17/02/2024
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I bought this as a gift for a friend but knew I had to read it first so that I could have a greater understanding of how to help my clients.
If you are in or have been in a narcissistic relationship, my heart goes out to you.
I felt physically sick and upset reading about the systemic and incessant psychological, emotional, physical, financial and sexual manipulation and abuse that can take place in a narcissistic relationship.
The fact you are surviving or have survived a narcissist relationship makes you stronger than you could ever imagine. The open heart and empathetic nature that made them choose you (as their victim) in the first place will be the medicine that will help you heal and find peace and self love after the relationship.
There is help you can seek to help repair your heart, mind and spirit. You are resilient, your body wants to heal and you are deserving of love.
Remember they were/are lying to you!
What they said about you- lies
What they said people thought about you- lies
How they said they had changed- lies
How they said you would never survive if you left them- lies
How they said there was no one to help you- lies
How they said they were doing it because they loved you- lies
What makes a narcissistic:
-a grandiose sense of self importance
-a preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty and ideal love
-a belief that they are special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with other special or high-quality people or institutions
-a need for excessive admiration
-a sense of entitlement
-interpersonally exploitive behaviour (using and manipulating people for personal gain)
-a lack of empathy
-envy of others or a belief that others are envious of them
-a demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviour or attitudes
If you have realised you are in a narcissistic relationship and you need to get out remember these few things:
- do not tell them you know they are a narcissist, they will use it against you. Hold that card close to your heart.
- As safely as you can collect evidence of the abuse. Text messages, emails, videos, bank statements, photos.
- Make a plan to leave the house safely 1800RESPECT has some great resources and checklists to help. (Use an incognito browser if your partner checks your browser history)
- Find a lawyer with experience in working with narcissists
- There is so much help available to you not only during the initial escape phase but during the later stage of healing and repair.
You are supported. š¤
Thanks:
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