Idi Pimenta Heart Centred Relationship Coach

19/02/2026

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28/12/2025

The Body Remembers
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Trauma doesn’t only live in memory. It lives in posture, breath, muscle tension, startle responses, and the way the nervous system stays on guard long after danger has passed. Long before words arrive, the body has already learned the lesson.

The Body Remembers begins from that understanding.

Babette Rothschild bridges neuroscience, physiology, and psychotherapy to explain how traumatic experiences are stored not just in the mind, but in the body’s automatic responses. This is not a book about reliving trauma. It is a book about understanding how the nervous system adapts to threat, and how healing must work with the body, not against it.

Clear, precise, and deeply respectful of both clients and practitioners, Rothschild explains how symptoms like hypervigilance, emotional numbness, dissociation, and chronic tension are not failures to “move on,” but intelligent survival responses. The body learned to protect itself. The problem arises when those protections remain active long after the danger is gone.

Lessons from The Body Remembers:

1. Trauma Is Physiological as Well as Psychological
Traumatic stress affects the autonomic nervous system, shaping reactions beyond conscious control. Healing requires working with the body, not just insight or memory.

2. Symptoms Are Survival Strategies
Responses like freezing, numbing, or hyper-alertness once served a protective function. What looks like dysfunction is often adaptation that outlived its context.

3. The Body Stores Implicit Memory
Trauma can be remembered through sensation, tension, and reflex, even without clear narrative memory. Understanding may come through bodily awareness before words.

4. Safety Comes Before Processing
Rothschild emphasizes stabilization and nervous system regulation before any trauma exploration. Healing cannot happen in a state of overwhelm.

5. Arousal Regulation Is Central
Managing activation (fight/flight) and shutdown (freeze) is key to recovery. Learning to recognize and modulate arousal restores a sense of control.

6. Choice Restores Agency
Trauma removes choice; healing reintroduces it. Empowerment, not exposure is the foundation of trauma treatment.

7. The Body Can Learn Safety Again
Just as the nervous system learned threat, it can relearn calm and connection.The body’s memory is not permanent, it is plastic.

The Body Remembers is not a light read, and it isn’t meant to be. It’s a foundational text that reshaped how trauma is understood and treated, especially in somatic and trauma-informed therapy. Its strength lies in its clarity, restraint, and respect for the human nervous system.

This book is invaluable for therapists, caregivers, and thoughtful readers who want to understand trauma beyond labels and symptoms. It teaches a crucial truth: healing is not about forcing the body to forget, but helping it learn that the danger has passed.

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24/12/2025

I hope you get lots of presence
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Love is presence.
Not the loud kind that makes a show of affection, but the quiet kind that stays. The kind that notices. The kind that listens even when no words are spoken.

Real love lives in the details — in the pauses between conversations, in the way someone remembers what calms you, what triggers you, what makes you feel safe… without needing reminders. It’s in consistency. In consideration. In choosing you, not just when it’s convenient, but when it requires effort.

Love is when care feels natural, not forced.
When effort isn’t a performance, but a reflection of genuine connection.
When you don’t feel anxious, confused, or constantly guessing where you stand.

True love isn’t noisy.
It doesn’t need grand gestures to convince you.
It feels steady. Secure. Peaceful.

And if what you’re experiencing feels heavy, draining, or unclear, it may be time to pause and ask yourself honest questions — because love should feel like rest, not resistance.

If you’re ready to gain clarity, heal patterns, and learn how to experience healthy love the right way, I’m here to guide you.

👉 Click the link in my bio to book a 1-on-1 session with me.

21/12/2025

Limerence is a cul-de-sac, a dead end, that requires a You turn.

The good moments do not cancel the pattern; and the pattern is what harmed us.
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20/12/2025

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Intelligence without compassion can build systems, but not peace...

20/12/2025

You are a beautiful and unique person with strengths that deserve to be recognized and seen. 🧡

10 Ways being an overthinker is your superpower:

✔️ You’re deeply attuned and empathic to what others are feeling.

✔️ You notice subtle shifts, patterns, and unspoken cues that others miss.

✔️ You think things through carefully and consider the impact of your choices.

✔️ You take responsibility seriously and tend to follow through.

✔️ You anticipate problems before they happen and plan accordingly.

✔️ You care deeply about doing the right thing, not just the easy thing.

✔️ You love with intention, loyalty, and depth.

✔️ You have a rich inner world and strong creative capacity.

✔️ You’re able to hold nuance, complexity, and multiple perspectives at once.

✔️ You’re highly self-reflective and motivated to grow.

Yes, it’s no secret that overthinking can derail us or create more anxiety. But I don’t think we pay enough attention to the beautiful parts of us that feel and love so deeply because of our sensitivity.

You are a beautiful and unique person with strengths that deserve to be recognized and seen. ❤️

19/12/2025

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16/12/2025

For some, December can feel heavy; emotionally and financially. If this season is bringing up grief or loneliness, support is available, and there is fee relief too.
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💙 The festive season isn’t joyful for everyone 💙

For many people, this time of year can bring grief to the surface more strongly.
The absence of loved ones, whether through bereavement, estrangement, relationship breakdown, or other losses can feel especially heavy when the world around us seems focused on celebration.

If you’re noticing feelings of sadness, isolation, or feeling lost, please know that you’re not alone and that support is available.

As a way of supporting the community during what can be a particularly triggering time, Rachel Harvey Counselling is offering 50% off standard counselling fees throughout the festive period.

You deserve care, understanding, and space to talk,especially now.

📩 If you’d like to reach out or learn more, please send a message or get in touch via email or phone to discuss your needs.
MB: 0478 111 191
EM: rachelharveycounselling@outlook.com.au

Be gentle with yourself this season 💛

"You're a product of your past, not a prisoner of it. Your past doesn't have to define you." - Anonymous

16/12/2025

I’ve been thinking about what happened at Bondi, and how events like this don’t just live in the news cycle. They live in bodies.

You might notice a tightening, a heaviness, a sense of watchfulness, or a sudden wave of feeling that doesn’t seem to belong just to now. You might feel fine and then not fine later. All of that makes sense.

For some people this lands close, because of identity, history, or lived experience. For others it shows up indirectly, through clients, children, or the work we do caring for others. There is no neat way the nervous system processes harm.

If you’re someone who usually holds spacefor othets, this is a gentle permission slip to be held too. To slow down where you can. To reach for another human. To remember you’re not meant to metabolise this alone.

I’m holding in mind those who were directly impacted, the communities carrying the weight of this, and the first responders and health workers tending to the immediate aftermath.

If you need support, it’s okay to reach out: Lifeline 13 11 14
Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636
JewishCare NSW 1300 133 660
Emergency: 000

Be kind with your heart & your nervous system. It’s doing its best with something it should never have to experience..
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15/12/2025

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Grief really does hit harder during the holidays.😔💔

12/12/2025

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UNPOPULAR OPINION: Sometimes the healed version of you is meaner — but not because you became cruel. It’s because healing changes your tolerances, your capacity for chaos, and your willingness to abandon yourself for the comfort of others.

The old you apologized just to keep the peace.
The healed you lets the silence sit and forces accountability.

The old you overexplained yourself, trying to be understood.
The healed you realizes someone committed to misunderstanding you never lacked clarity — they lacked honesty.

The old you accepted the bare minimum with gratitude.
The healed you sees bare minimum as an insult, not an effort.

Healing often looks like distance, fewer replies, shorter sentences, cancelled plans, or a version of you that no longer entertains conversations that drain your spirit. People who benefited from your silence, your softness, your lack of boundaries will call it “mean.” They will insist you’ve changed — and they’re right.

You did change.

You outgrew the version of yourself that tolerated what hurt you.

Sometimes healing makes you quieter, firmer, and uninterested in proving your worth. Sometimes healing looks like walking away without explanation — not to be rude, but because you finally understand that peace is not a discussion; it is a decision.
“Andy Burg”

11/12/2025

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dear me,
repair. don’t repeat.