Kyssanda Robinson Holistic Counselling Services

13/11/2025

11/11/2025

When anxiety hits, you don’t need to control it — you need to come back home to yourself.

Try this:
1️⃣ Notice five things you can see
2️⃣ Name three things you can touch
3️⃣ Take one long exhale — longer than your inhale

Your body holds the map back to calm. You just need to follow the cues.

🪞Which one will you try today?

11/11/2025

Say yes when you mean no.
Laugh when it hurts.
Soften your tone, shrink your needs, explain yourself into exhaustion…
And the world calls it “mature,” “easygoing,” “nice.”

But really?
It’s just self-abandonment in a socially approved costume.
It’s what happens when your nervous system learns that being chosen requires being digestible.

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🧠 THE SCIENCE:

Your nervous system is wired for survival before logic.
In trauma, the ventral vagal system (responsible for connection and safety) gets hijacked —
and fawning becomes a strategy to protect you from disconnection or threat.

It looks like people-pleasing.
Over-functioning.
Being “the chill one.”
Going silent to avoid conflict.
Saying yes just to feel safe.

Over time, your body starts to associate self-expression with danger —
and self-abandonment with survival.

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🌀 SOMATIC TRUTH:

You’re not indecisive.
You’re not “bad at boundaries.”
You’re not too much.

You just haven’t felt safe enough to stay with yourself yet.

That’s not something you fix.
It’s something you relearn — in the body, with compassion, at your pace.

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💠 Inside my 6-week 1:1 coaching, we gently unhook these patterns.

We work at the level of the nervous system — not willpower.
We explore why you keep leaving yourself, and help you build the inner safety to come home.
No shame. No pushing. No fixing.

Just truth.
And a soft landing back into your body.

10/11/2025

It starts innocently.
You’re in a space that seems safe.
The message sounds good.
You tell yourself:
“They seem to know what they’re doing. I’ll just do what they do.”

And without even realising it…
you’re chin-deep in someone else’s version of healing, success, motherhood, womanhood, business, or self-love.

You didn’t choose it.
You just followed it.
Because your nervous system was wired — from childhood — to stay safe through fitting in, pleasing, complying, performing.

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🧠 The Science of Why You “Go Along”

Neuroscience calls this neuroception — the unconscious scanning your body does 24/7 to detect danger or safety.
In trauma, the body doesn’t seek what’s true. It seeks what’s familiar.

So if self-abandonment is familiar?
You’ll follow anyone who makes you feel temporarily seen — even if it pulls you further away from yourself.

This isn’t weakness.
It’s survival.

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💥 But here’s the thing:

Healing isn’t about finding the right person to follow.
It’s about learning how to come back to your own inner authority — again and again.

Because without self-return, even the best “healing path” becomes another performance.

Your body knows when it’s following someone else’s story.
Your anxiety, burnout, and disconnection are the alarm bells.

You don’t need another story to fit into.
You need to come home to your own.

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🔹 My 6-week 1:1 coaching is for the woman who’s ready to stop getting swept into everyone else’s blueprint — and start learning how to trust her own rhythm again.

We unravel the rules you’ve followed that never felt right.
We identify the exact ways self-abandonment shows up in your day-to-day.
We build a relationship with your nervous system that feels like truth — not performance.

Because the most radical thing you can do is not follow.
It’s to return to yourself.

DM me and I’ll send you all the details.
This work will change your life — because it’s finally about you.

10/11/2025

The Carers group is on this Wednesday.
Catch up for a morning walk and a coffee in the morning, or pop in to us in the afternoon to have a chat with Carolyn and take some time out for you. Even better you could do both!
Please contact Carolyn with any questions.

09/11/2025

You hold it all.
The meetings. The emotional labor. The logistics. The smiles. The silence.

From the outside, you’re “doing amazing.”
Inside? You’re so disconnected from your own needs you flinch at the idea of saying no — even when your body is screaming it.

Because for women like you, no has never felt neutral.
It feels like failure.
It feels like letting someone down.
It feels like guilt.
Shame.
A punch to the identity you’ve built around being dependable, capable… good.

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But here’s the truth:
Chronic yes-ing is often just self-abandonment with better PR.

And it’s usually not about the “yes” itself.
It’s about what you think saying no will cost you.

Love.
Belonging.
Respect.
Your role.
Your safety.

This is how trauma gets polished into high-achieving womanhood.

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You don’t need to be more grateful.
You don’t need to try harder.
You don’t need another f*cking planner.

You need nervous system safety to feel like saying no won’t cost you your whole life.

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💠 That’s what we do inside my 6-week 1:1 coaching.

I help high-functioning women like you stop performing peace — and start actually living it.

We unpack the guilt.
We work with your body.
We practice saying no — in real-time — without the spiral.

And most importantly:
We rebuild your life from truth, not trauma.

If you’re ready to stop drowning in your own yeses —
DM me and I’ll send you the details.

⚜️It’s safe to come home to yourself.

09/11/2025

There was a time when silence made me uneasy. I filled every pause with words — anything to avoid what might surface if I stopped talking.

Now, silence feels like heaven ⚜️
It’s where understanding grows, and where the nervous system finally exhales.

Counselling in my space isn’t about talking endlessly — it’s about finding safety in stillness.

💬 When you think of safety, what does your body feel?

Book a session here;
https://www.halaxy.com/book/kyssanda-robinson-coach-and-counselling-services/location/564611

08/11/2025

Sometimes healing hurts. Because to truly move through something, you have to *feel* it — the ache, the grief, the joy that follows.

If you numb one, you numb them all.
Let yourself feel.
That’s where healing hides.

✨ What emotion have you been avoiding lately?

07/11/2025

“You don’t need another morning routine.”

Healing isn’t about doing more ‘right’ things — it’s about unlearning all the bu****it rules you built your life around.

Rules like:
• Be easy to love.
• Don’t take up too much space.
• Always be the one who holds it all.

You don’t need another breathwork app, a better gratitude journal, or a colour-coded routine to prove you’re healing.

⚜️You need your f*cking truth back.
⚜️You need to stop performing peace & start living it.

Because when your healing starts with control, it ends with resentment.
When it starts with your truth?
That’s when you come home to yourself.

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I created two ways to help you stop living by the fake rulebook — and start living like a woman who owns her story;

🔹 6-WEEK 1:1 COACHING — Break the Rules (Gently)

Before:
• You second-guess every decision.
• You’re “healing” but still feel empty, disconnected, stuck.
• You’re exhausted from holding it all together — & still afraid to fall apart.

After:
• You recognise your trauma responses as they happen — and stop betraying your truth to stay safe.
• You stop over-functioning & start making decisions that actually feel good in your body.
• You feel lighter, more honest, & grounded in who you’re becoming — not who you’ve been.

This is for the woman who’s done with survival mode & ready to meet herself with softness and self-honour.

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🔸 6-MONTH MENTORSHIP — Burn the Rulebook (Rebuild from Truth)

Before:
• You’ve ticked all the boxes — but your life still doesn’t feel like yours.
• You’re constantly managing everyone else’s nervous systems, while ignoring your own.
• You feel the pull to burn it all down… but also the fear of what happens next.

After:
• You rewrite the way you relate to love, work, boundaries, identity — all of it.
• You reclaim your energy, your voice, your body — and build a life that feels like you.
• You stop shape-shifting & start leading — unapologetically.

This is for the woman who’s done rearranging herself for safety… and ready to rise from truth.

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⚡️DM me “TRUTH” and I’ll send you all the details.

You’ve followed the rules long enough.
Time to find out what happens when you don’t.

07/11/2025

06/11/2025

Therapy doesn’t have to be scary.

It can be the moment you finally exhale.

In our first session, there’s no pressure.
Just space — for your story, your pace, your truth. 🪴

Book here 👇🏻
https://www.halaxy.com/book/kyssanda-robinson-coach-and-counselling-services/location/564611

06/11/2025

Some find peace in forgiving.

Others find peace in letting go of needing to.

💬 Agree or disagree?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.👇🏻