strikingly similar to addiction. Not because the person is “addicted to love,” but because the system becomes conditioned to seek relief from the cycle itself.
This is why leaving can feel overwhelming, even when there is clear awareness that the relationship is not healthy.

In this video, I explain:
- What a trauma bond is
- Why it feels so strong
- Why it can resemble addiction
- Why creating distance is often the first step toward clarity

If this is something you’ve experienced, or work with in your field, it may offer a helpful perspective.

Why do you keep going back…even when you know it hurts?In this video, I explain what a trauma bond is, why it can feel so strong, and why it can be so diffic...

03/04/2026

Being kind is a great virtue. But are you being kind just to keep the peace? Are you sacrificing yourself for others all of the time? Has being kind become part of your persona to the point where you abandon your own needs? See my video about self-abandonment on my YouTube channel.

01/04/2026

Is bad love familiar? Unfortunately we are drawn to what is familiar, even when it comes to thing that aren’t good for us. This includes love. We may be drawn to someone because there behaviours seem familiar, but familiar doesn’t mean good! Full video is on my YouTube channel.

30/03/2026

In my previous posts I discussed lust, romance and attachment in relationships, whilst there are many pitfalls with these, they still form part of a healthy relationship. See my full video on YouTube about what a healthy relationship looks like.