I’m Bernie Giggins—founder of Inner Child Harmony Coaching, life coach, author, Navy veteran, wife, mum, and proud grandmother. My mission is to help you heal emotional wounds, break free from old patterns, and step into your true self-sovereignty. Through my own journey overcoming trauma and advocating for my family in domestic & family courts, I’ve learned the power of resilience, compassion, and transformation. That’s what inspired the “Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Sovereignty”—a program designed to support you in shedding old identities and embracing your fullest, most empowered self. Whether you’re seeking one-on-one coaching, group support, or a proven path to personal growth, I’m here to guide you every step of the way as your Self-Sovereignty Coach & mentor. The greatest revolution is the one within—let’s take that journey together.
Self-trust is practicing new choices—especially when the old structure tries to pull you back.
That moment when you feel the urge to fawn, freeze, or forfeit? That's your invitation.
Not to judge yourself. Not to shame yourself. But to pause and ask: "What would I choose if I trusted myself?"
Real change isn't about willpower. It's about awareness plus practice. Small, clean moments of choice, repeated.
The Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Trust is exactly this: learning to recognize the pattern, pause, and choose again.
Ready to start? DM DRAGONFLY for your 60-second reset tool.
04/04/2026
I used to think if I could just solve enough problems… I'd finally feel free.
But problem-solving isn't the same as creating.
Robert Fritz calls it the Path of Least Resistance — when your life keeps returning to old patterns because they feel familiar (even if they cost you).
Easter is a beautiful reminder that something new can rise.
Not through force.
But through structure.
That's why I created the Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Trust Program — a 10-week trauma-informed journey to help you shift fawn/freeze survival patterns, build safety, and create from self-trust. It follows the steps from my personal journey from abuse to freedom and full flight.
If you're ready to stop living on repeat, DM DRAGONFLY.
04/04/2026
Happy 4th of 4th April spiritual meaning - it's considered a highly potent spiritual date, often referred to as the 4/4 Portal or 444 Day.
In numerology, the number 4 represents stability, foundation, practicality, and angelic protection. The 4/4 date amplifies this energy, symbolizing a time to ground oneself, solidify plans, and trust in the support of the universe.
Key Spiritual Meanings of 4th April (4/4):
Foundation and Stability: This date is a cosmic nudge to build solid foundations in your personal or professional life. It is considered an ideal time for grounding practices, such as meditation or spending time in nature.
Angel Number 444 (Divine Support): Seeing 444 or 4/4 signifies that you are surrounded by angelic, protective energy. It acts as a confirmation that you are on the right path, encouraging you to move forward with confidence.
Manifestation Mastery: The 4/4 portal is believed to heighten the ability to turn dreams into reality. It is seen as a time when hard work begins to pay off and "wish fulfillment" is within reach.
Inner Balance and Wisdom: The number 4 represents the four elements (air, fire, water, earth) and signifies a need for balance between mind, body, and spirit. It is a time for introspection and connecting with your intuition.
Action and Determination: The energy of 4/4 promotes practicality and the determination needed to overcome obstacles.
How to Use the 4/4 Energy:
Set Intentions: Take time to write down your goals or the, "4 things you want to release" and "4 things you want to manifest".
Stay Grounded and hydrated: The energy can feel intense, so it is recommended to stay grounded in your purpose and remain present.
Embrace Change: It is viewed as a time for personal transformation and "leveling up".
In summary, 4th April is a powerful day to trust that your efforts are supported, to ground yourself, and to actively manifest your desires into reality
03/04/2026
I had a revelation after completing Robert Fritz's seminar Foundations to Structural Consulting.
Freeze & fawn isn't just a "reaction."
It can be, and in my lived experience, is an automatic forfeiting of the life my heart wants… just to stay safe, small, and powerless.
And the most liberating part?
That forfeiting isn't personal. It's structural.
Now I'm free to choose.
Not obligated. Not guilted. Not shamed into being someone I can't ever be.
Truth is: I have choice.
And with choice comes self-trust.
I trust divine opportunities will show up when I am in my truth—and I will receive them with joy.
If this speaks to you, and you're ready to stop forfeiting your life for safety, the Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Trust is for you.
Want the next step? DM DRAGONFLY.
03/04/2026
Big revelation for me lately:
Freeze & fawn responses from survivial patterns, can be forfeiting the life your heart wants… just to stay safe small, and not rock the boat.
And here's the freeing part: it's structural, not a personality flaw.
For years I lived inside an inherited "good girl" ideal (good wife, good mother, good grandmother…) — shaped in my family system a long time ago. "Good" was how I belonged and avoided consequences.
Now I'm choosing differently. No more obligation. No more guilt. No more shame.
If this is landing for you, DM DRAGONFLY and I'll send you my 60-second reset tool.
03/04/2026
Easter isn't just about renewal.
It's about choice.
When unconscious patterning is running your life, it can look like:
over-pleasing
chameleoning
avoiding / hiding
fixing yourself like you're a problem
Robert Fritz calls it the Path of Least Resistance — where life defaults back to the familiar, even when it hurts.
The Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Trust Program is a different way. Created from my personal journey from abuse to freedom and full flight.
Not problem-solving your way through life… but creating the life you desire.
DM DRAGONFLY if you want the details.
02/04/2026
That forfeiting of the life your heart wants—when you automatically choose safety over truth?
That's not personal. It's patterned.
And patterned means it can be changed.
In the Dragonfly Pathway to Self-Trust, we don't shame the pattern. We see it. We understand it. And we practise new moves.
Eight weeks. Ten women. One journey from freeze/fawn to self-trust.
DM DRAGONFLY to learn more.
27/03/2026
Big revelation for me lately:
Freeze & fawn can be forfeiting the life your heart wants… just to stay safe, small, and not rock the boat.
And here's the freeing part: it's structural, not a personality flaw.
For years I lived inside an inherited "good girl" ideal (good wife, good mother, good grandmother…) — shaped in my family system a long time ago. "Good" was how I belonged and avoided consequences.
Now I'm choosing differently. No more obligation. No more guilt. No more shame.
If this is landing for you, DM DRAGONFLY and I'll send you my 60-second reset tool.
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We all know the normal fight, flight and freeze responses but Fawn is the four-letter trauma response no-one is talking about. It answers the frustrating questions of why we can’t use our voice, can’t be seen, can’t stop sacrificing our life for others, no matter the cost to ourselves, it’s a silent FAWN addiction?
The Fawn mindset is an immensely powerful entity, inside a fortress to keep you permanently safe, protected and survive, at any cost. Fawn is programmed by your deepest fears and childhood beliefs, hardwired to brain and nervous systems, it controls everything about you and life.
Fawn forfeits on your behalf, makes you sacrifice without conscious consent. You become the permanent assistant to everyone’s success and happiness while forsaking our own. Forever on the cursed merry-go-round, questioning when is it ever going to be my turn?
From Fawn to Fearless Program unpacks the lies, illusions, hidden agendas the Fawn has over us to become the protective guardian we need.
By working with me, you will access the deepest truths and inner resources your soul has for you. You will gain the fearlessness required to claim back your power by connecting to your soul and freeing your own rebel inner child.
You will gain back the courage, bravery and Mumma bear attitude, you already have within, setting your rebel heart and life free. Then attracting the positive, loving, abundance and relationships waiting for you outside the Fawn fortress door.
