Ghita Therapy

Ghita Therapy Counsellor and Life Coach - Gold Coast

At the beach this morning. Sitting under a tree in Currumbin drinking coffee and working on a Mental Health App, I am jo...
11/02/2026

At the beach this morning. Sitting under a tree in Currumbin drinking coffee and working on a Mental Health App, I am joined by four tradies having morning tea - probably wondering what this lone lady is doing sitting cross legged working on something with intensity.

I often get like that. If it interests me - it is not like work at all. I can't stop...

The snowball gathers steam and bulk as it goes down the hill. (Ironic in summertime, but I love the metaphor).

I hope that you have found some purpose in your life and that nothing and no one can get in your way...

You just FEEL DESTINED TO DO SOMETHING THAT MATTERS.
Something that doesn't feel like work...

I estimate that I spend two days a week (in lots of small portions between clients, after hours and on weekends) working ON my business (posts, videos, podcasts, website, advertising). Regular hours working IN my business.

People tell me that I look like someone who has it together. And while that is true, it was a painful experience getting to a place where I put myself first... And it takes sacrifice and discipline.

Moreover, it is not even the destination that propels me, but THE DRIVE every day. The challenge and the journey to CREATE something from nothing... Something that serves others.

If you need help with defining YOUR PURPOSE or just help getting out of your own way, check out my programs...

✔️ The Developing Man
✔️ Women's Empowerment
✔️ The Breakthrough Program
✔️ Xpression Program (Athletes)
✔️ Narcissistic Recovery Program

Life is good When YOU BACK YOURSELF 💯.
You will get there if you back yourself 💯.
You can't fail...

Xx
Ghita Andersen
Counsellor, Life Coach, Author, Speaker

Ghitatherapy.com

-development



10/02/2026

Did you ever look at PEOPLE PLEASING as lying to yourself?

A revelation for many.

Slowly, by degrees, it does something to your soul, and you get RESENTFUL.

And yet, you alone caused it by saying 'yes' when you meant 'no' and putting everyone's needs and emotions ahead of your own.
Sometimes to the point of exhaustion...

But superwoman multi-tasks and does everything for everybody - not doing any of it well. So... There's nothing in her cup for her...

If you are a mother, or a programmed child who used this skill to keep the peace, you will get this.
Xx

Excerpt from Mark Fennel.




Want a deeper connection? In Couples Therapy (which research shows offers 70% - 98% improved relationship satisfaction),...
10/02/2026

Want a deeper connection?
In Couples Therapy (which research shows offers 70% - 98% improved relationship satisfaction), I like to use Love Maps...

Love Maps (Gottman Method) represent the part of your brain where you store all relevant information about your partner's life. Building these maps is the foundational to a "Sound Relationship."

Core Purpose of Love Maps:
Emotional Intimacy: Deepens your understanding of your partner's inner world- their dreams, fears, values, and daily stresses.

Resilience: Couples with detailed Love Maps are better prepared to handle conflict and stress because they have a "reservoir of goodwill" and a deep sense of friendship.

Ongoing Curiosity: People change over time; Love Maps must be regularly "updated" to reflect your partner's current reality rather than who they were years ago.

Key Exercises to Build Love Maps:
Structured quizzes help couples to explore each other's worlds. You can also try these at home:

The Love Map Game: Take turns asking and answering questions about each other. The goal is to listen and learn, not just to "get it right."

Let's go deep, y'all!

More info about creating love maps and couples counselling:
www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-counselling.html

https://www.ghitaandersen.com/gottman-method.html

Ghita Andersen
Couples Counsellor
Gold Coast, Australia





Case in point:I put a light green variegated philodendron cutting together with a plain dark green philodendron in a pot...
09/02/2026

Case in point:
I put a light green variegated philodendron cutting together with a plain dark green philodendron in a pot, and the variegated cutting turned dark green.

This is a great metaphor for relationships:
The top 5 people that you spend time with have an enormous impact on your quality of life, relationships, success, values, bravery, mental health, etc.

Life is short.
Spend it with people who are positive and see you.
Xx

Ghita Andersen
Counsellor and Life Coach
Gold Coast, Australia

Ghitaandersen.com
Ghitatherapy.com





If you feel you are at the end of the relationship, act like it is the beginning - and see what happens...Acting as if a...
09/02/2026

If you feel you are at the end of the relationship, act like it is the beginning - and see what happens...

Acting as if a relationship is in its beginning—reintroducing curiosity, intentional dating, and vulnerability can potentially reverse emotional disconnection, combat routine, and rebuild lost trust. This approach aims to break negative patterns, re-establish, and foster a new, healthier connection.

Here is what happens and what to focus on when you adopt this approach:
Reignite the Spark: Instead of focusing on routines or frustrations, act with the curiosity of a new partner by asking questions and initiating new shared activities.

Prioritize Intentional Time: Apply principles like the 777 rule (date night weekly, weekend away every 7 weeks, trip every 7 months) to create a sense of excitement and dedicated focus.

Rebuild Trust and Intimacy: Overcome the fear-driven withdrawal of a failing relationship by being open and vulnerable, reversing the, "I can't trust the person in your corner" feeling.

Shift from Negativity: Actively fight the urge to focus on faults (a sign of a relationship ending) and instead focus on positive affirmation and re-learning your partner.

Identify Underlying Issues: This "beginning" approach helps determine if the relationship is truly beyond repair or if it was merely in a slump due to poor maintenance.

And naturally, seek counselling with a professional such as myself: Work through the things you can't work on by yourselves.

Ghita Andersen
Marriage Counsellor
Gold Coast, Australia

www.ghitaandersen.com/couples-counselling.html





Triggers are gold. Although, no one ever looks at them that way.They show our shadow parts. The unconscious beliefs abou...
09/02/2026

Triggers are gold. Although, no one ever looks at them that way.
They show our shadow parts. The unconscious beliefs about self and the world.

When we operate from triggers, the ego is in charge. We move from emotion and not logic. We rise yo anger swiftly. We are hurt fast. But it is our own reaction to am event that riles us, not the event itself.

Chat to me about triggers.
Xx

Ghitaandersen.com


Perception and Wanting:Why are so many people at war with their desires? And how does ending that war offer a path out o...
09/02/2026

Perception and Wanting:
Why are so many people at war with their desires? And how does ending that war offer a path out of suffering?

Our preceptions self labels and pecking order from childhood often make us deny what we want as adults.

Why?
- Childhood patterns take us away from wanting as a survival mechanism.
- Changing life-long held 'Identities and Labels' cause discomfort when you allow yourself to want or even dream.
- Wanting something indirectly may feel less confronting (aka GOING OFF-SCRIPT) but we feel unhappy because not declaring and owning our true desires can make us people-please and more prone to manipulation by others.
-The feelings of shame, fear, tall poppy syndrome, etc., when we celebrated our wins were pushed onto us by family. And these feelings automatically come up in a way we can't welcome and accept.
- Why chasing outcomes from our wanting can create its own suffering, even when we succeed, because we may have made too many sacrifices and not enjoyed the original feeling through the process.

Want to sort through the confusion?

Life Coaching with Ghita Andersen
Ghitatherapy.com





Right on!
09/02/2026

Right on!

Getting in touch with your inner-child is easy.You already have the natural feelings to lead you down the path to loving...
09/02/2026

Getting in touch with your inner-child is easy.

You already have the natural feelings to lead you down the path to loving this version of you.

Let me guide you to making your own happiness...
Every Part, Every Cell...

A Big Ball of Love and Self-Acceptance.
Hmmmmmmm.....
💓🤗😁
Ghita

www.ghitaandersen.com
www.ghitatherapy.com

-love
-worth


Happy Monday, y'all!Remember to balance your week: Mind, Body, Soul...I start most days with a gym session, followed by ...
08/02/2026

Happy Monday, y'all!
Remember to balance your week: Mind, Body, Soul...

I start most days with a gym session, followed by a protein breakfast.

This week's lineup:
Individual Counselling
Couples Therapy
EMDR
Time Line Therapy (regression)
Life Coaching for Men
Anger Management
New Podcast

Have a great week.
🤗
Xx
Ghita

Counselling
Ghitaandersen.com

Coaching
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07/02/2026

Stonewalling is one of the four horsemen: Stonewalling (emotional abandonment), Defensiveness, Criticism, and Contempt.

Here's a metaphor: Imagine a pole house with 4 Poles.
One pole falls down.
That house is now an unstable house.

Add to that one of the other 4 horsemen, and you have a house coming down and probably staying down.

Stonewalling leads to divorce.
Contempt is poison and indicates divorce. [There is no reversal once Contempt seeps in. No couples counsellor can fix contempt.]

Defensiveness is not taking responsibility for one's part in conflict.

And Criticism ("You never... You always...") phrases wear everyone down and start conflict in the first place.

Learn some TOOLBOX SKILLS.
Stop your bad communication.
X🤗
Ghita

Ghita Andersen
Couples Counsellor, Gold Coast, Australia
Ghita Therapy
www.ghitaandersen.com

Video shared from Matthew Hussey.





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