26/04/2026
Some of the behaviours that activate us most as parents are sometimes signs of healthy development in motion.
Arguing. Privacy. Rule-testing. Emotional intensity. Even caring deeply about peers.
That doesn’t mean every behaviour is fine or limits disappear. It means behaviour is often more meaningful when we see the developmental task underneath it.
When we respond only to the surface, we tend to escalate.
When we respond to what the behaviour may be doing for the teen, we often get more traction.
Which one do you find hardest to hold perspective around: 1 through 7?