The Quiet Adoptee

26/02/2022

Eric Godlow • Peace

26/02/2022

the_quiet_adoptee • Original Audio

26/02/2022

Every story has its subtle differences. One thing has been made clear to me and that is, no matter the circumstances, open and healthy communication between adoptive parents and their children is crucial. https://intercountryadopteevoices.com/video-resource-for-professionals/

A video resource for teachers, doctors and mental health practitioners to better understand intercountry adoption from lived experience of adult adoptees.

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26/02/2022

the_quiet_adoptee • Original Audio | 𝕌𝕡𝕠𝕛𝕚𝕜𝕚' Effect

26/02/2022

Axel Force • Taking Care Of Business

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Tele Music • Clown Parade

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David Snell • Spongebob Tomfoolery (Dante9k Remix) [feat. Dante9k]

26/02/2022

By Benjamin J posted on Instagram: “The journey's expectations . . …” • See all of 's photos and videos on their profile.

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Boots Randolph • Yakety sax

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Happy Birthday • Jeopardy! Think! Music

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Happy Birthday • Jeopardy! Think! Music | Lyra Effect

09/06/2019

Cast yourself back and recall a moment from your childhood in which you father taught you something you would carry with you on your own parenting journey. It may have been a manner in which you wish to be a father to your children, it maybe a manner in which you vowed to never to be as a father.
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Remember your father. Remember the good and the bad. Let the lesson drawn from these memories shape & assist the way in which you choose to create memories with & for your children.
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15/01/2019

It's funny when we dig deep what we discover about ourselves. This tattoo across my back reads, "Forever Grateful". At the time of getting this tattoo, the meaning behind it was to pay homage and respects to my journey. "Forever Grateful" to my birth mother for making arguably one of the hardest decisions a parent could make in giving me up for adoption and a chance at a life that for what ever reason she could not provide. "Forever Grateful" to the parents who took me in as their own, providing love, family & a home. "Forever Grateful" to be an Australian, a country without civil war or large scale poverty. What I've come to realise and perhaps become awakened to, is the fact that this feeling of gratefulness was almost like a desire or drive to be grateful. So much so that it overshadowed or defined parts of who I became or the reality I painted. It was a fine line between living life or walking a guilt trip. Whilst the tattoo holds great meaning and truth and to this day I remain grateful, I I believe the tattoo itself was the physical manifestation of that guilt or burden I internalised. It is the largest tattoo I wear and so in essence bears the heaviest meaning. Also, look at the placement. Again large and across my back, as if carrying that guilt on my shoulders always. We can bear the marks or scars of our past, yet it is not the ink that will write our future. "I am Grateful" for my journey. But I am also "Grateful" for the NOWmuch Love 💚🤙🏿

06/01/2019

So Friday was my 30th Birthday & for as long as I can remember I have never wanted a fuss or party no matter how much those around me wanted to celebrate. This mindset of not wanting to "make a fuss" was centred around a limiting belief on my self worth. This system of limiting beliefs stems back to a mindset developed as a child surrounding adoption. For as long as I can remember I never wanted to be made a fuss of, rock the boat, step put of line or gain too much attention. My thinking was, seen & not heard guarantees I won't be sent away or "sent back". As you could imagine, this constant exercise in dimming my light forged many behaviours and core beliefs which were carried on in to adult life. This had a huge impact on my relationships with those closest to me as the constant suppression of who I am went hand in hand with a lack of communication, both with others as well as within myself. I look back now and realise to live such a way and to think I could truly give myself to another in the way of marriage was almost delusional. To be aware of the narratives we tell ourselves is definitely an individual's superpower as it can hold truths to why we act the way we do, what may trigger us in life & relationships & where we can focus on the inner work to create a loving self title.