Relationship Bootcamp

07/02/2026

💛 Understanding your nervous system response is important.
💛 Your body trys to automatically do what it needs to, in order to protect you and keep you safe.

Your nervous system is constantly scanning for safety or danger. This happens in the background all day long. Tone of voice. Facial expression. A slammed door. A tight deadline. A text left on read. An unexpected bill. A comment that hits a sore spot.

When your system senses threat, it mobilizes energy.

That can look like alertness, adrenaline, muscle tension, faster heartbeat, and changes in breathing and digestion. The important part is this: when you’re activated, your brain shifts priority from connection and reflection to protection.

That’s why you can know what you “should” do and still do something else. In survival mode, you’re not operating from your calm, wise self. You’re operating from a protective state.

How to tell which state you’re in

Here’s a quick check-in you can use:

Fight: “I need to prove, fix, or control.”
Flight: “I need to escape, distract, or stay busy.”
Freeze: “I can’t. I’m blank. I’m stuck.”
Fawn: “I need to keep them happy so I’m safe.”

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04/11/2025

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31/10/2025

💛 This is so beautifully written......
💛 Talking about feelings and emotions are not woo woo or therapy stuff, it is real, honest and at the core of every interaction.
💛 Learning and practicing skills in emotional regulation has the power to improve systems at all levels.
💛 Start at home, start with how you talk to your kids, start with paying attention to how you talk to yourself, start reading or listening, start being curious with yourself (your behaviours, your triggers, your discomfort), start somewhere....
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💛 Nice starting point is reading, 'Permission to Feel' - by .brackett. And he has a podcast.

28/10/2025

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When we say we feel “rejected,” we may actually be feeling:

Dismissed — like our voice or needs don’t matter.

Unwanted — like someone has withdrawn love or attention.

Invisible — like no one truly sees or values us.

Betrayed — Feeling hurt because trust was broken or loyalty wasn't returned.

Abandoned — like we’ve been left behind emotionally or physically.

Naming these underlying feelings helps us move from a vague sense of pain to a clearer understanding of what’s really happening inside. It transforms rejection from something that defines us into something that guides us, back toward our needs, our boundaries, and our capacity to self-soothe.

Rejection hurts because it disconnects us.
Healing begins when we reconnect, with our truth, our emotions, and the parts of us that still long to feel seen and loved.

TRY THIS: Reflective Prompts for Healing Rejection

“When I say I feel rejected, what am I truly feeling beneath that?”

Take a moment to slow down and name what’s really happening inside.
Is it loneliness, sadness, disappointment, or a sense of being unseen?
Giving language to your emotion helps you meet it with understanding rather than shame.

16/10/2025

💛 Curious questions to become clearer about what you feel and need.
💛 What is it that you need, that you are not asking for?

10/09/2025

💛 Beautiful words to honour grief....

04/07/2025

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