26/03/2026
Does your partner seem emotionally “switched off” — or do YOU struggle to find the words for what you’re feeling?
You might be dealing with alexithymia — and it’s more common in relationships than you think.
Alexithymia is a very real neurological trait where a person has difficulty identifying, understanding, or expressing their own emotions. It doesn’t mean they don’t feel — it means the bridge between their feelings and their words is harder to cross.
And in a marriage, that can feel like
“You never open up to me”
“I don’t even know what I’m feeling”
“We’re in the same room but worlds apart”
When one or both partners struggle to read their own emotional world, understanding each other becomes even harder. It can look like coldness, indifference, or emotional unavailability — but it’s often none of those things.
The good news? Awareness is the first step to connection.
Learning about alexithymia won’t fix everything overnight, but it can replace blame with understanding — and that changes everything.
