25/02/2026
We often think of resilience as something we must find inside ourselves. But sometimes, the most profound healing happens between us.
You might have heard this week about Punch - a baby macaque abandoned by his mother. Alone, with nothing to hold onto, his tiny nervous system had no anchor. No one to regulate with. No safe body to mirror.
Then came a stuffed orangutan from IKEA, gifted by his zookeeper.
That toy isn't just comfort. It is providing co-regulation - something to cling to while his body learns he isn't alone. Something to help him settle, so he could slowly, bravely, find his way back into the troop.
This is the science of connection: our nervous systems are wired to regulate together.
We calm in the presence of calm. We find safety in the arms of safety.
Whether it's a stuffed toy, a trusted friend, or a therapist who can witness your story without flinching, co-regulation is often the first step toward healing.
Resilience doesn't always start from within - sometimes it begins with someone (or something) who holds us until we can hold ourselves.