Mind Moves Counselling

04/11/2025

How well do you know the people in your life?

21/10/2025

🌿 Work-Life Balance Reminder 🌿
Recently, I paused to metaphorically “smell the roses” — and literally enjoy the magic of Darwin. An evening at the Deckchair Cinema, surrounded by good friends, delicious African food, and the gentle rhythm of rain during the movie (thankfully missing the earlier storm!).
It was a beautiful reminder of the city I call home and the deep value of friendship, community, and slowing down.
In the midst of supporting others, it’s vital to refill our own cup. This night did just that. 💛

11/10/2025

Recently I read a post:
Do you take photos of the volcano on the lake… or do you reflect on your own eruptions?

It made me pause.

We all erupt sometimes — anger, overwhelm, frustration. But reflection isn’t just about looking back and asking why. It’s about understanding what we were feeling in that moment, and how those feelings shaped our actions.

Because if we don’t understand the emotion behind the eruption — the fear, the hurt, the unmet need — we’re left with lava that scorches relationships and leaves us confused by our own reactions.

🧠 Self-reflection without emotional awareness can feel like trying to read a map without knowing where you are.

💛 Emotional understanding helps us locate ourselves — so we can reflect with clarity, compassion, and the intention to grow.

Let’s not just look at the volcano.

Let’s learn from the eruption.

10/10/2025

🧠 Finding Space for Uncomfortable Emotions
Lately, I’ve been sitting with a theme that comes up often in sessions:
We push uncomfortable emotions aside—burying them under busyness, distraction, or silence. But emotions don’t vanish. They wait. They build. And eventually… they erupt.
Sometimes that eruption looks like snapping at someone we love, making impulsive choices, or saying things we wish we could take back.
Other times, it’s quieter—slipping into anxiety, depression, or even physical illness.
I hear things like:
💬 “I don’t feel anything.”
💬 “I don’t want to feel—it’s too hard.”
And I get it. Feeling is hard. Naming emotions is hard.
But avoiding them doesn’t erase them—it just delays the impact.
What I’ve learned—and what I gently guide my clients toward—is this:
✨ Feeling is freeing.
✨ Naming emotions opens the door to healing.
✨ Making space for discomfort also makes space for joy, connection, and growth.
Let’s normalize emotional honesty. Let’s make room for the full human experience.
If this resonates, share it. Someone else might need the reminder too.
And if you’re struggling, please know—you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to help. 💛
📍 Palmerston City, NT
📩 DM or reach out via beth@mindmovescounselling.com

17/09/2025

Domestic & Family Violence is a Human Rights Issue

DFV isn’t just about conflict—it’s about control, fear, and the violation of basic human rights.

Everyone deserves: ✨ Safety in their own home
✨ Respect and dignity
✨ Freedom to make choices
✨ To be heard without fear

When these rights are taken away through violence, manipulation, or control, it’s not just a relationship issue—it’s a human rights issue.

Let’s change the conversation:
💬 From “Why don’t they leave?” to “How can we support their rights?”
💬 From silence to action
💬 From blame to compassion

If you or someone you know is affected, please reach out. Help is available. Healing is possible. 💛

13/09/2025

🌿 Creating a Place for Connection
Two and a half years ago,
I left my role in an NGO to start a private practice.
Did it unfold the way I envisioned?

No.
And yet… it has become something deeply meaningful.
I thought I’d be working solely with high-conflict individuals navigating the family law space—which I do.

I made a conscious decision to leave family therapy behind.
No children. No couples. No relationship counselling.

But here I am—working with families, couples, children, and individuals facing anxiety, depression, trauma, suicidal ideation, and family violence.

One thread runs through much of this work:

Abuse and conflict.
Often hidden. Often unspoken
I struggled, especially with working one-on-one with children.
Was I achieving anything?
It felt like playtime—candle making, painting, clay models, beading.
Was this therapy?

I brought this to my clinical supervisor.
And slowly, I began to see it differently.
I was building connection.
Creating safe spaces.
Meeting people where they are—not where I thought we should be.

That connection opened doors.
Children began to share their stories, their pain, their hopes.
And through that connection, we began to explore ways forward.

This week, a mother called me.
She said her child loves coming to sessions.
He seems calmer at home.
But then she said something that stopped me in my tracks:

“He wants to talk about feelings.
He wants to understand how I’m feeling.
He’s learning how to express himself.”

That’s when I knew—I’m on the right path.
We don’t often get feedback in this work.
But when we do, it’s powerful.

My office is small.
It’s filled with pieces of me—crystals, artwork, weighted toys, paints, crafting gear.
I often suggest moving to a larger space.
But unless it’s a big family, the answer is always:
“No thank you. Your office feels welcoming. I feel safe here.”
And that’s what therapy is.
Not just a room.
Not just a technique.
But a place where people feel safe enough to be real.

💬 Let’s keep the conversation going.
Have you ever found healing in unexpected places?
What does safety look like to you?

12/09/2025

RUOK Day was yesterday. But what about today?

We’re encouraged—once a year—to ask, “Are you OK?”
To check in with friends, neighbours, colleagues.
To reach out in the hope of catching someone who might be silently struggling:
💔 someone grieving deeply
💭 someone battling suicidal thoughts
🏚️ someone living with unseen domestic and family violence

But why do we wait for a single day to ask the question?

What happens when you ask… and they say “No, I’m not OK”?
What if you’re not OK either?

These moments are raw. They’re real. And they’re messy.
Because truthfully, many of us don’t answer honestly.
We say “I’m fine”—because it’s easier, safer, less confronting.
We fear burdening others. We fear judgment. We fear vulnerability.

So maybe the real question isn’t just “Are you OK?”
Maybe it’s:
🔹 Can I hold space for you, even if I’m hurting too?
🔹 Can we be not-OK together, and still feel safe?
🔹 Can we build a culture where checking in is everyday, not once a year?

Let’s make emotional honesty part of our daily lives.
Let’s ask, listen, and respond with compassion—not just on RUOK Day, but every day.

Because healing begins with connection.
And sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is say: “No, I’m not OK.”

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