Emjay Spa & Wellness

16/02/2026

Your face. My calendar.

Cleveland spots are available this week.

If skin is flaring or you’re feeling run down, don’t overthink it.

Book online or message me.

16/02/2026

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15/02/2026

Be patient with your process.
You are transforming.

Pain is always challenging, but it often leads us to our greatest metamorphoses. There are gifts and strengths within us that only emerge when they are required. Pain is not the only teacher, but many times it is a necessary one.

This does not mean we should remain trapped in pain, but rather use it as an impulse for growth and strengthening.

Healing our wounds, becoming stronger, and allowing our virtues to flourish is a process that takes time. This journey is filled with nuances, setbacks, and breakthroughs. Healing is not linear. It unfolds gradually.

When pain arrives, the invitation is to turn inward. To reflect on what it has come to teach us and what needs to change within us.

Little by little, transformation takes shape. What once hurt and felt like an ending becomes a beautiful beginning.

Do not be afraid of the changes in your life. Our experiences are cocoons that support our emotional metamorphosis and the birth of our best version.

DM - Daily Motivation by Alice

15/02/2026

I was watching a reel from The Drew Barrymore Show with Matthew Hussey as the guest.

They were talking about how we over function in relationships. Manage moods, anticipate needs, soften ourselves, perform strength. Try to secure love by being useful.

Matthew said something that landed hard.

The only person you are here to take care of is yourself.

It didn’t feel empowering. It felt exposing. It’s not what we learn in life or what is expected from us.

Because I’ve been running the exact pattern I talk about.

Still stepping in. Still buffering. Still making sure everyone else is okay before I check in with myself.

A friend asked me, “Have you given yourself permission?”

It stung. But she was right.

Since that question, what has come up hasn’t been motivation.

It’s been grief.
Grief for the years spent over responsible.
Grief for a nervous system that never clocked off.
Grief for how much energy went into keeping everyone else steady.

Plus sadness, guilt, fear, disappointment, insignificance and more. A lifetime of it. And it’s been looping because it’s like layers of an onion and until what’s sitting unconsciously is made conscious, you can’t see it. It takes safety and capacity.

When you stop rescuing, you feel what you’ve been carrying.

And here’s where I’m going to lovingly call something out.

Reading posts like this is not doing the work.

Education helps you recognise the pattern. It does not shift it in your body.

You nod. You share. You think “that’s me.”

But if you’re still over functioning tomorrow, nothing has changed.

Facials and massage help. They calm the surface. They give you breathing space.

But if your nervous system has been on duty for 30 years, that’s the level we have to work at.

That’s where the real shift happens.

I share here because I care. But deep nervous system work, grief work, pattern breaking - that needs proper containment and professional guidance.

In person. Online. Structured. Safe. I give you safety, support, resourcing, insight into patterns and the toolkit so you can help yourself in your own time as things come up for you.

If you’re ready to move from insight to integration, the booking link is on the Emjay website.

Not when you hit the wall.

When you’re ready to stop managing everyone else and finally come home to yourself.

Insight is lovely.
Integration takes support.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Bel x

15/02/2026

I had a client this week say,
“I thought it was just my age. I didn’t realise my body was that tense.”

Her skin wasn’t “ageing badly”.

It was inflamed.
Dehydrated.
On alert.

Two sessions focused on calming and barrier repair.

Redness reduced.
Sleep improved.
She felt clearer.

This is what happens when we stop fighting the skin and start settling the system.

Cleveland appointments are there if you’re ready

14/02/2026

You’re not “too sensitive”.

You’re overloaded.

If you:
• hold it together all week
• feel wired but exhausted
• wake at 3am
• have skin that flares when life ramps up

That’s a body that hasn’t fully switched off in years.

Most of what I treat in Cleveland isn’t just skin.

It’s stress patterns.

When the body softens, the face follows.

If this is you, book in.

13/02/2026

Valentine’s Day can stir things.

For some it’s lovely.
For some it’s lonely.
For some it’s just another day with washing and bills.

Midlife is different.

It’s less about grand gestures.
More about peace.
More about feeling settled in your own body.

If today brings up anything at all, just notice it.
No fixing. No performing. No pretending you’re fine.

A cup of tea.
A walk.
A quiet moment with yourself.

That counts too.

13/02/2026

Responsibility Without Blame and When Choice Returns Gently

There’s a lot of talk about personal responsibility.

For many people, that language doesn’t feel empowering.
It feels heavy.
Or shaming.
Or like they’re being told they should have handled things better.

That reaction makes sense.

Choice only exists when there is capacity.

When someone is exhausted, overwhelmed, burned out, or living in survival mode, their nervous system isn’t operating from choice. It’s operating from protection.

In those states, decisions are often about getting through, not about growth or change.

That doesn’t mean people are powerless.
It means their system has been prioritising safety.

Responsibility, in a trauma-informed sense, isn’t about blaming yourself for where you are.
It’s about recognising what is within your control once some space returns.

Awareness comes first.
Capacity comes next.
Choice comes after that.

For many people, the most meaningful “choice” at first is very small.

Noticing patterns.
Pausing instead of pushing.
Resting without earning it.
Setting one gentle boundary.
Reducing exposure to what drains them.
Asking for support instead of carrying it alone.

These aren’t dramatic decisions.
They’re regulating ones.

No one else can live inside your nervous system for you.
Support can guide. Therapy can help. Insight can illuminate.
But change doesn’t come from being fixed by someone else.

It comes from understanding how your system works and responding to it with care.

That doesn’t mean doing everything alone.
And it doesn’t mean forcing responsibility before safety exists.

It means recognising that your responses have made sense in context.
And that different responses become possible when the load eases.

Responsibility without blame sounds like:
“I see why my system did this.”
“I can choose differently now that I have more awareness.”
“I don’t need to punish myself to change.”

Nothing needs fixing first.
Nothing needs to be forced.

Change, when it’s real and sustainable, happens slowly and with respect for the nervous system.

And that kind of change tends to last.

13/02/2026

13/02/2026

Quick truth.

Over-exfoliating, stripping and “correcting” stressed skin makes it worse.

If your skin is reactive, aggressive treatments are not the flex.

Stabilising is.

Barrier repair.
Inflammation reduction.
Calming the body first.

That’s how you get long-term change.

If your skin has been flaring, stinging or burning, it’s time to settle it properly.

Cleveland bookings are open.

13/02/2026

If your skin has changed in the last few years…

More reactive.
More flushed.
More sensitive.
Slower to heal.
Suddenly “thin” or easily irritated.

That’s not random.

From mid-40s onwards, hormones shift.
Collagen changes.
Barrier repair slows down.

At the same time, many women are carrying more than they admit….. Work. Family. Ageing parents. Financial pressure. Health changes.

When the nervous system stays on alert for too long, the body diverts energy away from repair.

Inflammation rises faster.

Skin becomes less resilient.

It’s not just about products.
It’s about load.

When we calm the system and support the barrier properly, skin steadies.
Redness reduces.
Reactivity settles.
You feel more comfortable in your own face again.

This is the work I do at Emjay. And I’m told my facial massage is next level.

If your skin doesn’t feel like it used to, book in. Link in bio!

13/02/2026

If you don’t like loud clinics… you’ll like me.

If you don’t want three different therapists touching your face… you’ll like me.

If you want one person who actually knows your skin, your stress levels and your history… you’ll like me.

Emjay isn’t a conveyor belt.

It’s just me. Belinda.

One client at a time.
Boutique, calm Cleveland space.
Therapy dog. Door closed.

I’m a qualified skin therapist.

I’m also trained in somatics, hypnotherapy and trauma-informed energy work.

Which means I don’t just treat what’s showing up on your face.

I pay attention to what your body is holding.

Midlife skin isn’t random.
It reflects load. Hormones. Stress. Inflammation.

So we treat it properly.

Clinical skin work layered with nervous system understanding.

No production line.
No hard sell.
No pressure tactics.

If you prefer privacy, steadiness and dealing directly with the business owner, book in. The link is in the bio.