Idi Pimenta Heart Centred Relationship Coach

08/12/2025

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One thing we don’t talk about enough is how our body and spirit often speak long before our mind catches up. Sometimes it comes as a heaviness, an uneasiness, or a simple feeling that something is off. And listen — you don’t need a grand reason to honor that feeling. You don’t need permission. The discomfort is the reason.

When your peace starts to shrink, when your laughter feels forced, when your presence feels like a burden instead of a gift — that’s your inner compass whispering, “Step back. Protect your space. Choose you.”

You are allowed to take distance without writing long explanations. You are allowed to say no without guilt. You are allowed to preserve your energy even if others don’t understand. Your well-being is not up for negotiation.

Trust that inner nudge. It’s guiding you away from what drains and toward what nourishes, uplifts, and aligns with who you’re becoming. When you honor yourself, you create room for peace, joy, and relationships that meet you with kindness and respect.

Remember: You don’t need anyone’s approval to safeguard your peace. Your emotional safety matters.💛

05/12/2025

Ive noticed a pattern...
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I've noticed a pattern in many women I know—a quiet, gnawing sense of emptiness, a constant search for validation, or a deep-seated fear of abandonment that seems disproportionate to their current relationships. They might have a mother, but they often feel a fundamental lack of groundedness or nurturing. This isn't just a simple relationship problem; it's a deep, primal wound. Kelly McDaniel’s Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance names this void and provides the compassionate, clinical framework needed for healing. McDaniel, a licensed professional counselor, argues that this deficit creates a specific form of attachment trauma that women attempt to fill with food, work, love, or unhealthy relationships. This book proves that the hunger you feel is not a flaw; it is a signal of unfulfilled, essential relational needs, asserting that by consciously re-parenting yourself, you can finally feed that core hunger and step into emotional wholeness.

Mother Hunger is a therapeutic and relational guide written specifically for adult daughters who experienced a primary relational deficit with their mothers. McDaniel defines Mother Hunger as an unmet need in one or more of three crucial areas: Nurturing, Protection, and Guidance. She explains how the absence of these elements during critical developmental windows can lead to lifelong issues, often manifesting as codependency, emotional eating, unhealthy partner choices, and chronic anxiety—symptoms often misdiagnosed or dismissed. The book is structured to help the reader recognize their specific hunger pattern, understand how it influences their current behavior (especially their "hunger substitutes"), and initiate a three-part healing process rooted in re-parenting the self. The core argument is empowering and liberating: Your deepest struggles are the echoes of a wounded relational blueprint, and the most powerful healing you can undertake is to consciously provide yourself with the love, security, and direction you never received.

1. The Three Hungers: Mother Hunger is categorized into three essential, often missing, ingredients: the need for Nurturing (comfort and unconditional love), Protection (safe boundaries and validation), and Guidance (direction and life skills).

2. Hunger Substitutes: When the core hunger isn't met, women unconsciously seek "substitutes" to fill the void, often turning to food, love, workaholism, caretaking others, or spending. Recognizing the substitute is the first step toward addressing the real need.

3. Trauma is Relational: The wound is not just the mother's actions, but the lack of a safe, consistent emotional connection. This deficit is a form of relational trauma that impacts the nervous system and attachment blueprint.

4. Identifying Your Attachment Style: Understanding whether you operate from an anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style is crucial, as this pattern dictates how you choose partners and react to closeness or distance.

5. Re-parenting the Self: Healing requires becoming the Conscious Mother to your Inner Child. This involves consistently providing the self-nurturing, protection, and guidance that was historically missing.

6. Re-parenting the Self: Healing requires becoming the Conscious Mother to your Inner Child. This involves consistently providing the self-nurturing, protection, and guidance that was historically missing.for practicing healthy attachment.

7. The Codependency Trap: Mother Hunger often leads to codependency, where a woman attempts to heal her own deficits by caring for or merging with another person (often a dysfunctional partner). Breaking this cycle requires radical self-focus.

8. Grief is Necessary: The path to healing requires grieving the mother you deserved but never had. You must acknowledge the loss of the ideal mother before you can accept the reality of the mother you have (or had).

9. The Body Holds the Trauma: Relational trauma is stored in the body, not just the mind. Healing practices must involve the body—like deep breathing, somatic exercises, or mindful movement—to help regulate the nervous system.

10. The Gift of Self-Validation: Because the Mother Hunger was born of invalidation, the ultimate act of healing is radically validating your own emotions, needs, and worth, regardless of external feedback.

BOOK: https://amzn.to/4oufZoj

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04/12/2025

Shame is weaponised to obligate and control women in every part of our lives. The moment we can see it for what it is, something in us can start to breathe again.
That’s where freedom begins.

"Im not here to be understood, Im here to be true"
Chase Hughes

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So many of us were taught to ignore our discomfort, minimize our needs, or stay quiet to keep the peace. But healing often begins the moment we recognize that our feelings are valid—even when they’re inconvenient for others.

Giving yourself permission to name what doesn’t feel safe is an act of courage. It means you’re listening to your body instead of pushing past your limits. It means you’re honoring your instincts rather than abandoning yourself.

Safety isn’t just about physical protection—it’s about emotional, mental, and energetic protection too.
You’re allowed to step back. You’re allowed to pause. You’re allowed to choose what aligns with your peace.

Your “no” doesn’t make you difficult.
It makes you someone who is finally protecting their own heart.

03/12/2025

Calling NDIS Social Work Providers: Annual Pricing Review 2025–26
The NDIA has opened consultations for the 2025–26 Annual Pricing Review. This is an important opportunity for social workers, and the participants they support to inform pricing frameworks that shape everyday practice and influence participant experiences and outcomes across targeted areas, including: Therapy Supports, Support Coordination, Social and Community Participation, Plan Management, and Disability Support Worker Supports.

Get involved by:
1. Completing the Providers Survey: https://bit.ly/3Mg8WSI
2. Complete the Participant Survey: https://bit.ly/3Xx1Xan
3. Make a written submission - closing 8 February 2026.

To request a printed copy of either survey or for more information, please email APR@ndis.gov.au. Alternatively, reach out to the AASW Social Policy & Advocacy team at social.policy@aasw.asn.au.

This advocacy is made possible by members. Every member strengthens our voice and your membership powers progress. Become a member. https://bit.ly/4pGAsbf

02/12/2025

Some expectations aren’t spoken.
They’re assumed.
They’re placed on women without consent, enforced through guilt and shame.

Patience without limits.
Understanding without rest.
Carrying what others drop.
Fixing what others break.

This is the tacit script given to women.
Not requested; imposed.
Guilt whispers, shame binds, and suddenly we’re obligated to roles
we never said yes to.

Its the quiet control we were taught not to see.
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Rebecca Solnit wrote those words as a quiet challenge to a pattern many women know too well.
She noticed how often women are asked to wait, to absorb, to understand, to smooth over
situations shaped by decisions they never made. She saw how patience becomes a
requirement rather than a choice, how calmness is praised while discomfort is dismissed.
The quote struck a nerve because it names something rarely spoken aloud. Women are
encouraged to be reasonable even when the circumstances are not. They are asked to carry
emotional weight, to mediate conflicts, to soften the edges of other people’s actions. They are
told that endurance is strength, even when endurance becomes a burden.
Solnit’s line invites a different kind of clarity. It asks readers to notice the invisible expectations
placed on women in families, workplaces, and communities. It suggests that responsibility
should belong to the one who creates the problem, not the one who happens to be closest to it.
It reminds us that patience is powerful only when it is chosen, not demanded.
Her words resonate because they open a door to honesty. They allow women to say, “This is not
mine to fix,” without guilt. They encourage fairness over silence and self respect over endless
understanding.
Rebecca Solnit gives language to a truth many have felt but could not articulate. She reminds
us that recognizing what is not ours to carry is not defiance. It is dignity.

01/12/2025

Differentiation is the path toward peace & well-being
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Just because I miss you doesn’t mean I want you back. Missing you is simply a reminder of what once felt familiar—your voice, your presence, the way certain moments used to make sense. It’s not a sign that we were meant to last; it’s just the echo of a chapter that shaped me. Sometimes the heart holds on to memories long after the mind has accepted the truth. Missing someone is human, but it doesn’t mean the story should be reopened or rewritten.

What it really means is that I’m still learning, still healing, still understanding the difference between longing and belonging. Missing you is a feeling, not a roadmap. It doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten why we ended or that the pain never happened. It just means I cared—deeply—and those kinds of feelings don’t vanish overnight. And with time, the missing becomes softer, quieter, easier to carry… not because I want you back, but because I’m finally learning to move forward without you.

— Balt

27/11/2025

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25/11/2025

Sharing this piece because it speaks so beautifully to what I appreciate about the Somatic Experiencing® (SE) community; the care, the embodiment, and the integrity behind the work.

Being on the Melbourne training team held an extra layer of meaning for me. I was first taught by Maggie Kline back in 2012, and having the opportunity to support the training alongside her now felt quietly special.

I’m grateful for the learning, the connection, and the quiet ways we support each other in this work.

If you’re curious about SE or the training pathway, this article offers a thoughtful glimpse into why the work matters.
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Somatic Experiencing® is more than a modality—it’s a movement.

Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) isn’t just another therapeutic approach — it’s part of a global movement to transform how we understand and respond to trauma.
Across 40+ countries, SE™ is equipping professionals, healers, educators, and community leaders with the skills to support trauma recovery in culturally responsive, ethically grounded, and deeply human ways.

At its heart, SE™ honours the body’s innate wisdom — and recognises that trauma is not only an individual experience but also a collective and intergenerational one. Healing, therefore, must include body, relationship, culture, and community.

What Makes SE™ a Movement
It invites a paradigm shift — from “what’s wrong with you?” to “what happened to you, and how did your body adapt?”
It values embodiment over analysis, recognising that regulation, repair, and resilience arise through the body’s natural rhythms.
It calls us into ethical presence and cultural humility — meeting each nervous system with respect for its story, context, and history.
It builds communities of practice — networks of professionals who are restoring connection and safety at personal, systemic, and societal levels.

Why This Matters
The world is calling for trauma-informed leadership — in healthcare, education, social work, justice, and community settings. SE™ offers not just tools, but a way of being that restores compassion, dignity, and connection where fragmentation once existed. When we heal together, we change what’s possible — for ourselves, for our clients, and for the generations that follow.

Learn More
Join the Somatic Experiencing® Professional Training in Australia and become part of a growing international community of practitioners creating systems of care that are relational, embodied, and trauma-informed.

Register your interest today, visit https://bit.ly/4i3ZptT

24/11/2025

Two people, anchored together, can weather storms that would undo them alone.

We live in a dangerous, indifferent, sometimes hostile, and unpredictable world. When the chips are down, people tend to scramble and take care of themselves.

This is why secure-functioning relationships are so important. Together, partners can create a shelter from the slings and arrows of life. They can protect one another, rely on one another, and ensure each other's safety.