07/07/2021
wise words from Charmaine
They took themselves home. A mediums perspective on su***de 🧡
People who take themselves home have a disease called depression. It may or may not be obvious. People who are healthy in the mind will not take the final steps, only those who have fought the disease as much they can and cannot see the light at the end of a long dark tunnel will make the choice to leave.
Not everyone treats himself or herself for depression - some self medicate. Some really try to get better but sometimes the treatment just does not work or is not effective.
Depression just like many other diseases, if left untreated can result in death.
Like all spirits who pass away they cross immediately though also like all spirits who cross they most likely participate in a life review - this is my feeling. They can also see the affect they had on those left behind. They are not treated any differently in the spirit realms then someone who passed through any disease. They also are happy to back with those who have gone before them and are treated with love and happiness upon their arrival. It was not their fault their mind was unwell.
When someone decides to take themselves home they do not realise you care, they are in a black abyss in which all they can see is their own perceived failures or darkness. They are not thinking of you or anyone in that moment, they are only thinking about being free of whatever delusions their unhealthy mind has fed them. This is never between you and them.
Although you may be able to string together events that may have been the 'straw that broke the camels back' by no means should you lay the blame for this death on anyone else, no matter how badly you think they may be responsible. It is neither fair nor valid to say someone was the sole cause of the action taken. Usually this type of depression starts unseen and can lay dormant for many years and each year more and more things can increase it. To blame anyone is only taking the focus off your own recovery from this terrible tragedy.
Do not hate them for what they did, do get angry for a while if you must but most importantly remember that they loved you and though they forgot or seemed to forget you loved them too they will definitely know it now - keep sending them love. They can feel that. They can feel any emotion you send to them.
If someone you love has taken himself or herself home you need to be very kind to yourself and everyone else. There will never be a definite answer as to why it was that day, that moment the only thing you will ever know for sure is that they are 'home' and if you can understand that 'home/heaven' is a place where all our earthly worries cease to exist then you will understand they are whole again.
The most important thing you can do if someone you loved has taken themselves home is educate yourself about depression and its causes.
Understand you cannot look at someone and see what he or she is thinking. No one can ever know exactly what lies behind someone else’s eyes. Stop beating yourself up saying you should have known as they are very good at masking when they are making the final choices.
Remember that 8 people in Australia make this choice everyday. You are not alone in your grief and there are a multitude of support groups out there. You do not have to do this journey alone.
I hope this article has helped some of you understand su***de and I urge you to be kind to yourself.
You may never be satisfied you have an answer but just know they were not well. If you are having suicidal thoughts I urge you to contact Life Line at 13 11 14 https://www.lifeline.org.au/ Also contact Beyond Blue to find out as much about why people su***de. When you are educated it will make your grief journey a more informed one. http://www.beyondblue.org.au/ If you have any questions regarding this article please email me at info@spiritwhispers.org
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