Petra Samlow Wellness

02/03/2026

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/1DL1hvHiCbU

Do you constantly put others first? Avoid confrontation? Pride yourself on doing “the right thing,” Sometimes what looks like kindness, isn’t weakness, it’s ...

01/03/2026

https://youtu.be/Cx8MpoXSo7E?si=H_y3eA-LZ0lQoAK5

If you constantly put others first…avoid confrontation…and pride yourself on doing “the right thing,” this video is for you. Sometimes what looks like kindne...

22/02/2026

Fear of success is a fear of the consequences of success, not of the success itself. It is important to work out what you are fear; is it a family value that rich people are bad? Is a fear of standing out? Once you understand what the fear is, you can work on that fear and strive towards success. Full video is on my Youtube channel.

17/02/2026

If you fear something, you are actually fearing the potential negative consequence. If you fear success, you are not fearing the positives that you image, you fear any potential negatives. These fears are often subconsciously formed in childhood. Therefore it is important to learn what associations you formed about success when you were a child, to enable you to break free and succeed! Full video about fearing success is on my YouTube channel.

16/02/2026

If you fear success, it’s not the actual achievement that you fear, it’s what comes with it. Increased visibility which increases scrutiny, perhaps you can’t outshine your caregivers, or, success may have been associated with negativity.
So, it is important to distinguish between what you want to achieve, and the associated fears.

11/02/2026

https://youtube.com/shorts/pMso2Wn8hNs?si=pdzyP9sqfkU7GtQR
Short posted on our Samlow & Samlow Wellness YouTube channel.

There can be many reasons for someone becoming a narcissist. There are genetics, but their childhood plays an important part. Someone can become a narcissist...

11/02/2026

https://youtube.com/shorts/A6eUVifXbQM?si=XuO6CKFM1gO57Gyl
New short on YouTube. Check out my channel for full video about self regulation.

Part 2 of self regulation. If you are having a conflict with your partner, you may not be responding to the actual situation, you may be responding to a perc...

08/02/2026

If you struggle with strong reactions, shutdown, defensiveness, or self-blame, especially in relationships, this isn’t a failure. It’s a nervous-system story. Self regulation is learnt during childhood, if you had less than an ideal childhood you may suffer with self regulation issues now. Your reactions now can be a reaction not to the present, but to how you responded in the past. New behaviours can be learnt! Full video is on my YouTube channel.

03/02/2026

Get to know your partner’s childhood. This will help you understand their reactions to different situations. Your partner may be reacting to how they had to react as a child, not to the current situation. If you get to understand your partners childhood, it can help you understand why they may react in certain ways during conflict. Conflict may trigger childhood responses that may not be a reflection of you, but a past parent or caregiver.

03/02/2026

https://youtu.be/BPGqfyjv8e4?si=xfmlPf2KdpuaJjLO
My new video on YouTube

If you’ve ever thought "It's like I can't regulate my own emotions", I understand myself really well and I've done so much work on myself, so "Why do I still...

31/01/2026

We are usually drawn the what is familiar, not necessarily what is good for you. This is true with relationships, if we meet someone who feels familiar we have a tendency to be down to them. The problem is, if that familiar characteristic is not good for us, we can still be drawn to it.

26/01/2026

Do you ever doubt yourself even when you know you’re right?
Do you replay conversations, second-guess your perceptions, or look to others for reassurance, even when something inside you already knows the truth?

Self-doubt is rarely a lack of confidence, and more often a learned adaptation shaped early in life. During childhood you may have learnt that self-certainty carried a cost. If your perceptions as a child were dismissed, or your parent always had to be right, or your parents simply ignored your opinions, then subconsciously you learnt that your feelings or opinions don’t matter. You had to mould yourself to what was acceptable to your care-givers.

Over time, doubt can become a way of preserving connection, regulating relationships, and staying safe, even when it no longer serves us.

Self-doubt is not a flaw. It is often a form of loyalty to earlier safety.

Full video is on my YouTube channel.