03/03/2026
Last year, at The Disruption Conference, hosted by the DVPC/DVIR in the Gold Coast Australia, I spoke on stage in front of hundreds, as a Lived Experience Voice and Survivor. We educated the government, police, institutions, and organisations on what really happens behind closed doors (not the lies you hear) 🚪
Male violence (emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, financial, legal, coercive control, narcissism) is systemic. Misogyny and patriarchal behaviours are embedded in society, and even some females enable and are complicit. This is not OK.
Shame must change sides. Males must learn how to behave safely and respectfully. Women create safe circles to empower each other, to care for children, the young, and the vulnerable. Every female I know has at some point in her childhood or life been harassed, degraded, shamed, critised, sexualised, harmed .. for being a female. By males.
This is the responsibility of males, to seek help/therapy, heal their childhood wounds and traumas, and show up in the world as safer kinder beings. To access their emotional world with support, to change narratives - yes, crying, understanding your emotions and feeling - is healthy, not something to be punished for.
Males who should have protected me in my life, I needed protection from. I have survived every single type of abUse, from male 'family', 'fiancés', 'bosses', 'strangers' and 'friends'.
Most recently, a male Tinder date strAngled me, and a male Muay Thai instructor also strAngled me, on CCTV. Non-Fatal StrAngulation is horrific.
Females wonder if they will get r@ped and k on their first date, while males fear she will order a dessert and the bill will be expensive.
Males, it is time to step up and join us, access your inner world, and heal.
