10/03/2026
Ive noticed lately how important words are.
The ones we write and speak.
The ones we don’t write or speak.
Words or lack of words reveal something.
I’ve always thought actions took priority but when we have experienced a lot of words spoken with no intention to action - it brings pain and disappointment.
We look to the action to make sure the word is correct, trusted and we give ourselves a job if checking who around us is in integrity because we don’t want to be hurt again.
We all want safety.
Pain i believe creates a desire for speaking truth and being accurate with words. What a gift.
But not everyone has lived the same pain, betrayal, disappointment, abandonment or disrespect….
We are all relating in ways we know to keep ourselves safe.
What if not everyone deserves words or communication?
Finding balance from the over or under communicating by understanding we all have responses to each other’s way of existing.
Wether we project our past onto the present, allowing the future to be stagnant by leaving the door to the past ajar.
Or wether we stop trying to micromanage the outside for safety and sit to understand ourselves, keeping words like a promise to self.
I am certain i wont betray myself again.
I am certain i will speak up when my truth asks for it.
The trust this builds to the inside takes the job of remaining hypervigilant in your nervous system and rather than scanning percieved threat what if its time to let go, not in a forgetting of pain but in honouring of who you are and the word you keep to yourself now becuase of those expereinces.
Any life we live has calculated risk if we want to love, share and be vulnerable and healthy.
What if staying in our own lane, with choice and working on our words is what we needed to be shown?
When the hypervigilence gets to rest the pain moves with us through each day, some days a little louder than others…. reminding us of how we had to protect ourselves, put up the armour, fight to keep living…
The resolve is in not pushing the hurt or truth away but bringing it in and giving it meaningful words that actions follow - this builds trust and safety.
Words can matter as much as actions.
