Amazing Kids Occupational Therapy

06/03/2026

Such a great post from Greg Santucci!

We're late!

I recently heard an interview with Ross Greene, who spoke about how our systems and policies are designed for us to be "late" when addressing concerning behaviors. Allow me to explain.

If a child gets put in timeout, or seclusion, we're late. We, the adults, are reacting to a behavior that already happened.

Sending a kid to the "calm down" corner? We're late. The dysregulation already happened.

Detentions, suspensions, expulsions? Late again.

"Consequences?" Late. Consequences are handed out after the fact, with the hope that we "teach them a lesson" through the punishment so they don't do it again. We know that's not working. Talk to any teacher and they'll tell you that the behaviors are worse than they've ever been.

Dr. Greene was right!

I had the opportunity recently to work in a classroom, with a paraprofessional, on being "early".

We saw a young student walking on their toes during a transition between activities. This child typically didn't do that. That extra proprioception he was seeking out was interpreted as a stress cue. He went to the rug to play and bumped into another child. Yep, he needed help. I positioned myself to support both students on the carpet playing with blocks.

What happened? Nothing. The kids played. I helped them delegate who gets what blocks. I "noticed" what each student was building and encouraged either imitation or collaboration from the other. I re-directed the one student to a different set of blocks to knock down when demolition was more appealing than construction, as he was certainly eyeing his friend's structure to knock down. They played for about 15 minutes and then moved to snack. No issues. No sadness. No fighting. I was early.

What would have happened, as has always happened in the past? The two kids go to the carpet and fight over blocks. An adult comes in and separates them (late). Then, the demolition-desiring student manages to sneak over and knock down his classmate's structure. He gets put in timeout and the victim is crying because his work was destroyed (late). A tough moment for everyone (including the teacher).

Just think about how many big behavioral events would be avoided if we were "early". But, as Dr. Greene expressed, as parents and teachers, we're usually late, albeit unintentionally. It's how our systems, and society in general, are set up.

How can we do better at being early? This is going to sound like a giant plug for occupational therapists, but on some level, I think we all can step back and 'notice' some stress cues. Noticing those stress cues can help us solve problem proactively, before big behaviors occur.

Parents can notice when their child had a tough day at school, or they're tired, or their sibling is driving them a little bit crazy. Those are opportunities to be early, to communicate to them that you 'notice' the difficulty, and set them up for success.

Teachers have to deal with classroom disruptions multiple times a day. We lose millions of classroom days every year because of disruptions in learning. If a teacher 'notices' the dysregulation, pauses teaching to address the dysregulation, and returns to teaching once they are regulated, many of those (late) 'behavior management' tools (clip charts, loss of recess) wouldn't be necessary.

In the example I gave, toe walking was a stress cue. The loss of body awareness was another. Leaving your desk to walk around the room, deeper breathing, a furrowed brow, intense fidgeting, all could be stress cues and an opportunity to be early, if we recognize them.

The other thing I noticed is that being early was much more regulating for ME than being late. When we (the adults) are late, we often come in hot 🔥. We're mad, or really frustrated. Kids feel that. WE feel that. When we're early, we are in helping mode, which feels so much better (and calmer).

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. As parents and teachers, we are late...a lot. 🙋‍♂️ I am certainly guilty of that. But, many of the big behaviors that occur are predictable and can be addressed proactively if we commit to it and have the right tools. I knew my proprioceptive-seeking, demolition-desiring friend wanted to knock down his classmate's tower. That's a huge dopamine sq**rt for him. He needed my help. He needed me to be early. When I was early, everything went smooth. When I'm not early, "stuff" happens. I can own that, and I can work to be early more often. The consequence isn't necessary, but being early so I can teach them strategies and skills to play reciprocally with their friends is really important.

This is a longer post that usual for me. If you're still reading, I hope you aren't 'late' to whatever you were planning to do next. 😉

I appreciate you being here! 🥰

26/02/2026

I am very privileged to be one of only a few Australian OTs participating in Robyn Gobbel’s year-long Immersion Training Program for Kids with Big Baffling Behaviours. This program is a deep dive into the neuroscience of how nervous system states impact behaviour and explores practical strategies for parents. The image below summarises co-regulation, which is one vital component of this work.

24/02/2026

Children with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) experience emotional pain from perceived rejection far more intensely than their peers.

For these kids, a small correction, a change of plans, or not being picked first can feel overwhelming — not because they’re “too sensitive,” but because their nervous system genuinely experiences rejection as threat.

RSD is often associated with neurodivergence particlarly in ADHD & ASD where the childs brain tend to notice patterns, differences and social cues more intensely.

These children aren’t dramatic. They’re wired for deep connection — and with the right support, they can build resilience without losing that beautiful sensitivity.

21/02/2026

I love this! Such a simple strategy that can really help to shift your child's nervous system. When adults can use their "x-ray vision goggles" to see what's beneath the behavior, it enables them to truly see what their child's behavior is communicating.

06/02/2026

This visual from The Contented Child highlights the importance of understanding a child's behavior through the lens of what is happening in their nervous system, empowering adults to unlock regulatory support that enables children with PDA to thrive.

15/12/2025

Interoception is the foundation for emotional regulation. A child must first notice their body signals before they can connect the body signal to an emotion (sensation) and then take action to regulate.

08/12/2025

This is an informative post that offers practical yet impactful strategies to help parents regulate their emotions in challenging moments and model appropriate responses for their child.

Regulating Your Emotions as a Parent

Parenting is full of moments that test our patience, and learning to regulate your own emotions is key to responding rather than reacting. Children mirror the adults around them, so when we manage our emotions, we teach them how to do the same. Start by noticing your triggers and taking a pause before responding — even a few deep breaths can shift your nervous system.

Self-talk can help you stay grounded: remind yourself, “I can handle this,” or “This is a moment, not a crisis.” Physical strategies like stretching, stepping outside for a brief break, or grounding exercises can help release tension and restore calm. Reflecting on your feelings after a challenging moment allows you to learn and prepare for next time.

Modeling empathy and calm presence shows children that all emotions are valid, and they can be managed safely. It’s okay to acknowledge your feelings to your child: “I’m frustrated right now, so I need a moment to calm down.” Consistency and patience in your own regulation helps create a predictable, safe environment for your child to express their emotions.

Remember, self-regulation isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up as a calm, supportive guide through life’s ups and downs.

20/10/2025

The posts from The Contented Child really resonate with me. We frequently encounter young neurodivergent students who appear to spend a significant portion of their school day masking. It is essential for the adults in their world to recognise these signs and provide the necessary co-regulation, compassion and supports to assist and avoid long-term struggles.

At school, some children seem to ‘hold it together’ all day — only to fall apart once they’re home.

That’s not manipulation or attention-seeking. It’s masking.

Masking means suppressing natural responses, mimicking peers, or pushing through overwhelm to appear "fine".

It’s exhausting — and over time, it can lead to burnout, anxiety, and loss of self.

Recognising the signs of masking helps adults see beyond the surface — and offer support that feels safe and authentic.

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15/10/2025

This information can make a significant difference in understanding the vital role of coregulation.

It takes the body time to calm — not just a few deep breaths.

When a child is overwhelmed, their nervous system can take 20–60 minutes to fully settle after a surge of stress hormones. That’s why calm can’t be rushed. They need safety, patience and connection — not pressure to “get over it.”

Understanding this is at the heart of brain-based parenting. Regulation isn’t instant; it’s built through co-regulation and trust.

This also demonstrates why a child needs longer than 5 minutes out of class after an incident.

There is a full range of calming strategy prompts in our toolkit below.

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14/10/2025

Strategies to assist with de-escalating a meltdown!

13/10/2025

Yes, let's examine stimming from an Autistic perspective.

Let's talk about stimming.

The autistic community advocates that stimming behavior is a self-regulatory coping mechanism, and efforts to control this behavior could have negative effects for autistic people. Research exploring stimming from the autistic perspective supports this position and suggests these behaviors are actually incredibly beneficial.

There is a long history in both research and clinical practice, of efforts to reduce, minimize or eliminate stimming behavior in autistic people.

This article contains great information that can help in the movement toward acceptance >>> https://www.altogetherautism.org.nz/stimming-a-movement-towards-acceptance

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08/09/2025

This explains Regulation beautifully!

🧠 People often use the word “regulated” as if it is a synonym for “calm.”

⚖️ Regulated means your energy levels match the task at hand. Dysregulated means your energy levels do not match the task. Executive functioning skills, such as working memory, cognitive flexibility, and self-control, play a significant role in helping individuals regulate their energy levels.

🌟 Helping a child regulate can sometimes mean placing them in an environment where their energy levels match the setting. Other times, it involves helping their body meet its needs so that their energy levels align with the upcoming task. This can include strategies to improve executive functioning skills, such as practicing self-control or using tools to enhance working memory.

Being REGULATED means your energy levels match the task. It does not mean ‘calm’.
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