From 2 to 3

08/08/2023

Our past shapes and forms who we are and how we walk in the world. Many times we are walking around as what we think is our adult, however it is our child part that is out the front and leading the way, making decisions for us. This is often when we see over reactivity when needs, dreams, values, hopes, beliefs and expectations are not being met. The work is to then strengthen your adult part, to be your child parts advocate and have adult conversations to in turn build stronger authentic relationships with both yourself and with your partner.

27/07/2023

Most people I see find that they don’t feel heard, understood or validated in relationship with their partner and the reality is both people are not hearing each other and instead pushing their own opinion, ideas and agenda. John Gottman calls this being in ‘Gridlock’. It is only by taking a position of curiosity and trying to understand your partner’s experience that you truly get to know each other at a deeper level and create depth in the relationship.

24/07/2023

Structure in a relationship is often seen as restricting or limiting possibilities, however I have seen the opposite in relationships whereby both people’s needs feel considered and there is a mutual respect. Time is given for both the individual needs and for couple time, hence couples feel happier within self and within the relationship

29/06/2023

Structure is often seen as restricting or limiting possibilites, however I have seen the opposite in relationships whereby both people feel considered, there is mutual respect and needs are met!!! Overall couples feel happier within self and within the relationship.

22/05/2023

28/03/2023

S*x is the ultimate act of vulnerability and is about just ‘being’ together and surrendering into each other. It’s about closeness, kissing, hugging, touching, setting boundaries and if the mood takes you to having in*******se and an or**sm then so be it. It shouldn’t be the ultimate goal!! Many people stop having s*x as they feel they have to ‘go all the way’ and they just don’t have the energy to give at that particular time. Let me explain other ways that are just as intimate to create closeness.

24/03/2023

I can’t stress how important it is to have time out for self where we fill up our emotional cup with hobbies, friends and anything that makes us feel good as we then come back into the relationship feeling fulfilled and content and ready to invest into relationship. The same applies to putting time aside for couple time to go and have some fun and good times together. Then there is time needed to have fun as a family. All of this is not task focused, but more about being emotionally connected to each other.

13/03/2023

Healthy conflict is necesssary for increased intimacy and getting to know your partner better, hence bringing depth to your relationship. It’s having the tools to be able to talk through your differences with respect, kindness and honesty and removing what John Gottman refers to as The 4 Horseman - Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling.

15/12/2022

We all grew up in a family of origin where there were family rules, values, expectations, beliefs and what was deemed as appropriate or not appropriate. Your family influenced how you did your emotional experience and this all plays out in your adut relationships. Who we are today is influenced by where we have come from.

We all grew up ion a family of origin where there were family rules, values, expectations, beliefs and what was deemed as appropriate or not appropriate. Yo...

30/11/2022

Resentment ultimately causes distance in the relationship and shows itself as being over reactive or as I call it giving a 'side slap' of bitterness to our loved one. Resentments often belong to unresolved issues that have not been dealt with, so I encourage you to go back to the source of the resentment and have healing and then as a consequence closeness in your relationship.

Unresolved resentment often shows itself in relationships as little 'side slaps' of bitterness and in an argument as over reactive. Resentment causes distanc...

26/11/2022

People often put out a bid for connection and it is important in how we respond to eiother build love in the relationship or foster resentment. Here are some...

17/11/2022

Our language can play a big part in getting our needs met. Talking from the "I" promotes consctructive conversation, where talking from the "YOU" can be received as very attacking. Here's more on understanding the difference to promote a healthy relationship.

When we talk from the "I" we are expressing our own experience of how we feel, think, what it means to us and what we need. No one can rob that experience f...

17/11/2022

Many people ask for their desires, wants and needs by communicating from a place of criticism, attacking and contempt and the conversation usually goes pear ...

10/11/2022

01/12/2019

The power of just being with someone is very healing. Don’t underestimate how powerful your presence is!

We're here for you xx

30/11/2019

Food for thought.

25/11/2019

So true and great advice.

💕Good point

14/11/2019

Relationship counselling - Explaining what to expect when you come to see me.

02/11/2019

A main ingredient for a healthy loving relationship!

29/10/2019

Be careful with
a man’s heart.
It is a precious thing.

Vulnerability lives there
in equal measure
to courage.

Let him show you.
Hold him there.
Be openness.
Be space.
Be acceptance.
Be love.

When he has hopes,
say, “Tell me more,”
When he has fears,
say, “Tell me more.”

Let your body
be a cradle.

When he opens,
he may have tears.
Welcome each one.
Kiss them.

When he is
weary, say,
“Come,
put your head
in my lap
I will stroke
your hair
and love you.”

When he
is brave,
shine your eyes
at him
and let him see
your pride.

Open your heart
to him
Trust him
to feel it.

When he loves you,
really loves you,
surrender.

When he is handsome,
which is every day,
kiss him
tenderly,
with love.
Then lingeringly,
with deep passion.
Then more.
More.
More.

Know this:
His heart is yours.
There is no difference.
There is no difference.
When he gives it
to you,
treat it like a treasure.
There is no difference.

- Unknown Author (If you know please inform so we can credit.)

24/09/2019

A good read that well explains her start and her symptoms

Hours of late-night Googling revealed two options for my symptoms: Baby blues or postpartum depression. Where did I fit in? Nowhere, it seemed.

24/09/2019

Love this. Life has many bumps. Get the support you need so you can keep moving forward!

Love this. 💜

18/09/2019

So simple yet so effective to meet your needs and the needs of others!

17/09/2019

The unconditional love of a dog does amazing things to our hearts and souls. I just love dogs!!

06/09/2019

So true!

Life on social media.

Credit: Eunoia

06/09/2019

To have true healing you have to go through it and not around it!

03/09/2019

❤

03/09/2019

Always. 💜

27/08/2019

This message has a great message for all to learn from!!

26/08/2019

LMAO.

26/08/2019

Don't forget to love yourself - just the way you are ❤️

24/08/2019

Study explores how interpersonal synchronization could help to decrease pain.

23/08/2019

Please reach out for help if you are struggling as you don’t need to do it on your own! We can do it together!!

Anna Ceesay tried to hide it when she began to feel depressed and anxious during her second pregnancy.

22/08/2019

This is pretty wonderful.

22/08/2019

Breaks give you time to calm down, deepen your perspective, and have a successful “do-over” with your partner.

16/08/2019

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14/08/2019

So true! Self care is the least selfish thing you can do!!

Anxiety really skews our priorities.
It's okay to focus on YOU and what will keep you going. ♥

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