Ros Wilson Counselling and Coaching

Ros Wilson Counselling and Coaching Ros Wilson Counselling and Coaching
Certified Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coach
Narcissistic Abuse specialist For more information http://www.roswilson.com.au

Professional Counsellor since 2000

Hollistic Counsellor 2001

A supervisor of Counsellors since 2010

A life coach since 2015

Accredited Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coach

Narcissistic Specialist

Brainspotting Practitioner

My passion in Counselling is the Personal Development of Women. WIEBGE certified with Dr. Karyl McBride in the 5 step recovery process for daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. A Certified Integrated Trauma informed Coach

Sessions can be face-to-face, via zoom or in groups. short courses and workshops are run throughout the year on a number of different topics including Personal Development, Renew You Love your life coaching program, Supervising Counsellor Groups along with other special events.

I want to share something most women raised in chaos never get to hear.It’s the truth that changes everything.Most women...
14/12/2025

I want to share something most women raised in chaos never get to hear.
It’s the truth that changes everything.

Most women think healing is about finding the right tools.
The right script.
The right strategy.
The right information.
But that’s not why you’re stuck.

You’re stuck because no one in your life has ever been able to hold you..
Read the full newsletter here. - https://mailchi.mp/16c8ddf3ac7d/you-were-never-told

08/12/2025

Some women grew up with a parent who didn’t know how to be a parent.
Fragile one day.
Explosive the next.

Unpredictable always.

And here’s the truth no one told you:
You weren’t raised to feel safe.
You were raised to manage someone else’s emotions.
That’s why you became the steady one.
The quiet one.
The one who muted her feelings to keep the peace.
The one who stayed small so the parent didn’t fall apart.
That wasn’t “strength.”

It was survival.

Your nervous system learnt the rule first:
“Stay small. Keep everyone stable.”
You never had the luxury of being a child.
And now you call it anxiety.
People-pleasing.
Overthinking.
Hyperindependence.
Not trusting yourself.

These aren’t flaws.
They’re adaptations.
Your body remembers what your childhood demanded.
Read that again:
Your body remembers.

If this lands in your chest, not your mind —
that’s the part of you finally ready to stop carrying what was never yours.

You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re the woman who survived a childhood she was never supported in.
You don’t have to keep surviving.

There is another way to live — where you get to be held.
If you want to do this work with someone who understands emotionally immature and narcissistic parents at a deep nervous-system level, you know where to find me.















When a narcissistic mother says“My horrible daughter said to me…”what she really means is:“My daughter told the truthand...
07/12/2025

When a narcissistic mother says

“My horrible daughter said to me…”
what she really means is:
“My daughter told the truth
and it didn’t serve me.”

She calls you horrible because you stopped performing.
Stopped absorbing her moods.
Stopped protecting her image.
Stopped making yourself small to keep the peace.
You didn’t betray her.

You stopped betraying yourself.
And the moment you stopped playing the role she built her identity around, she did what emotionally immature mothers always do —

she flipped the script, claimed victimhood, and told the world you’re the problem.
But here’s the truth high-functioning women eventually see with clarity:
You weren’t a horrible daughter.

You were a daughter forced to raise yourself while managing a mother who never emotionally grew up.

And now that you’re healing?
She’ll call it disrespect.
She’ll call it selfish.
She’ll call it “horrible.”

Because your boundaries expose the one thing she’s avoided her whole life:
accountability.

If this is landing with frightening accuracy, you’re not alone.
And you’re not the villain.

You’re the woman finally choosing herself —
after a lifetime of being punished for trying to.

If you’re done feeling guilty for the choices that protect your peace, my 1:1 sessions are open.














WHY THIS MATTERS NOWIf you’re reading this, there’s a part of you that already knows something hasn’t felt right for a v...
06/12/2025

WHY THIS MATTERS NOW
If you’re reading this, there’s a part of you that already knows something hasn’t felt right for a very long time.

Maybe you’ve spent years trying to be “the good daughter.”
Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that her behaviour wasn’t that bad.

Maybe you’ve built an entire life around keeping the peace, shrinking yourself, or avoiding her reactions.

But here’s the truth most daughters of emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers don’t realise until much later:
Your nervous system has been carrying a story your mind was never allowed to speak.
The self-doubt.
The guilt.
The overthinking.
The people-pleasing.

The way you fall apart around her — no matter how strong you are everywhere else.
None of this is who you are.
It’s who you had to become to survive.

This guide will help you see what you were never allowed to notice.
It will name the behaviours you minimised.
It will validate the parts of you that were dismissed.

And it will give shape to the invisible wounds you’ve been carrying alone.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not ungrateful.
You’re not fragile.

You’re a woman whose childhood trained her to hold everyone together but herself.
And this is the moment everything begins to shift — not because you’re “finally ready,”
but because you’re finally telling the truth your body has known for decades.

Let’s walk through this gently.
You don’t have to abandon your mother.
But you do get to stop abandoning yourself.

DM me today fro your free copy and I will send it immediately











Your whole body exhales.There’s no confusion.No self-blame.No second-guessing.Women tell me all the time:“This is the fi...
06/12/2025

Your whole body exhales.
There’s no confusion.
No self-blame.
No second-guessing.

Women tell me all the time:
“This is the first time anything has made sense.”
“Why didn’t someone tell me this years ago?”
“I feel like I can breathe again.”

Because when someone finally tells you the truth — clearly, calmly, without flinching — your nervous system recognises safety.
And safety is what makes healing possible.






This entire week has been about the truth you were never given.Not inspiration.Not positivity.Not fake empowerment.Truth...
06/12/2025

This entire week has been about the truth you were never given.
Not inspiration.
Not positivity.

Not fake empowerment.
Truth.
Safety.
Leadership.

If your body felt something shift this week, listen to it.

That’s not fear.
That’s recognition.

When you’re ready to work with someone who doesn’t tiptoe around your trauma — and actually helps you get free — I’m here.

DM PRIVATE if you want grounded, trauma-informed leadership that finally makes healing possible for you.









Why you fall apart around them (but hold it together everywhere else).It’s not weakness. It’s your nervous system rememb...
06/12/2025

Why you fall apart around them (but hold it together everywhere else).

It’s not weakness. It’s your nervous system remembering what you’ve survived.
This week’s newsletter explains the real reason high-functioning women collapse around certain people — and how to change it.

Check your inbox, lovely. - https://mailchi.mp/b99ffa2bca8d/why-you-cant-hold-it-together

Family isn’t defined by blood. It’s defined by how they treat you.So many women stay connected to people who keep hurtin...
05/12/2025

Family isn’t defined by blood. It’s defined by how they treat you.

So many women stay connected to people who keep hurting them because they were taught that “family is everything.”
Even when those same people dismiss their pain, guilt-trip them, or make them responsible for keeping the peace.

When you grow up with emotionally immature or narcissistic family members, loyalty is demanded — not earned.
You’re conditioned to tolerate disrespect because “that’s just how they are.”

But here’s the truth high-functioning women eventually realise:
You don’t owe your emotional safety to anyone — even if they share your DNA.
Love without respect is not love.
Connection without safety is not family.

When you step back from people who hurt you, your nervous system finally exhales.
You stop chasing closeness with people who only offer chaos.
And you begin building real family — the kind built on respect, care, and emotional safety.

You’re not breaking a family.
You’re breaking a generational pattern.

If you’re ready to build relationships that feel safe — not obligatory — DM FAMILY and I’ll support you to create the life and connections you deserve.








Here’s the part you’ve never been told:You’re not repeating bad relationships.You’re repeating familiar nervous-system s...
05/12/2025

Here’s the part you’ve never been told:
You’re not repeating bad relationships.

You’re repeating familiar nervous-system states.
The intensity.
The unpredictability.
The walking on eggshells.

The pressure to over-function.
The fear of disappointing someone.

It’s not your fault.

It’s a pattern that was wired long before you had a choice.
Once you see the truth, the pattern loses its power.





04/12/2025

Nobody talks about the exhaustion that hits the moment your body finally feels safe.

My clients think something is “wrong” with them because the second life stops burning… they crash.
They can’t get off the couch.
They feel flat, emotional, foggy.
And they panic thinking they’ve gone backwards.

But here’s the truth:
When you’ve lived in alert mode for years, “safety” doesn’t feel calm.
It feels like your whole system shutting down the emergency generators.
Your body finally trusts you enough to stop running.

Exhaustion isn’t a failure.
It’s the first sign your nervous system has moved out of survival.
This is the moment your body starts repairing the parts of you that were neglected while you were busy holding everything together.

When women learn this inside my work, everything softens.
The shame drops.
The panic settles.
They finally realise, “I’m not falling apart. I’m healing.”
And that’s when their energy returns — not from pushing, but from safety.

This is what I do every day with high-functioning women who are exhausted from being the strong one.
I help you understand your nervous system so you stop confusing healing with regression.
You learn what your body is asking for… and how to respond without fear.

If this hit your chest… DM SAFE.
I’ll show you what your system is really doing — and how to find steady energy again without pushing yourself back into survival.













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77 Anne Road
Knoxfield, VIC
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Tuesday 9am - 6pm
Wednesday 9am - 6pm
Thursday 9am - 6pm
Friday 9am - 6pm

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I have been a counsellor since before 2000. A supervisor of counsellors since 2010. My passion in counselling is the personal development of women and the life skills of children. I am WIEBGE certified with Dr. Karyl McBride in the 5 step recovery process for daughter of Narcissistic Mothers. Sessions can be face to face, on the phone, via skype or in groups. I run short courses and workshops through out the year on a number of different topics including Personal Development, ReNew You and support groups for supervising counsellor along with other special events. For more information http://www.roswilson.com.au