Mohamed Rima

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Don’t build your identity on pain. It keeps them alive in your story. You’re more than what they did to you.When you bui...
25/03/2026

Don’t build your identity on pain. It keeps them alive in your story. You’re more than what they did to you.

When you build your sense of self around what they did to you, you stay tied to them long after they're gone.

It keeps you stuck in the same emotional landscape. It keeps their voice louder than your own.

And without realising it, it keeps giving the abuser power in a life they no longer live in.

Pain is part of your story but it was never meant to become your personality. So don't let it.

You are not "the one who was hurt."
You are not "the one who survived them.'
You are not the sum of the wounds someone else created. Yes, these things happened to you, but they are not who you are.

When you build your identity on pain, everything becomes a reaction: your boundaries, your choices, your relationships, your self-worth. You end up living from the wound instead of living from your values in the present moment.

Healing is when you start building your identity on who you're becoming, not what you endured.

Islam teaches us that Allah brings people out of darkness into light, not to keep them defined by the darkness, but to Show them who they can be beyond it. Your nervous system heals when it has something to move towards, not just something to escape.

So let this be your reminder:
Your pain explains you. It does not define you. Your past shaped you. It does not own you. Your story began before them, and it continues without them.

You get to choose who you are now.
Not the wound. Not the abuser. Not the trauma.

You.

Slow down
24/03/2026

Slow down

Abusers don’t just hide their behaviour. They hide you so no one hears the truth. Silencing you is how they avoid accoun...
21/03/2026

Abusers don’t just hide their behaviour. They hide you so no one hears the truth. Silencing you is how they avoid accountability.

Happy Eid 😊
20/03/2026

Happy Eid 😊

Some marriages feel peaceful because commitment is real. Some feel chaotic because commitment is performative. This pos...
19/03/2026

Some marriages feel peaceful because commitment is real.

Some feel chaotic because commitment is performative.

This post isn’t about perfection, it’s about the difference between a partner who creates safety, and a partner who keeps you in survival mode.

If you recognise the “man‑child” patterns, it’s not your failure. It’s a lack of emotional adulthood on their end.

This can be applied to a women-child, the female equivalent to a man-child.

Your nervous system deserves the kind of love that lets it breathe.

Perhaps we shouldn't let the headlines think for us?
08/03/2026

Perhaps we shouldn't let the headlines think for us?

Getting to know someone for marriage can be challenging, and it’s not always easy to read someone’s intentions early on....
08/03/2026

Getting to know someone for marriage can be challenging, and it’s not always easy to read someone’s intentions early on. But there are clear signs that someone may be more interested in s*x, validation, or feeding darker impulses than building a genuine, meaningful connection. These red flags can help you recognise predatory behaviour before you get emotionally invested.

1. Focus on Physical Appearance:
If their compliments or attention are mostly focused on your looks or body, rather than your personality, interests, or accomplishments, they might be more interested in s*x than a genuine relationship.

2. Rushing Intimacy:
If they try to rush the relationship toward s*x quickly, push boundaries, subtly pressure you to move faster than you're comfortable with, or insist you must “rush the marriage to keep it halal,” it’s a sign their focus is s*xual, not sincere.

3. Inconsistent Communication:
They’re attentive and sweet at times, but their communication fades when intimacy isn’t involved. Their interest spikes around s*xual conversations and drops when you want emotional connection.

4. Avoiding Emotional Depth:
They avoid deeper conversations about values, family, long‑term goals, or emotional compatibility. They show little interest in your inner world or building a real bond.

5. Frequent Physical Touching or S*xualised Behaviour:
They constantly touch you, flirt, or behave in s*xually suggestive ways without respecting your boundaries. When you say no, they minimise it or try to convince you that being “horny all the time” is normal and you should accept it.

6. No Interest in Your Life Beyond S*x:
They don’t ask meaningful questions about your hobbies, career, dreams, or personality. They’re not trying to know you — they’re trying to access you.

7. Excessive S*xual Talk:
They bring up s*xual topics or dark fantasies frequently, even when it’s inappropriate or unwanted. They often claim to have a “high s*x drive” as a cover for addiction, compulsive behaviour, or predatory tendencies. You’re rarely the only person they’re pursuing.

8. Love Bombing or Overwhelming Charm:
They use intense charm, compliments, and “fate” language early on to fast‑track emotional closeness. Once they feel they’ve gained your trust, they push for physical intimacy under the guise of “chemistry” or “destiny.”

9. Hot‑and‑Cold Behaviour:
They’re romantic when intimacy is on the table but distant or cold when it’s not. Patterns of ghosting after s*xual interactions, then returning with love bombing, are classic predatory cycles.

10. Disrespect for Consent and Bodily Autonomy:
They touch you without consent — a hand on your waist, thigh, or back — and when you say no, they make you feel like the problem. They minimise your discomfort, mock your boundaries, or slowly push limits over time. This is a major red flag.

11. Testing Your Vulnerabilities:
They ask intrusive questions about past trauma, insecurities, or emotional wounds early on — not to understand you, but to assess where you’re vulnerable. Predators often use this information later to manipulate or pressure you.

12. Boundary Negotiation or “Grey-Zone” Manipulation:
Instead of respecting your boundaries, they try to negotiate them. If you say no to something, they ask for “just a little bit” or try to make your limits seem extreme. Healthy people respect boundaries immediately; predators try to reshape them.

Your safety, dignity, and autonomy are sacred. Trust your instincts when something feels off, and never let anyone pressure you to compromise your values or boundaries. You deserve a relationship built on respect, sincerity, and emotional connection — not lust, manipulation, or entitlement. Stay grounded in your faith, stay aware, and protect your heart and body with confidence.

The world feels heavy, but a single genuine smile can still shift a whole moment. A smile is still universal first aid. ...
04/03/2026

The world feels heavy, but a single genuine smile can still shift a whole moment. A smile is still universal first aid.

03/03/2026

New handle, same mission

Just a quick update — I’ve changed my username across Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube from thecouplescounsellor to .

I wanted a handle that reflects what I’m actually here to do: teach, guide, and offer grounded psychoeducational support — not the service-provider "book me" energy. Nothing else is changing: same voice, same honesty, same focus on helping people understand themselves and their relationships better.

My thoughts on empathy, humanity, and what narcissistic abuse looks like on the world stage.
01/03/2026

My thoughts on empathy, humanity, and what narcissistic abuse looks like on the world stage.

Any question that starts with “How can I get my husband/wife to stop…” is already pointing in the wrong direction. ...
28/02/2026

Any question that starts with “How can I get my husband/wife to stop…” is already pointing in the wrong direction.

27/02/2026

When you choose your spouse, you also choose their past, so choose wisely. (Back when the greys were fresh lol)

Note: This information is not intended for situations where abuse, betrayal, or addiction is active.

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About Me

I have been actively involved in community work for over 15 years focusing on grassroots work in the Muslim community. I am also a co-founder and General Manager of MIA - Markaz Imam Ahmad, a very active Islamic community centre in the heart of Liverpool CBD. My focal work in MIA is the development of youth in the light of Islamic teachings and building them to be productive in our community. MIA also serves as giving the youth a place to belong and feel accepted.

I have a passion for seeking knowledge and have been for many years under some of Sydney’s well known and respected Imams and teachers. I am currently on my 4th year and final semester in completing a Bachelor of Arts in Islamic Studies through the International Open University (IOU).

I am a qualified and insured counsellor and registered with the ACA - Australian Counselling Association. I have a dedicated private practice in Liverpool, NSW and my focus as a counsellor is to help my clients reach their potential and support them to transform personal challenges into life enhancing opportunities. This is achieved by providing a neutral, confidential, non-judgemental safe space, listening to their concerns and customising a therapeutic plan that suits their situation.

I am trained in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy (level 2) and have a passion in working with couples improve their relationship. I blend my methods to tailor for my client’s needs, whether it be one maintenance session you require or an in-depth therapy catered for your needs, marriage is something worth investing in.