Raven Mercer

11/10/2022

29/09/2022

Tip #1
When you want to start changing the QUALITY of your relationships, it starts with your thoughts.

Positive thoughts create positive outcomes.

This does not mean that we don't have negative thoughts.

It means that if we practice mindfulness..that is being present in your mind and body with how you feel,
then even having lot's of negative thoughts and feelings can change.

So when you are feeling down or about someone not talking to you or making a commitment then just stop for 30 seconds.

Take a DEEP breath in and out 3 times.

Then ask yourself if the worry will change things.

Usually the answer is NO, worry won't change things.

Worry usually makes us feel worse and then nothing changes.

So when you feel worried, guilty or ashamed, I want you to try out taking those breaths and then talking to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend.

Offer yourself the love, forgiveness and compassion that you would give to someone you love.

I hear " But Raven, you don't understand! I NEED
THIS PERSON to love me!"

My loving response is "Do you really need love from outside of your self?"

Although we are taught to think that love is OUTSIDE of us in the form of a lover, friendship or family, in truth that outside love is a reflection of how we feel inside.

See where I am going with this?

Every thought becomes our reality..it's the law of attraction.

How we feel is our key to healing, to abundance and better relationships.

When read tge book The Secret and when we read the beautiful poems of Rumi, we start to see something more that what we are taught.

I am here as a guide to help you heal old thought patterns and coach you through what comes up.

I am your guiding light back to your loving heart so you can have the resilience and confidence to live YOUR best life.

~Raven

29/09/2022

I want to share something with you all.

A realisation so painful that I didn't want to accept it.

These last few days, I have been DEEP in emotional release.

The weeks prior I had burnt myself out..again..for the millionth time.

I had been playing out my own trauma loop of "I have to do this ALL on my own without support."

" I have to take care of everything because I can not rely on others to help or really have my back."

This was my trauma loop but let me be clear..this is NOT a pity party.

This loop was my subconscious survival instincts playing out.

As such I didn't realise how ATTACHED I had become to the pain of this concept.

My partner n I had an argument about it..again.

I was blaming. He said to me "You need to let go of your control of things and TRUST me with things too."

I lost my self to the pain of that comment, but he was right.

I didn't trust him to do things, I had just become caught up in my trauma response of "Doing".

Granted he played his role too, he hadn't seen or felt into where I needed support so he could nudge me open.

I went to a dark place inside myself.

I was wondering why this was emerging, why now?

I had just done some deep healing around worthiness to receive.

Oh..right..I got it, I was letting go of my old narrative and everything associated with it was playing out to heal.

I thought I had reached the end of my relationship, that was the old pattern. .I grow and they drop away.

Not this time, no this time it was my trauma voice that was wrong.

Reality was different but I had to fully surrender to the concept of loss before I could let go long enough to allow my dreams to be recieved.

Sometimes it's the letting go of the trauma patterns and the preconceived ideas around one's experience that allows everything you want, deserve and need to manifest.

I didn't realise that I was holding onto the ideas that had kept me safe at one point so tightly that they were now forming the cage I so desperately wanted to be free from.

We all can build cages of our own device, driven by the need for safety.

My question is "when does our safety become our cage and is not longer our Sanctuary?"

Each of us has had some form of this..I am sending love to that part of you.

I see you, feel you and deeply know you.

There is hope, there is freedom.

There is also help available, don't be afraid to reach out ❤️

25/09/2022

What is a love message?

You will hear me talk about a love message as part of the healing work I offer.

What exactly IS a love message in the context of healing?

In the context of the healing I offer, a love message is the words, sentences or phrases we seek to FULLY RELEASE AND INTERGRATE the story that forms the core of a trauma pattern.

In finding the love message, we are able to hit the metaphorical "reset " button on our trauma responses to that particular trauma.

For example, When you find the love message to release and integrate your unworthiness trauma, you then can become mentally and emotionally free to FEEL and RESPOND differently in situations that may have triggered you previously.

~Raven

23/09/2022

Relationships are not always easy, there is give and take, compromise and balancing.

Yet many of us have experienced relationships where we were expected to give more than we received.

In these relationships narcissistic and other form of emotional abuse become fairy common.

We may wonder "why me"? What did I do to deserve this, I am a good loyal and honest person.

Then we start to feel desperate for love and think to our selves
"If I give more will you love me?"

This is a pattern of thinking that has lead us into attracting the situation we are in, where our needs are needs for love and support or not being met.

The GOOD NEWS?

EVERY thought pattern has a starting point and a love message that helps us to CHANGE the thought pattern and make a new pattern.

This means doing the work over a time period.

Your choice now is this: how long do you want to take to heal?

YEARS or WEEKS?

I can help you heal by guiding you through a shamanic timeline therapy system with full support and extras..in just 7 weeks.

DM me "7" if you would like to learn more about my offer

22/09/2022

As a deeply feeling woman who has experienced emotional abuse from an ex partner, I know how it feels to have pain in my heart.

I know how it feels to ache and wish the pain away.

To scream "WHY!!" and desperately seek for answers.

Then when the answers came it surprised me.

There were so many patterns that showed me where I hadn't loved myself.

I did not understand why self love was so import, I wanted someone OUTSIDE of me to love me.

Then I learned a secret, that everything I wanted in the outside world had to be ATTRACTED to me by my inner thoughts.

The #1 key to everything we desire is to uncover the thoughts and beleifs that are BLOCKING what ever it is that we desire.

We do this through finding what is called a "love message " from our experiences.

That is what I do, I help you find the "love message" to release blockages.

I empower you with emotional tools and support so you can then ATTRACT what your heart wants most.

Pm me "Transform" for information about my Transform your relationships in 7 weeks course.

21/09/2022

Your inner confidence is like the moon.

At times it may seem to be eclipsed by pain, grief and memory of the past but it's still there.

~Raven

21/09/2022

Behind every negative experience is a love message that releases it not only from this lifetime but across all the generational lifetimes via the inherited bloodline.

YES, you are that powerful