Care to Bloom

27/01/2026

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25/01/2026

Abuse is strange because one moment he’s screaming at you, calling you names, and the next moment he’s asking which sneakers you want. Yesterday he destroyed you verbally; today he offers gifts. Yesterday he hurled insults; today he smiles and acts generous. That dissonance isn’t a mistake—it’s the pattern of abuse.

It’s the cycle. The tension builds. Then comes the explosion: rage, name-calling, insults. Harm. Emotional violence. Then comes the honeymoon phase: gifts, material offerings, temporary generosity, pretending nothing happened. Every gift after abuse is a reminder of control, not love. Every present is a tool to confuse you, to make you question your own reality, to keep you hoping that the harmful behavior will stop.

Abuse thrives in extremes. Yesterday’s harm doesn’t erase today’s kindness; today’s gifts don’t cancel yesterday’s destruction. Material things—sneakers, flowers, apologies—cannot repair trust that was shattered in hours. Generosity cannot undo rage. Presents do not rewrite verbal violence. And yet, the cycle repeats. Harm followed by gifts. Violence followed by generosity. Screaming followed by smiles.

This is how manipulation works. It keeps you second-guessing, forgiving, and staying in the relationship long after your boundaries were crossed. It teaches you to normalize the unpredictable, to reconcile the cruel with the kind, to hope that the cycle will finally end. But it doesn’t. Until you see it clearly, the confusion continues.

Gifts don’t erase abuse. Generosity doesn’t make it acceptable. Sneakers don’t cancel screams. Presents don’t delete harm. Recognize the cycle. Name the manipulation. Protect yourself. Leave. Always leave. Abuse may operate through cycles, but your clarity is permanent.

16/01/2026

As I celebrate the triumphant conclusion of therapy journeys with clients who have bravely walked the path towards healing with Victim Services, we take a moment to reflect on the remarkable milestones achieved. Together, we've witnessed profound transformations: social phobias overcome, moods lifted, nervous systems soothed, anxieties silenced, boundaries established, confidence and self-esteem flourishing, attunement nurtured, and guilt and shame liberated. It's profoundly fulfilling to hear that I've provided a sanctuary of safety and connection where clients can trust me, trust the process, and ultimately, trust themselves. This is the essence of why I'm honored to be part of this transformative work.

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