Soul Healing with Kara Ockendon

27/12/2025

25/12/2025

Wishing a Merry Christmas to Everyone!

And remember if you are contemplating or moving through separation, your future - even if different - can still be whole, magical and bright in whatever form your family ebolves into 💖

23/12/2025

23/12/2025

This year might be different, but don't forget so will the next.

New family dynamic, New traditions, new magic!

Because divorce does not have to mean destruction, it can mean evolution and upgrade!

21/12/2025

17/12/2025

When Families Evolve: A Dad’s Journey to Conscious Co-Parenting After Separation

I recently had the privilege of sitting down with Tim Morris, a single dad, founder of Hugs over Handshakes, and a participant in my Cycle Breakers program.

Together we explored what becomes possible when parents choose presence, regulation, and responsibility after separation.

During our conversation, Tim shared how one honest, emotionally regulated conversation, supported by the work he was doing inside Cycle Breakers, became a turning point in his co-parenting journey.

That moment opened the door to a more collaborative, respectful, and genuinely connected relationship with his former partner, one he says now feels stronger than it was before the separation.

It’s a powerful reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean breakdown.

With the right support and intention, families can evolve rather than fracture.

If you’re navigating separation or co-parenting and are curious about what this kind of shift can look like in real life, I invite you to watch the conversation and to explore Cycle Breakers when it opens again in 2026

Comment CB or send me a message if you’d like early details about the next intake

https://youtu.be/MpBgSXP9Emk

15/12/2025

28/11/2025

27/11/2025

How a conscious and collaborative approach mah lead to better outcomes.

25/11/2025

Family Law is complex…
but not just because of legislation, court timelines, or the constant updates to rules and procedures.

It’s complex because people are complex.

We bring emotions, lived histories, fear, expectations, children, finances, identity and heartbreak into a system that was never built to support our nervous systems, our communication differences, or the emotional reality of separation.

Courts are designed to:

➡️ Gather evidence
➡️ Sort facts
➡️ Apply the law
➡️ Produce an outcome

They are not designed to help you regulate your emotions, communicate under pressure, or make decisions from clarity rather than fear.

And when those human challenges aren’t supported, we see:
• confusion
• overwhelm
• reactive choices
• entrenched conflict
• and outcomes that feel deeply unsatisfying
(even when they’re “fair” on paper)

But here’s the good news…

When we approach separation differently, when we make space for emotional needs, nervous system responses, communication challenges and support during the journey — everything changes.

Clarity emerges.
Creative solutions surface.
Co-parenting becomes safer.
And families come out the other side feeling supported, not shredded.

This shift always starts with us — whether we’re navigating our own separation or supporting others through theirs.

So here’s a powerful question you can start with today:

How can we approach this in a way that supports you to engage more helpfully?

I’d love to hear your thoughts — whether you’re a professional in this space or you’ve lived it personally.

What helped YOU (or your clients) engage more helpfully through separation?

18/11/2025

Separation changes many things, but it does not have to destroy the family you worked so hard to build.

As we celebrated our son turning six this week, I was reminded again that our family simply looks different now — we are a bi nuclear family, parenting from two homes, growing, stretching and restructuring along the way.

What stays constant is our shared commitment to creating a life where our son feels safe, loved and held by both of his parents.

There is no single template for family after separation. What matters is intention, care and the willingness to build what truly serves your children and your future.

Here is to conscious co parenting and to all the parents creating stability, respect and connection in the new shape of their family 💗

06/11/2025

Throughout my career and my own life, I’ve learned a truth that can be hard to swallow.

There’s a difference between acknowledging pain caused by another’s actions (being a victim) and identifying as the pain (being victimised).

Naming what happened honours truth, self-respect, and healthy accountability.

Feeling and processing the pain honours your humanity, your need for it to be witnessed, validated, and compassionately held.

But living from the pain keeps you bound to the wound and stuck in a state of false disempowerment.

And expressing from the pain?

That’s like pouring salt into your own wounds - it rarely ends well, even if you add tequila (or especially).

Healing begins when we can hold our story with compassion, without letting it define our identity.

Your story is part of you, not the whole of you - and one that contains the keys to your true power when alchemised.

And if there is one thing I am an expert in, it is turning pain into power!