Fiona Dundas Relationship Counselling Mansfield

28/04/2020

This post appeared on my personal FB page. It was not written by me however l believe it is an important message to reflect on at this time.
Here it is....

After listening to some pretty harsh comments & arguing over reopening or completely shutting down for another two weeks, someone in their right mind wrote this.

Don’t know who wrote it, but it’s spot on.

Perspective:

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT ...
I heard that we are all in the same boat, but it's not like that. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be. Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal. A moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.

For some that live alone they're facing endless loneliness. While for others it is peace, rest & time with their mother, father, sons & daughters.

With the $600 weekly increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working. Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.

Some families of 4 just received $3400 from the stimulus while other families of 4 saw $0.

Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter while others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.

Some want to go back to work because they don't qualify for unemployment and are running out of money. Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.

Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling while others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.

Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it. Others don't believe this is a big deal.

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020. Others say the worst is yet to come.

So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance. Not just looking, actually seeing.

We are all on different ships during this storm experiencing a very different journey.

Realize that and be kind.

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11/04/2020

Hi I hope you are all going well and coping with the physical and social restrictions. Not being able to hug the loved ones that don't live with us is really hard but thank goodness for social media. The social, emotional and financial turmoil of Covid-19 is a challenge impacting many. Talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner or special person is so very crucial at this time. There are many amazing helplines and support out there. Please don't feel alone when there is someone just a phone call away.

I am working online at the moment and happy to help or recommend a variety of resources if you are unable to attend relationship counselling at this time. Feel free to make a time to chat about what kind of support is best for you.
Take care of yourself and the ones you love. Fiona

22/03/2020

"To see and to be seen. That is the truest nature of love."

20/03/2020

Are you a blamer, too?

Watch this short video from Brene Brown to find out!

https://youtu.be/RZWf2_2L2v8

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker ...

19/03/2020

Not sure how you tell your partner that you want relationship counselling?

Seeking professional help with relationship issues isn't just for married couples—so if you think it could be right for you and your partner, here's how to talk about it.

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/epgbkn/how-do-i-tell-my-boyfriend-girlfriend-partner-i-want-to-go-to-couples-therapy

I also offer counselling to individuals who can't attend a couples sessions for any reason.

Counselling can help you to develop insight into your sense of self and your relationships. Any growth you experience as an individual will create changes in your relationship and can support you to address any difficulties you might be facing.

Get in touch to book an appointment today.

Seeking professional help with relationship issues isn't just for married couples—so if you think it could be right for you and your partner, here's how to talk about it.

17/03/2020

Dr. John Gottman calls these 4 negative communication styles the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse when it comes to your relationship:

- Criticism
- Contempt
- Defensiveness
- Stonewalling

You can practice the four research-based antidotes in this short video to improve you relationship.

https://youtu.be/1o30Ps-_8is

Certain negative communication styles are so lethal to a relationship that Dr. John Gottman calls them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. They predict rela...

17/03/2020

Happy St. Patrick's Day, everyone!

"May your pockets be heavy and your heart be light. May good luck pursue you each morning and night." - Irish Saying

16/03/2020

It's Monday!

Be who you are and say what you feel.

15/03/2020

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” - Brené Brown

12/03/2020

Here are 5 essential things to do together as a couple to grow a healthy relationship that thrives for years.

1. Establish trust
2. Be fully present
3. Listen intuitively
4. Practice forgiveness
5. Accept your partner for who they are

Sometimes one, or both of us, might need a little help achieving these 5 things in a relationship - that's where I can come in so get in touch to find out more.

https://www.yourtango.com/experts/janelle-anderson/things-for-couples-to-do-together-grow-healthy-relationships

10/03/2020

The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments.

This short video shows you how.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ib7Ain2aVR0

The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments. This video shows you how. As relation...

08/03/2020

Happy International Women's Day!

An equal world is an enabled world.

Individually, we're all responsible for our own thoughts and actions - all day, every day.

We can actively choose to challenge stereotypes, fight bias, broaden perceptions, improve situations and celebrate women's achievements.

Collectively, each one of us can help create a gender-equal world.

Let's all be

https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Theme